DON'T SNOOP!!!

Everyone who snoops finds what they were looking for. If you think your partner is cheating and you hack into his/her Facebook, you will find some random message with an old female(male) friend that you could probably construe as cheating somehow. Just don’t do it. Even if they accidentally left their e-mail open on your computer and you’re drooling to read through it.

Don't!

Men and Infidelity

Falling in love is the most wonderful and exciting thing ever, but women are frequently afraid of falling in love with a man because of the worry “he might cheat on me down the line”. Indeed, a cheating boyfriend/husband is every woman’s worst nightmare. If infidelity is often at the back of your mind, it’s now considered okay to say you are not been paranoid. Why? Studies and surveys have shown over 50-60% of all married men have an affair at least once in their married lives. There’s good news you have 50% chance a man might not cheat you. But still, with a 50-50 chance of infidelity poisoning your relationship in the future calls you to alertness.

There are basically three reasons a man might cheat on you. Understanding those might help you.

He wasn’t ready: This reason for cheating is entirely the guy’s fault. There are a lot of men out there who think handing a relationship is a piece of cake. But when the rigours and responsibilities of a serious relationship comes flying in, they turn around and run. Here they run craving their bachelor-single-unattached-free life. Never rush into a relationship because it takes so much to keep it going.

He got bore or unhappy: If he got bored or unhappy in the relationship, the woman 'may' have played a part it that. After all, it is important you do your part in keeping the relationship happy. A happy relationship entails two happy partners. The problem here is most partners sit and wait for the other to make the first move before they do their part. Do your part whether he’s doing his or not. That way, you don’t have yourself to blame when issues go out of hand.

He succumbs to pressure: Let’s be honest here, the entertainment industry, society and friends suggest it is “ok” if not “cool” for guys to have affairs. By accepting it as a norm due to it frequency, this is how every single one of us echoes the same sentiment. Some guys can bow to pressure of cheating just to ‘fit in’. It is crazy but true. If we accept it, then we must accept the heart-breaking consequences when it happens to you, your sister, daughter or friend. Speaking of pressure, the pouring pressure of relationship/marriage on a man can also lead to infidelity.

For unmarried folks, examine a typical case that occurs 7 in 10 chances. Within two weeks of the first date, they’re already going steady. Before the first month, they “sleep together”. Then just few months later, during the relationship, they start getting bored and unhappy, feeling stressed and later its bores down to venting frustrations at each other. Before you know it, they separate ways. Those that get married few months right after the “sleeping together” phase start witness fades in initial attraction and excitement…they also start feeling bored, unhappy, entrapped and that leads to arguments, disagreements, fights and eventually separate ways.

Lack of preparedness, boredom, dissatisfaction, peer pressure can be avoided by simply building your relationship on solid foundation. Then you are likely safe from infidelity. Remember the work of “relationship preservation” is continuous.

Your Relationship Right

So many people are in the wrong relationships. Most of them got into it after been deceived by the supposed partner while others just never expected the consequences to be as grievous as they getting it. However, the bottom line still remains: You are allowed to terminate a wrong relationship that is doing damage to you in any way - be it psychologically, emotionally, morally, spiritually or physically.

There are some relationships and partners that allows you/gives you the right to be "angry, selfish and unforgiving!" There are some levels that repairing the relationship would be the worst decision of life. An example is when the relationship/partner has the potential of taking your life. Forgive to liberate yourself but don't forgive to reunite.

You should not and do not have to tolerate abuses from anyone. And remember, whatever that "supposed partner" may say, its just to keep you bonded. Most abusers have been known to transfer blames to the abused in order to keep the psychologically tied down.

Do not allow yourself  to be used by anyone at anytime. Do not allow any make you feel inferior or less human. You deserve the best just like the happiest and most fortunate people.

#You have every right to be happy in a relationship.

#You have every right to take care of yourself in a relationship.

#You have every right to exercise that right once, twice and as often as you want to in a relationship.  

6 Virtues In A Good Woman

The basic need a man really wants to correctly satisfy is the want of a good woman by his side. Men have just as hard time trying to find a good woman as women have trying to find a good man.

Women have to kiss frogs in order to find a Prince and men have to wade through pools of women, who for the sake of the cleanliness of this article we will just say crazy women, worthless woman, b's, h's, gold diggers, and you fill in the blanks.

