The Wife

About Wife:

When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
~By Lee Majors

 

After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
~By Al Gore

By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
~By Socrates

Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
~By Mike Tyson

 

The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?
~By George Clooney

I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
~By Bill Clinton

"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays."
~By George W. Bush

 

"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."
~By Rudy Giuliani

"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
~By Michael Jordan

"I've had bad luck with all my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn’t.” The third gave me more children!

~By Donald Trump

Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
~By Shaquille O’Neal

The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once...
~By Kobe Bryant

You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
By David Hasselhoff

My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
~By Alec Baldwin

A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
~By Milton Berle

 

Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy.
~ByTommy Lee

A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
~By Brad Pitt

First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second Guy : "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
~ ByJimmy Kimmel

 

“Honey, what happened to ‘ladies first’?” Husband replies, “That’s the reason why the world’s a mess today, because a lady went first!”
~By David Letterman

 

“First there’s the promise ring, then the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...soon after....comes Suffe r..ing!
~By Jay Leno

JUST FOR LAUGHs and some wisdom

Smiles and Laughter's role in LOVE

When you smile at another person they will almost always return the smile, which causes positive feelings in both you and them, because of cause and effect. Studies prove that most encounters will run more smoothly, last longer, have more positive outcomes and dramatically improve relationships when you make a point of regularly smiling and laughing to the point where it becomes a habit.

Simply put, the more he can make her laugh, the more attractive she will find him. This is because the ability to make others laugh is perceived as a dominant trait and women prefer dominant males, while males prefer subordinate females.
Studies show that women lough at men they're attracted to, and men are attracted to women who laugh at them

Evidence shows conclusively that smiles and laughter build the immune system, defend the body against illness and disease, medicate the body, sell ideas, teach better, attract more friends and extend life.

Humour heals.

Hard Relationships can Survive

Relationships are not always rosy. You may have some bitter moons. There are several situations in relationship that you can’t even describe in writing. Relationships can be confusing at times.

Lots of relationships collapse during the harsh seasons of building a family. But most relationships that are meant to be and diligently guarded last. Not everyone gives up. Not every relationship splits. They are strong. I believe yours is (can be) too! Strong Relationships have ingredients.

Consistent Communication, Patience, Faithfulness, Selflessness, Cooperation, Forgiveness, Respect, Understanding and consideration, Gratefulness, Contentment, Positive thinking and anticipation for a coexisting future.

These among others make up a promising relationship. Now that you them, go have a take at happy relationship.

Genevieve Nnaji's Explanation for been single..

If we may, let's take a cue from Genevieve Nnaji who is yet to get married and explains what her
“As for marriage, it’s every woman’s dream to get married. We can’t lie to ourselves. I do want to get married but overtime I have had opportunities to get married but I realize getting married is not actually the problem. The problem is finding someone you are compatible with because I’m born Catholic, I’m raised Catholic, I don’t believe in divorce. If I get married, I really want to stay married and staying married is not an easy thing. It means you are completely in tune with your partner. It means you’ve found your soul mate because you’ll have to be able to stand a lot of disappointments that would definitely come but then again you have to learn to forgive.

For me, before I choose a partner I have to ask myself if this is the kind of person I would be willing to forgive no matter what when the time comes. If the answer is no, then that person is wrong for me. That person is not the person you want to get married to. If you know you can look into someone’s eyes and say yes, this is the most you can do to me. If you actually cheat on me the first time, I can find it in my heart to forgive you. If you can answer that question honestly and truthfully to yourself then you’ll know if that person is your partner or not. So compatibility is the word aside from the physical attributes that have to go with it.

I need to be comfortable because I’m a woman and I’m used to a certain lifestyle.”

criteria are for choosing her right partner, She said:

DON'T be SUSPICIOUS

Suspicion creates a form of doubt and negative image of the person that is suspected. It breeds worry and fear even if it lack an element of truth. When you become suspicious, it will affect the trust level of your relationship. Suspicions suck out the life and fun in a relationship. Many people have been wrongly blamed just because a previous suspicious act was not properly discussed. Don't create an avenue to be suspected rather discuss any issues that can lead to suspicion. Be open in discussion and avoid secrecy. It's that simple.

DO NOT dwell on RESIDUAL knowledge

A lot of us usually believe we have what it takes to handle our relationship in terms of knowledge and wisdom. But we often dwell on our residual knowledge and this will not help us. For us to experience bliss in our relationship, we have carefully outline this mistake in order to avoid it. We need more experiences and ideas from people who have practical and proven knowledge about relationships. Read books, attend seminars and listen to educative programs. This will equip you with the knowledge to handle your relationship.

