Reasons to be HAPPY (if) you are SINGLE

It has become an unstated societal requirement to be in a relationship at one point or the other, while people that are single – relationship wise – are been taking to be incomplete or missing some quantities of happiness. But this notion is wrong, because many people in relationships now were better off without. Not all stages of relationships are rosy, smooth and desirable. If you are single, here are reasons you might be at higher advantage to many people in relationships.  

1. Hanging out with friends brings no drama: You don’t need to worry about the preference of a partner when about relaxing with friends. You are free to spend as much time with them because you aren’t depriving anyone of spending time with you.

2. Pursue of personal happiness: You can go for whatever would make you happy and fulfilled without been unfair to a partner. Been in a relationship without readiness to split this freedom in half is only unfair to your spouse.

3. Career can come first: Yes, for people that want to bury in libraries and research laboratories, single life is the way to go. It’s only unfair to keep someone waiting for you when you don’t have the intention of been there. You want to travel here and there, change residence often according to career opportunities? Then be single till you done.

4. Frolicking around: Stay single if you want to keep romping and playing around the opposite sex. When you’ve satisfactorily had enough, then you can venture into relationships. You don’t need hurt someone when you know you are not ready to be committed and faithful. Relationships aren’t “by force”.  

5. Travel around frequently: There are some people who are very adventurous in nature and love to travel around for months to years without returning to where others may call ‘home’. A baggage you don’t need to carry around is “relationship” especially if the person you are considering for ‘partner’ doesn’t love that lifestyle. 

6. Not ready to change your lifestyle: If you do love every single routine of your life and you are not ready to have any alterations to it, perhaps you better stay single because when you have another person in your life, many things would change from your dinner time to the eventual selection of movie you watch. Unless you're ready to make some big compromises, relationship is not for you.

7. Love brings some pains: That is the bitter truth; take it or leave it. This pain eventual might result to sweetness. Love takes high risks and brings high rewards. Have you heard of people getting heartbroken? It’s because they loved some who didn’t reciprocate. You can surely stay clear the pain by staying off the relationship.

8. Relationships take money: It’s true real love doesn’t cost money but keeping the love-relationship going requires money. It’s not compulsory, but it’s very necessary. You need money to do some things as actions of love. If you are single, you can get along with little but not when you have someone you love and you are frequently obliged to show love.

9. Unlimited "me" time: Only a single life can guarantee you to have as much “time alone” that you desire. It’s unfair to claim to be in a relationship with someone and you are always aloof.

10. Just doesn’t work: When relationships doesn’t just turn out well and you can’t point to the reason. Some say it’s probably not just for you. Perhaps you need to stay single for a while and get some self-insights and understanding. Then you can change if something needs to be changed.

Dump your partner's "ass" NOW if:

Relationships don't come easy. They appear in various types and circumstances and in different times and combinations. However any relationship turn out to be, it has the unique characteristic of have trying times and need to be worked on continuously like a husband man grows his vineyard. That been said, there are some relationships that aren't worth the stress. Its not about the concept of "relationship" but the people that constitute that relationship. Therefore, the earlier the better you dump your partners ass if: 

1. Everything begins and ends with him/her: Many people are so self-centred and they don't even no it. When a partner makes an effort in whichever way, it’s nice to get something in return. If you find yourself giving and getting nothing in return, it’s time to give the relationship the boot.

2. There's constant missing support: Presence (or absence) of things such as being there for one another, standing by each other, supporting one another and so on can either make or break a relationship. And if you find out that it had broken you more than it has mended you, it’s time to look beyond your relationship.

3. Your partner tells too much LIES: Lies are bad for relationships...and whatever necessitates him/her to lie in the relationship means honesty is gradually becoming a myth between you and your partner. If lies become a big part of maintaining peace in your relationship, it’s not a relationship in the first place.

4. Your partner can't do the Small Things: All relationships take time and effort, but, if things that should come naturally such as seeing your partner, going out together to spend time, then there’s a real problem there. Some attributes of affection should be poured in through actions and if this is missing...its better to start looking beyond the relationship.

