WHY DO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED?

These days, not all who gets into a marriage gets into a good thing but it’s those that get into a ‘good marriage’ that get into a good thing. Getting married to someone is a big step in life, more often than not, a rough ride. Something is right does not necessarily mean you should just jump into it but the reasons behind you doing that ‘right thing’ goes a long way too.

Marriage is fun, however, its duty and commitment, and most of all, its work. Therefore, the reasons behind your decision to get into that contract with anyone needs to be properly evaluated. Ask yourself the following questions and answer truthfully.

• Are you ready to start a family?

Marriage is the cultural platform to start a family. If you aren’t interested in raising a family, can’t handle the responsibility or can’t cater for one, then I’ll advise you retreat and re-evaluate. On the other hand, if you are craving to have your own wife/husband and children, then move on to the next question.

• Are you prioritizing the sexual fulfilment?

It is quite obvious that the norms around us make it less of a big deal for even kids to have sex these days. However, marriage is the one platform where the two people in it can have sex and the society’s ancient culture would smile. Sex however shouldn’t be the grounds for marriage; it’s just one of the perks. Under this, I should warn folks that have different sex-mates at the end of each day, week or month as the case may be should really think deep. True, genuine, committed and lasting marriage paves no room for many things; especially sex infidelity.

• Are you basically in for the money?

Marriages and prenups; these two words are now used increasing side by side these days. Need I say why? Money issue is serious issue! Many now look for partners who are wealthy and they give no interest to the real concept and foundation of marriage. If you see marriage as a passport to getting richer, then you need abstain from marriage till you get re-oriented. No offense.

• Do you see yourself been happier?

A life of union with someone else that supports and moves you further would definitely make you happier. Some people unfortunately see marriage and family ties as a pull back from their career aspirations and ambitions. If you in that category, it’s best you don’t marry yet. Continue your single life till your “aspirations and ambitions” change to have marriage and family at the central point. 

• Would getting married make you healthier?

Happiness, joy and satisfaction result to a healthy body and longer life. When you want to get married to a person, using your own and that persons character/lifestyle/life-priorities, make a model NOT of how your marriage should be (that’s fantasises), but of how it WOULD be. Would it make you happy?   
 

Your reasons to get married should incorporate motives like adding more meaning to life, having a happier life, raising your own family, living in commitment, sharing your life (happiness and well, sadness) maturity, love, respect of values, creating a relationship and growing old with someone.