A good woman is comprised of much more than being a woman who keeps a clean house and puts a hot meal on the table.. Things like that are nice and pretty much a necessity depending on the relationship, but they are only the basics. Many women say they want a good man but have you asked yourself if you're a good woman? Here are a few traits of a good woman.

1. ENCOURAGING/SUPPORTIVE/MOTIVATES - A good woman isn't quiet without input. She's full of ideas to help improve your life, career, business, outlook in dressing and overall health. She supports her man's ideas and motivates him to accomplish his goals. A good woman is a good listener. Ultimately she is able to change you without trying. A good woman makes you a better man.

2. SHE KEEPS HIM HONEST - A man is not allowed to be lazy when he's in a relationship with a good woman. If you tend to make excuses for why you can't do something a good woman will call you out on your bedside and make you shape up. If you want a promotion, but claim to not be able to get one she will quickly let you know that in all honestly you're not doing enough. A good woman will always encourage her man to make an honest living that he can be proud of. Most importantly she knows how to talk to him and tell him these things without being down on him.

3. KING HIM - Feeding your man grapes, strawberries and parading around in little enticing outfits is delightful, but what about providing him with some mental stimulation. A good woman not only speaks to the King in her man, but she also treats him as such. She sees potential in him. She treats you like he is the most capable and deserving man in the world, in addition to spoiling and catering to him in the most feminine way. A good woman will often make a man feel like he's the only man who exists in her eyes.

A good woman sees greatness in her King. She thinks he's amazing and makes him feel as such. She will have him feeling like anything is possible, like he could actually change the world. Imagine that... or simply google Barack Obama

4. SHE'S SECURE - A good woman is secure within herself and not easily jealous over other women. She's not quick to put the next woman down just because she thinks the woman looks good and provides competition to her own looks. No man wants an insecure woman who is always messing up his business deals because she thinks he's flirting with or having intimate relations with the women he works with.

5. STABILITY - Women often look for stability in a man. What they don't know is that it's their characteristics as a woman that cause a man to become stable. Most relationships are temporary, you actually know they will expire any minute. She makes him think about a future with her. A good woman will make you think of your goals and plans and make sure they are in alignment with what you want out of life. If a woman wants a stable man then she needs to be stable herself. That's one of the top signs of a good woman

6. ALLERGIC TO GOLD DIGGING - A good woman doesn't require that you buy her expensive gifts in order to obtain or maintain her affection. She's just as happy with sentimental gifts from a man as she would be with a gift of Louboutin shoes. It's not all about money with her, it's all about you and the man whom you are.

There is power in a good woman who can push her man to new heights and when a man finds a good woman that's when those should wedding bells start ringing..

Dating the "Right-Wrong person"

We're all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you've been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there's no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are 'wrong' in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness.

And it isn't until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems the ones that make you truly who you are that we're ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you're looking for. You're looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, "This is the problem I want to have." I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.? have a great day everyone!?

That's Simply the Woman Phenomenon

A woman is like an incubator;

she takes in whatever you give her, multiplies it and gives you something more.

You give her sperm, she multiplies it and gives you a baby

You give her a house, she multiplies it and gives you a home

You give her a word, she multiplies it and gives you a sentence

You give her groceries, she multiplies it and gives you a meal.

You give her frustration, she multiplies it and gives you hell.

That's just the phenomenon of a real woman.

Vulnerable Moment In A Man’s Life

When the man started to see his future wife, things were stop-and-go and then stop again. One of their early dates was a camping trip. The man's future wife was going camping with eight of her closest friends, and the man was welcome to join them. It seemed the man's future wife didn't want a date. She wanted a friend—a friend who liked camping, which the man didn't. But the man went along because the heart is foolish.

One by one, the man's future wife's friends pulled out of the camping trip, so that soon it was just the man and his future wife and one of his future wife's friends, who happened to have the same first name as the man and had known the man's future wife since they were 16. It was the three of them in a pup tent made for two; the man was the odd man out. The man's future wife had forgotten her toothbrush, so the man offered her his. It was the single romantic gesture in a wholly unromantic weekend. The man and his future wife, the man was sure, would never see each other again.

Two weeks later, the man ran into his future wife in the rain, and it was as if they'd had a one-night stand. Here was a girl who had used his toothbrush, and now they couldn't so much as speak. When he got home, the man phoned his future wife and said, "What happened? I thought we liked each other. I thought you liked me." The man was so scared he thought he might hyper-ventilate. Because what if his future wife didn't like him back? The man wouldn't be able to live with the humiliation. You need to make yourself vulnerable, the man told himself, because there is no love without vulnerability. That was why the man made that phone call.