5. Too much is been swept under the carpet: Some actions determine the future and health of a relationship; one is ability to resolve conflicts. While many may think sweeping issues under the carpet is better than resolving the cause of agitation, there would come a time when all that is swept under the carpet would be unveiled and then much more pain would come from it. If your partner prefers to dodge than resolving matters, then you need know your relationship would sometime "blow up" over your face and its better you move on before then. 

Your playing small does not serve the world. You don't shrink yourself so others won't feel insecure around you. You need make sure your relationship is an advantage to your life.

Suspicions that kill a relationship

Suspicions come due do lack of trust for the partner and trust is most important for any relationship. Constant suspicion of your partner's activities and moves surely has the ability to crash your relationship in the most cruel manner.

Some people confuse suspicion with being insecure; however, suspicion and insecurity are two different habits. "Excess of everything is bad"; the same holds true for suspecting your partner all the time. If I see my partner being cozy with another girl and I feel jealous, that is insecurity; whereas, checking his log, keeping an eye on him all day and night is suspicion.

Everyone wants to be informed about their partner's moves; but its noteworthy that being overtly possessive most often turn out to be the deadliest wrecker that can even break a relationship.

Suspicion makes your partner feel like "a victim of the relationship". Remember everyone needs space and time alone sometimes; reacting to this standard requirement with signs of suspicions is uncalled for and painful to the 'wrongly suspected' partner.

"I have been through it. My wife's ex was a cheat and now she is very suspicious. My life is hell because of that. A while back, my call log was not getting updated due to some reason and my wife was suspicious that I am having an affair, and thought I therefore delete the call log so that she does not come to know. How frustrating it is to be blamed of things which you have not done. We had a fight for two days till I could prove to her the fault in my mobile. Such incidents are killing my love for her which she will never realise."

An old man once said "believe all things you're been told" - until you have real prove to believe otherwise. Don't go about searching for proofs your partner is cheating because you might just be searching for something that isn't existing. Help yourself by;
•Sit down and outline your underlying reason(s) you do not trust your partner.
•Reduce checking up on your partner and seeking reassurance.
•Openly discuss whatever suspicious notions/activities that are bothering you.
•Always remember to give others benefit of doubt.
•For as much as you can, stop using past unfavourable situations to forecast the present and future.

Suspicion is the worst thing to ever happen in a relationship. It kills the relation like slow poison.

You get scared so much of loving someone too much and you miss out on true love by trust, then you just missed out on the best part of living.

Quite funny: Married Two Weeks....I say "oops"

A couple had only been married for two weeks and the husband although very much in love, couldn't wait to go out on the town and party with his old buddies.

So, he said to his new wife, "Honey, I'll be right back."

"Where are you going, Coochy Coo?" asked the wife.

"I'm going to the bar, Pretty Face," he answered. I'm going to have a beer."

The wife said, "You want a beer, my love?" She opened the door to the refrigerator and showed him 25 different kinds of beer, brands from 12 different countries: Germany , Holland , Japan , India , etc

The husband didn't know what to do, and the only thing that he could think of saying was, "Yes, Lollipop... but at the bar... You know...they have frozen glasses... "

He didn't get to finish the sentence, because the wife interrupted him by saying, "You want a frozen glass, Puppy Face?" She took a huge beer mug out of the freezer, so frozen that she was getting chills just holding it.

The husband, looking a bit pale, said, "Yes, Tootsie Roll, but at the bar they have those hors d'oeuvres that are really delicious... I won't be long. I'll be right back. I promise. OK?"

"You want hors d'oeuvres, Poochie Pooh?" She opened the oven and took out 5 dishes of different hors d'oeuvres: chicken wings, pigs in blankets, mushroom caps, and little quiches.

"But my sweet honey... at the bar.... you know there's swearing, dirty words and all that..."

"You want dirty words, Cutie Pie? LISTEN UP CHICKEN $#!*! SIT YOUR ASS DOWN, SHUT THE HELL UP, DRINK YOUR BEER IN YOUR FROZEN MUG AND EAT YOUR HORS D'OEUVRES BECAUSE YOUR MARRIED ASS ISN'T GOING TO A DAMNED BAR! THAT $#!* IS OVER, GOT IT, JACKASS?"

Life counsel: You need to calm down!