 

Ask questions ...yes. But from reliable people and endeavor to provide the full context so your advisor would fully comprehend the situation.  

 

NEVER live a FALSE life

Many people live less than their true self by trying to be the perfect picture in other's frame just to please them. This will make them function less than their original self and regret it on the long run. A question to pounder on is "till when do you plan to keep up the lie"? Some lie about their finances, abilities and/or personality. This charade is purely dangerous and leads to a disastrous end emotionally and psychologically.  

Try to be yourself and live your best. It is better that you are accepted the way you are than to be accepted for who you are not. Don't make the mistake of living a false life, it shows you lack originality and stability.

Money in relationships

It is no secret that money has been the doom of many relationships. As the holy Bible says, “For the love of money is the root of all evil...” and another portion says “money answereth all things”.
Contradicting?? I doubt. Whether married or in a long-term relationship, improper handling or spending of money in a relationship has been the source of many arguments and conflicts of various gravity and inadequacy has robbed many relationship of fun and adventure in some cases or infliction of more problems in others.

Love is greater than money – at least that’s the way it should be. The mechanics of a healthy relationship should of course be love and passion, honesty and acceptance, communication and openness, friendship and attraction, compatibility and selflessness, faithfulness and respect, trust and the other good qualities you’re most likely listing in your mind as you read this. If we are both right, how come money had and has an extensive grip on most relationships?

The power and influence of money really transcends human’s primary conscious psychology. I mean we make many if not most actions with knowing it’s the money commanding and most times, the way we talk; our choice of words and manner of speaking is influenced.

Money doesn’t have to be the relationship wrecker if only we could

·         Freely talk about money

·         Handle money

·         Have right attitude towards money

·         And use money properly like it should be instead of it manipulating us.

For many, money creates fear, dishonesty and some other misbehavior because of how volatile it is.

Simple things can cause the biggest problems. Like?

1. Living above your earning isn’t a wise way to exist. It is necessary to be honest with yourself and then your partner/finance instead of been unrealistic...faking lifestyles. Never hide your debt because they might surface in the future of your relationship and look much uglier that when you made them.

2. Never attempt to get love with money. It cannot be overstated that money is volatile. If ever you make money the basis of your relationship, what would you do when it "goes"? Are you thinking now?

Yes money is important and can be used to express love. Ensure whoever wants you loves you for "YOU" and not basically because of your money.

Talking about money should be carefully approached and respectfully concluded.

Usually in a relationship, there is "plenty saver" and the "heavy spender". It isn’t wrong. However, when your partner overspends beyond your comfort level, it most definitely would scare you that you are gradually been dragged to a “breaking point”. This is when a sit down and re-evaluation is important.

Trust - Relationship Problem and Solutions That Can Save Your Relationship

Trust is a key part of a relationship. Do you see certain things that cause you not to trust your partner? Or do you have unresolved issues that prevent you from trusting others?

Problem-solving strategies

• First, be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs -- and will be able to figure them out without your asking -- is a Hollywood fantasy. "Ask for what you need directly”.

• Next, use humour -- learn to let things go and enjoy one another more.

• You and your partner can develop trust in each other by following these tips.

• Be consistent.

• Be on time.

• Do what you say you will do.

• Don't lie -- not even little white lies to your partner or to others.

• Be fair, even in an argument.

• Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree, but don't discount how your partner is feeling.

• Call when you say you will.

• Call to say you'll be home late.

• Carry your fair share of the workload.

• Don't overreact when things go wrong.

• Never say things you can't take back.

• Don't dig up old wounds.

• Respect your partner's boundaries.

• Don’t be jealous.

• Be a good listener.

• Even though there are always going to be problems in a relationship, you both can do things to minimize marriage problems, if not avoid them altogether.

Finally, be willing to work on your relationship and to truly look at what needs to be done. Don't think that things would be better with someone else. Unless you address problems, the same lack of skills that get in the way now will still be there and still cause problems no matter what relationship you're in.

Infatuation OR in-Fascination

Romantic attraction between two people could either be just a ‘deep fascination’ or ‘fervent love’. There’s a difference between these two and before moving forward to take any action regards the “attraction”, proper discerning should be done. Though, both love and passion are strong feelings for another person, they are very often confused with each other. Basically, love is permanent while mere passion/fascination is temporary. Also love goes through bitter, trying and painful moments; mere fascination on the other hand is retained because it seems sweet, sweet and sweet – no real trail of commitment.  Take a look at these five differentiations between the two feelings - passion/fascination/infatuation one hand and genuine permanent love on the other hand.