This is the part of the story that's not true. It was the man's future wife who made that phone call. She was the one who said those words. But the man, being a man, wished he had said them. He was thinking of them, but he needed someone to show him how.

"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."

Married men and Dating Sites.

Should a married man be seen on dating network sites?

Different men have different take on this issue. This isn't a like "some go to the river for fish while others go for the view". This situation is much more sensitive than that and really shouldn't not be debased to such.

A married man has a wife if not children. When he starts having undue "attachments" with single ladies that have next to no restrains, he's bound to development 'whorish interest' in a couple of them. To state the obvious, that is just the definition of cheating. Certainly, no marital vow has 'permission' for 'flings'.

Why get yourself close to temptation if you say you don't intending failing?

Would you be surprised if you wife doesn't trust you? You know the saying "think of the worst, and surprising you'll be right."

 

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10 Simple Ways To Impress A Woman

Sometimes it’s the smallest thing that makes a lasting impression with women. A smart comment or a couple of small gestures can really impress a woman, while an offensive remark or a display of carelessness can utterly doom your chances. This list of habits and behaviors could make the difference between getting her number and getting a dirty look.

1. Be a gentleman

We should all strive to be gentlemen at all times; however, many men today shy away from it, attempting to respect a woman’s space and equality. Believe it or not, there are still plenty of women who still appreciate chivalry and being treated like a lady, and being a gentleman when you are in the presence of a lady shows her that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered.

2. Maintain eye contact

It can be tempting to look a beautiful woman up and down, and the more beautiful she is, the harder it is to concentrate on the conversation with her. Just remember, if she catches you staring at her cleavage when she’s telling you how much her dad means to her, you’ll look like a creep.

3. Giving sincere compliments

Complimenting women is a skill all men need to master to be successful with the ladies. Women can sense when a compliment is not sincere, and this same insincerity along with some guys having hidden agendas are the reasons why they find compliments so repulsive. To give a compliment the right way, the most important thing to be sincere and remember that is not what you say, but how you say it–what you can observe about her and the setting she is in. Compliment woman more on her character rather than her appearance and don’t try to find something for the sake of being complimentary; that feels false.

4. Socialize with her friends

And one of the things that allows a woman to measure a guy’s potential as a partner is his ability to fit into her social network. Women are attracted to likable, social, charming men, the kind of guys their friends and families will love. So, engage in conversation with her friends even as you’re working your magic on her. Impress them and you’ll impress her and remember–the more you make a woman feel special, the more positive her conversations about you will be with her girlfriends.

5. Ignore your cell phone

Guys, regularly answering cell phone calls (especially from other women) while you are out together with your lady is a big no-no. When you’re talking to a woman, letting her see you silence your phone or turn it off completely shows her that she has your undivided attention. Your outside communications during a date should be limited only to emergencies.

6. Ask open-ended questions

Just about every woman likes to talk about herself; after all, it’s a subject on which she has a lot of expertise. Open-ended questions are essential for making the conversation flow. Asking her questions about her family and her favorite things will allow her to open up and feel comfortable, while simultaneously showing her that you’re interested in more than just her looks.

7. Be funny

Women love a guy that will make them laugh spontaneously and keep a smile on their faces, and being funny and being able to make a woman laugh is something that will get you farther with her than just being good looking. After all, when looks fade and you begin aging, all you’ll have left is conversation.

8. Always leave her wanting more

The majority of guys give away all the surprises and all the interesting facts about themselves way too soon. You have to leave women wanting more, and by doing things like limiting your phone conversations, leaving just as the conversation or kissing is getting good, and saying you’ve gotta go meet with your friends. By being a challenge, an interested woman will begin making calls and suggestions to see you again and will make her intentions more obvious as time goes by.

9. Show her you are passionate about life

A man who can show a woman he’s passionate about things in life, from his job to the bedroom, is very attractive.

10. Take personal responsibility

Take personal responsibility for yourself, your thoughts and your situation. Learn to see how the choices you’ve made have led you to where you are and never be a victim.

Men, just keep the friendship...

3 Things Women Definitely Want From Men

It's no news that you need to listen very carefully to figure out what your lady is trying to say. It is not rocket science, its just that you need to be sensitive to her. Here are a few things that women look for in men. Read on and you will probably understand her better.

