Relationships don't come easy. They appear in various types and circumstances and in different times and combinations. However any relationship turn out to be, it has the unique characteristic of have trying times and need to be worked on continuously like a husband man grows his vineyard. That been said, there are some relationships that aren't worth the stress. Its not about the concept of "relationship" but the people that constitute that relationship. Therefore, the earlier the better you dump your partners ass if:
1. Everything begins and ends with him/her: Many people are so self-centred and they don't even no it. When a partner makes an effort in whichever way, it’s nice to get something in return. If you find yourself giving and getting nothing in return, it’s time to give the relationship the boot.
2. There's constant missing support: Presence (or absence) of things such as being there for one another, standing by each other, supporting one another and so on can either make or break a relationship. And if you find out that it had broken you more than it has mended you, it’s time to look beyond your relationship.
3. Your partner tells too much LIES: Lies are bad for relationships...and whatever necessitates him/her to lie in the relationship means honesty is gradually becoming a myth between you and your partner. If lies become a big part of maintaining peace in your relationship, it’s not a relationship in the first place.
4. Your partner can't do the Small Things: All relationships take time and effort, but, if things that should come naturally such as seeing your partner, going out together to spend time, then there’s a real problem there. Some attributes of affection should be poured in through actions and if this is missing...its better to start looking beyond the relationship.
5. Too much is been swept under the carpet: Some actions determine the future and health of a relationship; one is ability to resolve conflicts. While many may think sweeping issues under the carpet is better than resolving the cause of agitation, there would come a time when all that is swept under the carpet would be unveiled and then much more pain would come from it. If your partner prefers to dodge than resolving matters, then you need know your relationship would sometime "blow up" over your face and its better you move on before then.
Your playing small does not serve the world. You don't shrink yourself so others won't feel insecure around you. You need make sure your relationship is an advantage to your life.
Sometimes you see the signs but emotions get the better of us ,you'll rather stay in a non surpportive relationship than move on or "dump her ass"
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