You May Not Know - Simply Upgrading Your View of Love Changes Your Capacity for It

The latest science offers new lenses through which to see your every interaction. People have been interviewed, and they shared incredibly moving stories about how they used small-moments of connection to make dramatic turnarounds in their personal and work lives. One of the most hopeful things you should learn is that when people take just a minute or so each day to think about whether they felt connected and attuned to others, they initiate a cascade of benefits. And this is something you could start doing today, having learned even just this much more about how love works.

Everyone is different. This doesn't make anyone better or worse than anyone else. If you want to love someone, you need to take them for everything that they are, good and bad. Realize that none of those traits may be permanent and that if you want them to change, you have to help them want that change for themselves. Give them the tools they need to make the change. They aren't yours to mold into your personal statue of perfection.

That's Simply the Woman Phenomenon

A woman is like an incubator;

she takes in whatever you give her, multiplies it and gives you something more.

You give her sperm, she multiplies it and gives you a baby

You give her a house, she multiplies it and gives you a home

You give her a word, she multiplies it and gives you a sentence

You give her groceries, she multiplies it and gives you a meal.

You give her frustration, she multiplies it and gives you hell.

That's just the phenomenon of a real woman.

Reasons to be HAPPY (if) you are SINGLE

It has become an unstated societal requirement to be in a relationship at one point or the other, while people that are single – relationship wise – are been taking to be incomplete or missing some quantities of happiness. But this notion is wrong, because many people in relationships now were better off without. Not all stages of relationships are rosy, smooth and desirable. If you are single, here are reasons you might be at higher advantage to many people in relationships.  

1. Hanging out with friends brings no drama: You don’t need to worry about the preference of a partner when about relaxing with friends. You are free to spend as much time with them because you aren’t depriving anyone of spending time with you.

2. Pursue of personal happiness: You can go for whatever would make you happy and fulfilled without been unfair to a partner. Been in a relationship without readiness to split this freedom in half is only unfair to your spouse.

3. Career can come first: Yes, for people that want to bury in libraries and research laboratories, single life is the way to go. It’s only unfair to keep someone waiting for you when you don’t have the intention of been there. You want to travel here and there, change residence often according to career opportunities? Then be single till you done.

4. Frolicking around: Stay single if you want to keep romping and playing around the opposite sex. When you’ve satisfactorily had enough, then you can venture into relationships. You don’t need hurt someone when you know you are not ready to be committed and faithful. Relationships aren’t “by force”.  

5. Travel around frequently: There are some people who are very adventurous in nature and love to travel around for months to years without returning to where others may call ‘home’. A baggage you don’t need to carry around is “relationship” especially if the person you are considering for ‘partner’ doesn’t love that lifestyle. 

6. Not ready to change your lifestyle: If you do love every single routine of your life and you are not ready to have any alterations to it, perhaps you better stay single because when you have another person in your life, many things would change from your dinner time to the eventual selection of movie you watch. Unless you're ready to make some big compromises, relationship is not for you.

7. Love brings some pains: That is the bitter truth; take it or leave it. This pain eventual might result to sweetness. Love takes high risks and brings high rewards. Have you heard of people getting heartbroken? It’s because they loved some who didn’t reciprocate. You can surely stay clear the pain by staying off the relationship.

8. Relationships take money: It’s true real love doesn’t cost money but keeping the love-relationship going requires money. It’s not compulsory, but it’s very necessary. You need money to do some things as actions of love. If you are single, you can get along with little but not when you have someone you love and you are frequently obliged to show love.

9. Unlimited "me" time: Only a single life can guarantee you to have as much “time alone” that you desire. It’s unfair to claim to be in a relationship with someone and you are always aloof.

10. Just doesn’t work: When relationships doesn’t just turn out well and you can’t point to the reason. Some say it’s probably not just for you. Perhaps you need to stay single for a while and get some self-insights and understanding. Then you can change if something needs to be changed.

Did You Smile Today?

Life has many good and not so nice incidents in the same jar. It is rather very easy to get fixed on the "not so nice" occurrences in a day and miss the beauties. Sometimes it's hard to find a reason to smile, but we've got always got one or can't look for! From laughing babies to jokes of the old men, you can smile.
Please smile when you can.

Life Counsels: Rich vs Poor

Many people are of the perception that for a community to be balanced there must be “the rich and the poor”. There should be some to call the shots and others to follow the instructions. It has been so for centuries and can be said to be as old evolution. 

It is true everyone can’t be equally rich or have the same strength of voice, but the rich and poor syndrome is increasingly causing greater destruction to the “humanness of mankind”. Mankind has always had some “reflex rules” that from memorial governs her lifestyle – making us different from (lower) animals. These tenets and codes are noticed in our actions, verbal communications, aspirations and achievements.  

