Infatuation OR in-Fascination

Romantic attraction between two people could either be just a ‘deep fascination’ or ‘fervent love’. There’s a difference between these two and before moving forward to take any action regards the “attraction”, proper discerning should be done. Though, both love and passion are strong feelings for another person, they are very often confused with each other. Basically, love is permanent while mere passion/fascination is temporary. Also love goes through bitter, trying and painful moments; mere fascination on the other hand is retained because it seems sweet, sweet and sweet – no real trail of commitment.  Take a look at these five differentiations between the two feelings - passion/fascination/infatuation one hand and genuine permanent love on the other hand.

1. Passion and Affection
Passion (Desire) is the basic characteristic of mere fascination/infatuation. You just find each other appealing and so you are attracted to each other without intense feelings from the heart. Of course there’s bound to be sexual attractions you feel for that ‘partner’ but it just remains till the freshness of your relationship stays and weakens then fades away after that. Affection is the basis on which love develops. Hence there is much ground for it to grow. It is intense and gets stronger with time. Simple!2. Shallow and Mature
It’s no doubt that mere fascinations are shallow because they are just created on that moment – attraction and pleasure. When you want more without thinking much, you are been delusional. Real love is more mature than what you find on the streets between teens and among many adults.  Love is a more mature feeling to arrive at and to retain. You clearly understand what is good and what is bad; what would make you happy. Love makes you think about your present, future, self-security and happiness. When you are truly in love, you are just ready to give without expecting anything in return!

3. Fascination and Commitment

‘Fascination’ explains what people now mistake for love these days; it is just a crush or a physical desire for another person. If you don’t get him/her in sadness, annoyance and jealousy sets in you; that makes you feel you loved him/her. Love is exactly the opposite feeling. It is characterised by patience and ready for responsibility and liabilities when unfortunate situations come up. These can’t be found in infatuation/mere passion.

4. Security and insecurity

There is immense security, if you are in love because you know, no matter what happens the other person will not leave you behind. But if you are just fascinated and fooling each other to be in-love, your subconscious knows you might lose your partner or they might turn away or cheat anytime!

5. Beautiful and scary

Love is undoubtedly a beautiful and healthy feeling. Love accepts the other person’s imperfections. You are accepted for what you are and that is a great thing. On the other hand, infatuation is scary and that’s where people act like what they are not for the desire to remain ‘wanted’.

‘Mistaken in-love’ is common among youths; many realize the difference and what they want as they grow. Now you know.