1. Passion and Affection
Passion (Desire) is the basic characteristic of mere fascination/infatuation. You just find each other appealing and so you are attracted to each other without intense feelings from the heart. Of course there’s bound to be sexual attractions you feel for that ‘partner’ but it just remains till the freshness of your relationship stays and weakens then fades away after that. Affection is the basis on which love develops. Hence there is much ground for it to grow. It is intense and gets stronger with time. Simple!2. Shallow and Mature
It’s no doubt that mere fascinations are shallow because they are just created on that moment – attraction and pleasure. When you want more without thinking much, you are been delusional. Real love is more mature than what you find on the streets between teens and among many adults.  Love is a more mature feeling to arrive at and to retain. You clearly understand what is good and what is bad; what would make you happy. Love makes you think about your present, future, self-security and happiness. When you are truly in love, you are just ready to give without expecting anything in return!

3. Fascination and Commitment

‘Fascination’ explains what people now mistake for love these days; it is just a crush or a physical desire for another person. If you don’t get him/her in sadness, annoyance and jealousy sets in you; that makes you feel you loved him/her. Love is exactly the opposite feeling. It is characterised by patience and ready for responsibility and liabilities when unfortunate situations come up. These can’t be found in infatuation/mere passion.

4. Security and insecurity

There is immense security, if you are in love because you know, no matter what happens the other person will not leave you behind. But if you are just fascinated and fooling each other to be in-love, your subconscious knows you might lose your partner or they might turn away or cheat anytime!

5. Beautiful and scary

Love is undoubtedly a beautiful and healthy feeling. Love accepts the other person’s imperfections. You are accepted for what you are and that is a great thing. On the other hand, infatuation is scary and that’s where people act like what they are not for the desire to remain ‘wanted’.

‘Mistaken in-love’ is common among youths; many realize the difference and what they want as they grow. Now you know.

6 Virtues In A Good Woman

The basic need a man really wants to correctly satisfy is the want of a good woman by his side. Men have just as hard time trying to find a good woman as women have trying to find a good man.

Women have to kiss frogs in order to find a Prince and men have to wade through pools of women, who for the sake of the cleanliness of this article we will just say crazy women, worthless woman, b's, h's, gold diggers, and you fill in the blanks.

A good woman is comprised of much more than being a woman who keeps a clean house and puts a hot meal on the table.. Things like that are nice and pretty much a necessity depending on the relationship, but they are only the basics. Many women say they want a good man but have you asked yourself if you're a good woman? Here are a few traits of a good woman.

1. ENCOURAGING/SUPPORTIVE/MOTIVATES - A good woman isn't quiet without input. She's full of ideas to help improve your life, career, business, outlook in dressing and overall health. She supports her man's ideas and motivates him to accomplish his goals. A good woman is a good listener. Ultimately she is able to change you without trying. A good woman makes you a better man.

2. SHE KEEPS HIM HONEST - A man is not allowed to be lazy when he's in a relationship with a good woman. If you tend to make excuses for why you can't do something a good woman will call you out on your bedside and make you shape up. If you want a promotion, but claim to not be able to get one she will quickly let you know that in all honestly you're not doing enough. A good woman will always encourage her man to make an honest living that he can be proud of. Most importantly she knows how to talk to him and tell him these things without being down on him.

3. KING HIM - Feeding your man grapes, strawberries and parading around in little enticing outfits is delightful, but what about providing him with some mental stimulation. A good woman not only speaks to the King in her man, but she also treats him as such. She sees potential in him. She treats you like he is the most capable and deserving man in the world, in addition to spoiling and catering to him in the most feminine way. A good woman will often make a man feel like he's the only man who exists in her eyes.

A good woman sees greatness in her King. She thinks he's amazing and makes him feel as such. She will have him feeling like anything is possible, like he could actually change the world. Imagine that... or simply google Barack Obama

4. SHE'S SECURE - A good woman is secure within herself and not easily jealous over other women. She's not quick to put the next woman down just because she thinks the woman looks good and provides competition to her own looks. No man wants an insecure woman who is always messing up his business deals because she thinks he's flirting with or having intimate relations with the women he works with.