Life is too short for anyone to get "extremely hyper and frustrated". Have you properly analyzed how things change? Despite the recognition and importance give to a thing, haven't you noticed life continues even without it? Hey, remember that person you thought you couldn't live without? Well, look at you, living and good options are still flowing your way.

The human mind is used to responding fast to situations and circumstances by going into overdrive; however, when you gain you consciousness, here are some control tips.  

She looks calm...right??

1. Massage. The magic behind a quality massage just never goes out of vogue. It helps the rich and the poor; young, old and even infants! Its gets your frustrations out of the way and calms your nerves down. Your body relaxes as the stresses get pressed out of your back, neck, legs and feet.

2. Yoga. You thinking of balancing your body, strength and flexibility from your mind? Think yoga. Its is a calming exercise that moves you from one position to another. Its helps you work on you mentally and physically.

3. Meditation. Ancient fathers used this to calm their mind and bring out positive energy. This world need more or positive energy...negativity kills. While meditating, you focus on breathing and thinking calming thoughts. 

4. Aromatherapy. Aromas can put butterflies in your tummy! Blessed is the lady that knows this! Its a tool for calming nerves and relaxing. It improves moods! 

5. Rest. Most times, all we need to feel calm is a good night’s rest. The body and muscles need rest and they deserve it after serving you so much. Don't be unfair; give it to them! Adequate nap helps thinking more clearly and decisive decision making plus problems solving as they arrive.

Taking a nap and or bath can help treat mental & physical fatigue. It's like hitting a reset button on your body. Energy drinks can actually cause cavities, headaches, miscarriages, and possibly death. 

Sometimes all we need to feel calm is a good night’s rest.

 

You need some time AWAY from that person you LOVE

Are you worried when your spouse spends some time away from you? Don’t be! Alone time is one of the healthiest times for a genuine relationship to grow. Yes, you read that right! Two people in a relationship spending time apart gives each one the time and space to decompress, think clearly, be secured with their personal  identity outside of the relationship and importantly grow massive trust for each other. You definitely should want your partner to have some time apart and alone to him/herself. This also gives you the opportunity to retreat and think about your relationship while relaxing alone to yourself.

• When you live away from someone you love dearly for some time, you two are still thinking and missing each other, that absence makes the heart grow fonder of your partner/spouse.
• During your time alone, if true love exists in your heart, there would be some things you’ll come up with to do or say when you finally see your partner. These ‘new additives’ reignite the attraction between you and your spouse. This ‘new additives’ might be a new cooking recipe, boosted self-esteem, sweet pet name or adjusting an old bad habit you noticed while alone.
• Restore the ‘fairylike relationship’ you and your partner wished to have after spend time apart and think of how it started and what has changed. By this you can re-live some of the mysterious excitement you had at the early days of your relationship. Now when he comes to pick you up for a date after not seeing you for a few days or couple of weeks, you’ll blow each other’s mind away like you used to. You both would once again be dazzled by how you get yourselves looking pretty.
• Many are times when individuals have been doing things their spouse’s way (or I’ll say the most modest way in order not to alienate your partner), but during that time, you can revisit the awkward way you do things and even do gross things only you can tolerate.
• Time apart helps to avoid the silly fights that are as a result of being with someone every second of the most part of the day and week. Under ordinary circumstances you don’t mind the way he forgets to change the toilet paper, return the toothpaste cap or put his wet towel in the laundry basket, but now that he’s done it the last 31 days in a row! That must be on your last nerve. Your annoyance could turn into a passive-aggressive argument and soon snowball into a huge fight that could have been easily avoided by a weekend off at the 14th day.

No matter how long you’ve been together, 10 months or 10 years, time apart prevent been suffocated from each other. Many relationships (and marriages) have been broken because they were negligent of the secret behind the "time apart". They thought they couldn’t stand each other whereas they only needed time to decompress and re-love. That why a while after some divorcee meet each other, they feel the love they had and wondered what happened to them. Those arguments and thoughts were been bottled for too long.

Long relationships need time apart, time to recess, time to re-evaluate.

If you think ‘time apart’ would make your spouse ‘have a thing’ or run-off with another person, then you never really had him/her.

You need some time away from that person you love but DO NOT induce the time alone with a fight!!!