Nowadays, self-centeredness, jealousy, hatred, addiction to power, psychological segregation and individual goals has made us less humane. By the observation of our daily life, it is plainly noticeable that the exclusive traits that made us desirable human beings are fading away. 

•The evil imaginations of man against fellow men are increasingly evil. 

•Our moral and ethical judgments are gradually been reduced to suite our unpleasant desires.

•Genuine social interactions are continuously scare and replaced by personal objectives.

•Humans now increasingly kill for sports, entertainment, greed and personal gains. 

•Science, urbanizations, politics and career are infecting the decency of humanity in a big way; they increase the “rich and poor” segregation.

This isn’t about the availability of more resources to some sect than the other but psychological degradation it is causing the humanity. It breeds negative effects from both the rich and the poor. 

BOTTOM LINE…whether you become rich or you are poor, remember to remain human.   

Secrets to a truly joyful life Day Six

Do you feel the need to inject some joy into your life? Different disheartening circumstances keep popping up at you, nearly making you feel like everything evil in life wants to associate with you? Then grab some happiness for yourself.

Be Playful Get comfortable with being silly and a little crazy. Say whatever comes to your mind-as long as you’re not offending anyone, do and say whatever you feel! Imagine you’re a child again and just be playful and carefree. Sing, dance, skip and laugh for no reason. Laugh until your tummy starts to ache. Do what feels good and just enjoy yourself.

Learning from your bad dating experience

A renowned sportsman got entangled with an immoral dealing which was inconsistent with his global status. He realized in good time that to get back to his hitherto elevated position, he needed a large dose of self-discipline, determination and self- denial. These done, he rode back to the prime position, refusing as it were, to be dwarfed by the jeers and ridicule of others.

There's gold in the bad experiences. Many relationships have made people laughing stocks in the society simply because the relationship started on the wrong foot. Realizing a bad relationship is a bad relationship, and the need to rise above the tempest which the relationship has brought to your life despite the ridicule takes strength. You can get your pride back after a bad relationship. How?

1. First, you need to allow yourself acknowledge you were hurt due to the break up. Understand it is okay to be sad and express some emotions of pain like crying, talk to a friend, pray to your creator... When you do this, it’s like you are releasing the feeling instead of bottling it in you.
2. Next step is for you to be aware of what you want in life and also in your relationship. Paint the picture of nature of person you are willing to allow into your life and how you want your relationship to turn out. Picking up the map would further psychologically certify how true it is that you have indeed strayed way in your former relationship.
3. Furthermore, you have to realise you are accountable for how others treat you. When you treat yourself good, people would have no choice but do the same. Some people put themselves in bad relationships and expect to be treated right. If you love and treasure yourself, you cannot commit yourself to someone that doesn’t give you time, respect, affection and reciprocal commitment. Love yourself in action and not just in words or thought.
4. Then you take responsibility for your roll and actions in failure of your last relationship. It’s not about blaming or judging yourself. It is about you been honest about your reasons for accepting the actions you agonized during your last relationship. This would help you avert anything like it in future.
5. Now you can get up and continue living your life; NOT scouting for a new partner! Life would bring that to you. Engage in other activities, enjoy your own company, help other people and create a mental, physical and social balance to your life gradually.

Always remember ‘intimate relationship’ is only a piece of the puzzle in your life. There’s so much more to you than your relationship; therefore, your relationship shouldn't derail you off purpose. 

Secrets to a truly joyful life Day Five

Do you feel the need to inject some joy into your life? Different unfair circumstances in life popping up at you in life and you feel it’s like everything evil in life just wants to associate with you? Then grab some happiness for yourself.

Practice Giving More and Expecting Less Giving more and expecting less does not necessarily mean you give material things.

Sometimes giving is in the form of time, attention and love. You can give your time to your spouse, children and other friends and family or lend an ear to someone who needs to be listened to. Maybe you have knowledge that you can share-that is giving. If you have food, give to the needy and if not, volunteer somewhere. Give a kind word or pray for someone-those are also forms of giving.

Secrets to a truly joyful life Day Two

Do you feel the need to inject some joy into your life? Different unfair circumstances in life popping up at you in life and you feel it’s like everything evil in life just wants to associate with you? Then grab some happiness for yourself.

Practice Letting Go Just for today, let go of anything that is toxic to you; let go of toxic thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Abandon your need to go after that goal or deadline. Let go of needing people to like you or agree with you and let go of blaming and judging others. Just for this day, be content with everything as it is.

Secrets to a truly joyful life Day One

Do you feel the need to inject some joy into your life? Different unfair circumstances in life popping up at you in life and you feel it’s like everything evil in life just wants to associate with you? Then grab some happiness for yourself.

Practice Tolerance and Acceptance Pay attention to irritating things and people and then shift your approach and perspective towards them.

Rather than get upset that things are not going your way or people are not behaving the way you believe they should, just accept them as they are. Don’t try to change anything or anyone; accept them completely as they are.