5. STABILITY - Women often look for stability in a man. What they don't know is that it's their characteristics as a woman that cause a man to become stable. Most relationships are temporary, you actually know they will expire any minute. She makes him think about a future with her. A good woman will make you think of your goals and plans and make sure they are in alignment with what you want out of life. If a woman wants a stable man then she needs to be stable herself. That's one of the top signs of a good woman

6. ALLERGIC TO GOLD DIGGING - A good woman doesn't require that you buy her expensive gifts in order to obtain or maintain her affection. She's just as happy with sentimental gifts from a man as she would be with a gift of Louboutin shoes. It's not all about money with her, it's all about you and the man whom you are.

There is power in a good woman who can push her man to new heights and when a man finds a good woman that's when those should wedding bells start ringing..

Sex - Relationship Problem and Solutions That Can Save Your Relationship

Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually. A lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens these problems. But having sex is one of the last things you should give up. Sex brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy.

 

Problem-solving strategies:

• Plan, plan, plan! Making an appointment; but not necessarily at night when everyone is tired. Maybe during the baby's Saturday afternoon nap or a "before-work quickie." Ask friends or family to take the kids every other Friday night for a sleepover. When sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation. Changing things up a bit can make sex more fun, too. Why not have sex in the kitchen? Or by the fire? Or standing up in the hallway?

• Learn what truly turns you and your partner on by each of you coming up with a personal “Sexy List”. Swap the lists and use them to create more scenarios that turn you both on.

• If your sexual relationship problems can't be resolved on your own, Consulting a qualified sex therapist to help you both address and resolve your issues.





7 Signs You’re In The Right Relationship

Many of us require something more concrete than just a gut feeling before we can settle our doubts that we are in the right relationship. No one should say that's wrong because many relationships that seemed to have all things right suddenly hit the rocks right before their eyes and they keep wondering "what happened?".

Therefore, here are situations you can compare with your relationship to know if it's going right.

1. You know what your partner needs in order to feel loved — even if those needs are different than yours. By matter of gender, interest, intellect and other things, two partners are most likely not going to have the very same taste and this doesn't mean they are a "wrong pair". If you have such partner, your ability to understand and respect those differences in need is a critical indication you are in the right pair.

2. You fight, but you do it productively. It's true occasional conflicts are inevitable; however, the love you have towards your partner and your desire to have/share happy moments together would propel you towards settling your differences faster and respectfully.

3. You get a confidence boost from your mutual physical attraction. Love always reproduce love, among other positive things like respect, happiness, sacrifice and all. When you find some who loves you, the way you talk, interact and make decisions even for each other increases and that's as a result of the confidence from you mutual attraction.

4. You two are different enough to keep things interesting, but you're on the same page where it matters most. If your individual differences does not mean your clueless about each others' lives, and you more so endeavor to bring smiles from it, you can conclude to you're with the right one.

5. Your family and friends give the relationship their stamp of approval. This has a significant propelling force in a relationship for you both emotionally and psychologically. When you family, after noticing who you're with and the effect that person has had on you, can still give you a nod and smile out of happiness and satisfaction, then that relationship is going right. This is because they'll be more objective then you might be.

6. You are willing to put the "we" before the "me." Involuntary decisions have a way of evolving from our unbiased conclusions. When you find it easy to sacrifice with even thinking about yourself because the happiness from "we"(i.e. the relationship) equals the happiness of "me"(personal), then you in the right relationship. 

7. You find yourself missing your partner when he or she isn't around. This attribute isn't had to note and if it's mutual on both sides of the relationship, how wonderful!

Home Chores - Relationship Problem and Solutions That Can Save Your Relationship

Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love lives going. They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial and error.

To the issue at hand, most partners work outside the home and often at more than one job. So it's important to fairly divide the labour at home.

 Problem-solving strategies

• Be organized and clear about your respective jobs in the home. Write all the jobs down and agree on who does what. Be fair so no resentment builds.

• Be open to other solutions, she says. If you both hate housework, maybe you can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. You can be creative and take preferences into account -- as long as it feels fair to both of you.

Money - Relationship Problem and Solutions That Can Save Your Relationship

Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are exchanged. They can stem, for example, from the expenses of courtship or from the high cost of a wedding. It is recommended that couples who have money woes take a deep breath and have a serious conversation about finances.



Problem-solving strategies

• Be honest about your current financial situation. If things have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.

• Don't approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead, set aside a time that is convenient and non-threatening for both of you.

• Acknowledge that one partner may be a saver and one a spender, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each other's tendencies.

