Simple Relationship Guide

• There is no such thing as a model relationship. Every relationship is unique. What works for you may not work for another.

• Some men are lazy around the house. Some men are hardworking and helpful; they hate to stress their wives. Most women will pray for the latter but forget that helpful or not, most men have their own ways of showing love and care. Respect counts.

• Marriage is for better, for worse; i.e. it is a lifetime contract. So if your wife becomes fat (from having your children) or she turns out to be dirty or lazy or displays any other habit you detest, it's no reason to hit her, cheat on her or kill her!

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance.

• Your new woman or man may be worse. (This happens very often). So you'll keep on divorcing & remarrying? Marriage is about making the most of who/what you have. Remember: The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.

• Looking for whom to settle down with? Choose someone who makes you smile & laugh; someone who makes you happy without even trying. But first, remember there is only one person you spend your whole life with, and that is yourself. If you aren't ok with you, there is an issue.

• Make time to discover yourselves. Don't marry because of a pregnancy; marry because you know that you can tolerate your lover.

• Love is important but not enough. Always remember P.E.T: they will help you through the tough times and you'll enjoy the good too!

• When children arrive,make them a common hobby. You both must enjoy spending time with them. They are very important in your life.

• If the children don't come,spoil each other silly. When you are both happy,other things fall in place. You may adopt or help others.

• When you both truly care about and respect each other, your marriage will work. Be considerate of your partner's feelings always.

• Don't keep "all" your relationship issues and problems to yourselves. "Some" issues require a third party. Contrary to public opinion, share with someone you respect. 'All' and 'some' are the key words here.
***Note that"a third party" could be your own offspring. Some children are way wiser than their parents. You'd be amazed at the advice.

• Never,Ever,Ever,Ever quit your marriage (unless for attempted murder which may still be fixed depending on the situation though).
If you ever once truly loved each other (not fondness, deep care or great respect); you can rekindle the romance. Don't give up!

• Sometimes, it's best to wait out a cheating partner. Someday, he/she will be back. Not all lost sheep get eaten up. Some lost sheep sometimes find their way back home ...but they come back dirty, smelly and with the sense of the wild. Its then your choice if you still want him/her or not.

• Good friends are necessary to keep your sanity. Marriage can be frustrating sometimes, so go have some fun without your partner.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE ISN'T MARRIAGE BUT PURPOSE.

"Arguments" in Relationships

Why do people argue at all? Guess it's to express personal opinion(s) and position. Millions of arguments on the surface of the earth are not necessary. Yes, we are all free moral agents ridden with individual points of view; however, resorting to arguments has become a second nature for people. 

If humans are that prone to arguments, how much more two people in a relationship. It is expected that couples would sometimes argue and be at logger heads.

 

However, there are some little things that you can and should let go even though you might be right. Most times, preventing a clumsy argument is smarter than winning it. Just like the proverb says "Wiser is the man that prevented a war than he that prepared for it." A country cannot simultaneously prepare and prevent war. Its impossible to bring peace when you have your mind ready for war. So is it with you relationship. 

Always try to take note of the feeling of peace inner your mind when all is at rest. That would help you identify what you are gunning for you are at the cross road of choosing between peace and argument.

 

An unjust peace is always better than a just war. And if you must go to "war" in your relationship, endeavour as best as you can to reduce the "fatality"!!

Don't say these during a Relationship Fight

It is a norm for disagreements to pop up in human interpersonal interactions. Relationships consisting of two individuals trying to jointly navigate the course of life are more prone to such disagreements, arguments or disputes. Everyone knows relationships have their moments and seasonal ‘fights’ aren’t rare. During this ‘fights’ or discords, there are some things not to be uttered.

1. “It is your fault”. Passing blames during disputes is a very common act people engage in which is rational but ought to be avoided. This shifts attention away from the issue and problem at hand pours blame to the individual supposedly at fault.

2. “This is the same thing you did last time”. Recounting past faults always generates an accusing tone and makes the other person turn on a defensive mode. This leads further away from the solution. The best way forward is getting a solution and recounting what someone has or should have done isn’t close to the solution.

3. “You are a jerk/coward”. Aggravated anger can push people to utter unnecessary words. Name calling and trashing words aren’t to be used whatever the disagreement might have been. If indeed you feel better after saying them, then you relationship had already been watery afore time. As much have you have control of your senses and body organs, avoid name calling.

4. “I want a breakup/divorce”. Here’s a policy to live by; whatever the fight may be about, never breakup or separate during a fight. If you must go separate ways, settle the fight, and then make the decision whether or not to continue with clear head. Do not even mention it…say it has an immediate damage that lingers for long even if you two eventually settle without a breakup.

5. “You just like your family”. Many people relate the offender to his/her family members which is dead wrong. You know whatever you know about your partner’s family because of the trust bestowed on you. You shouldn’t exploit that trust not matter the wrong done. More importantly, he/she might forgive your attack and harsh words of rebuke to him/her but would always remember you attack on his family. That becomes what would be registers as your view of his/her family.  

She stabbed her fiance after disagreement over wedding colours

"Richland County deputies say a 34-year-old woman stabbed her fiancé on Christmas Day after they argued over what colors should be used in their wedding.

Investigators say the man was trying to leave a home near Blythewood after the argument when Krysta James attacked him around 8:30 p.m. Wednesday. Deputies say the man was stabbed in the upper body, but his injuries weren't life-threatening.

James is charged with criminal domestic violence of a high and aggravated nature. She remains in jail on a $10,000 bond, and it isn't known if she has an attorney."

 

Thought:

I do not think this two should be getting married. If at all, not any soon; they don't seem to "familiar".

Did he really know the lady he was about getting married to?

Did he know her limits?

Probably he did something that set her  off that's not mention... but what could set-off "temporary insanity" against your supposed "lovebird"?

Marriage indeed needs to be carefully considered.