• Don't hide income or debt. Bring financial documents, including a recent credit report, pay stubs, bank statements, insurance policies, debts, and investments to the table.

• Don't blame.

• Construct a joint budget that includes savings.

• Decide which person will be responsible for paying the monthly bills.

• Allow each person to have independence by setting aside money to be spent at his or her discretion.

• Decide upon short-term and long-term goals. It's OK to have individual goals, but you should have family goals, too.

• Talk about caring for your parents as they age and how to appropriately plan for their financial needs if needed.

• You can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. You can be creative and take preferences into account -- as long as it feels fair to both of you.

Conflict - Relationship Problem and Solutions That Can Save Your Relationship

Occasional conflict is a part of life; but if you and your partner feel like you're starring in your own nightmare version of the movie Groundhog Day -- i.e. the same lousy situations keep repeating day after day -- it's time to break free of this toxic routine. When you make the effort, you can lessen the anger and take a calm look at underlying issues.

Problem-solving strategies

• You and your partner can learn to argue in a more civil, helpful manner. Make these strategies part of who you are in this relationship.

• Realize you are not a victim. It is your choice whether you react and how you react.

• Be honest with yourself. When you're in the midst of an argument, are your comments geared toward resolving the conflict, or are you looking for payback? If your comments are blaming and hurtful, it's best to take a deep breath and change your strategy.

• Change it up. If you continue to respond in the way that's brought you pain and unhappiness in the past, you can't expect a different result this time. Just one little shift can make a big difference. If you usually jump right in to defend yourself before your partner is finished speaking, hold off for a few moments. You'll be surprised at how such a small shift in tempo can change the whole tone of an argument.

• Give a little; get a lot. Apologize when you're wrong. Sure it's tough, but just try it and watch something wonderful happen.

• You can't control anyone else's behaviour. The only one in your change is you.

Relationship Problem and Solutions That Can Save Your Relationship - Communication

It's the rare couple that doesn't run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you'll have a much better chance of getting past them.

All relationship problems stem from poor communication; you can't communicate while you're checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section.

Problem-solving strategies

• Make an actual appointment with each other. If you live together, put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voicemail pick up your calls.
• If you can't "communicate" without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant where you'd be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
• Set up some rules. Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, or ban phrases such as "You always ..." or "You never ...."
• Use body language to show you're listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you're getting the message, and rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, "What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we're both working." If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person really meant was, "Hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you," he or she can say so, but in a nicer way.

That's Simply the Woman Phenomenon

A woman is like an incubator;

she takes in whatever you give her, multiplies it and gives you something more.

You give her sperm, she multiplies it and gives you a baby

You give her a house, she multiplies it and gives you a home

You give her a word, she multiplies it and gives you a sentence

You give her groceries, she multiplies it and gives you a meal.

You give her frustration, she multiplies it and gives you hell.

That's just the phenomenon of a real woman.

Married men and Dating Sites.

Should a married man be seen on dating network sites?

Different men have different take on this issue. This isn't a like "some go to the river for fish while others go for the view". This situation is much more sensitive than that and really shouldn't not be debased to such.

A married man has a wife if not children. When he starts having undue "attachments" with single ladies that have next to no restrains, he's bound to development 'whorish interest' in a couple of them. To state the obvious, that is just the definition of cheating. Certainly, no marital vow has 'permission' for 'flings'.

Why get yourself close to temptation if you say you don't intending failing?

Would you be surprised if you wife doesn't trust you? You know the saying "think of the worst, and surprising you'll be right."

 

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Life & Love - 3

Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile, and finds in your presence that life is worthwhile. So, when you are lonely remember it's true: somebody somewhere is thinking of you.

No man is worth a woman's tears; the only one that is, will never make her cry.

If you love somebody then tell them how you feel. Don’t be scared of their reaction or rejection life is too short. You should take a chance and if things don’t work out as you plan, don’t worry because life moves on and true love will be waiting for you again.

Also, frequently take a look at what you have. Think of all you did to get it. And remember, it only takes one second to lose it.

"I've never been so scared of losing something in my life, then again nothing in my life has ever meant as much to me as you do!"

Yesterday is history, today is a gift, and tomorrow is a mystery. Live each day as though it were your last, with the things that are truly going to last. So, maybe it all happened for a reason, you going with her, me going with him, and in the end, you and I going back to each other. What's meant to be will always find a way.

"You have no idea how good it feels to wake up every morning knowing you are mine and I am yours. If you ever doubt my love for you, just put your ear to my heart and listen, it's calling your name....always and forever."