Be honest and credible

Honesty is something that is extremely important for a woman. You have to be brave enough to own up everything. If she ever caught you lying she wouldn’t forgive you easily. But if you faltered and still confessed to her honestly you can stand a chance. She has to be able to believe you and trust you implicitly. It means a lot to her. A real woman looks for a partner who she can rely on.

Hear her out

If you are looking for a steady relationship, you need to enhance your listening skills. Lend an ear to her problems; you don’t need to give solutions all the time. She is not looking for answers; she just needs someone who can listen to her, rants without being judgmental, without being critical of her comments. Allow her to create an emotional bond with you.

Grow-up

Women mature faster than men, we all know that. But expecting the woman to mother you all your life is not what she would like. She needs an anchor too. She needs her man to be matured, calm, composed, and in control. Show her that you can face your fears and you do not need to run away from them. Impulsive is fine sometimes but show that you can take calculated risks as well. A woman loves it if she knows she can lean on her man and it is not the other way round.

No one can take your woman...

Men's perspective...

This sounds true, 50% percent true. It is indeed hard to lose a woman that is yours except you (the guy) are the knucklehead.

Some men, mistreat their ladies, cheat on them, show next to no appreciation, take them for a ride by manner of speaking/interacting and expect the woman to remain with them forever. Some do this because they feel "she's got no where to go", "I've got the money" or "I can replace her and even get a 'better' lady".
On the other hand, for the true man, your real woman would  never leave your side however hard the storms may be.

Well, at the end you'll learn the lesson only experience can teach you.

Marriage Isn't For You...yes, you!

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

Marriage is about family.

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others. - Seth Adam Smith 

The First Thing Men Notice in Ladies and Looking Good

What do you think is the first thing a man notices when he sees you? (Hint: you’ve got two of them—but they’re probably not what you think.) 

If you guessed “boobs” you’re certainly among the majority. But, um, you’re aiming too low. 

The absolute first aspect of your appearance that grabs a man’s attention are the very things with which you’re reading this article: your eyes! It’s been proven time and time again, in study after study. 

The eyes have it, and because the eyes also happen to be the first place ageing makes itself apparent, ladies hoping to remain as attractive as possible might want to take a moment to rethink how they’re going about enhancing them. 

The eyes have been called the window to the soul..

When tasked with beautifying your eyes, the first idea that comes to mind might be a trip to the cosmetics counter for a makeover, complete with some brand new smoky shadows, and the whole "decoration". However, you need hold your horses and think for a bit. The "work of art" you do to your eye lash and brows speaks volumes about your personality. When the "additives" are too much, it removes the beauty you have and makes you look the opposite. The truth and shocker is that many ladies look more beautiful with just a clear neat appearance.. As known, nature is the best "makeup" you can wear. 

A smoldering eye might sound sexy and attractive, but in reality it’s not something that looks good on everyone. (Let’s not even talk about the effort necessary to properly create the look, either.) 

Men are attracted to beautiful eyes, but how many times have you heard a man complain about a woman wearing too much makeup? That’s the tricky thing about the opposite sex. They’re into a perfect appearance, but evidence of artificiality, like heavy-handed, clumpy mascara all fall into one category - ugly.

Generally speaking, it’s one of their biggest turnoffs.

Five different ways you select a wrong person to marry

 1.     When you’re focused more on chemistry of the bond than on the character of the individual, you are choosing wrongly. Yes chemistry is good and ignites the fire, but good character that you can live with keeps that fire burning. Many people get married when they are in the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust". Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character?

Of course you won’t be able to note all your prospective partner’s character, but there are some tattletales that give them away even when they are most careful trying to appear all good and perfect before you. Take note of them and decide wisely.

2.     When you choose a person that doesn’t understand you, your needs and moods, then moving forward is really a big mistake. Your unique need is to be loved, made to feel like the most important person in the world and what ever else you may want to add. But how would someone that isn’t on the same page with you emotionally tell when its time do the most good expected? How would someone that can’t “read” your mood detect your feelings and help you feel better?

3.     When you have different goals and priorities in life, then you need to think again and think real deep. Let’s say for example a lady meets a man when he’s in the middle of traveling round the world. They both have the chemistry but after a month or two, he intends leaving for another location, possibly remote region that is different in almost everything. Whereas she loves being a chef aspiring to own her own restaurant.

Now, a marriage between these two would be a mistake. To avoid growing apart, they must both realize what they are individually “living for” and if they can do that together when married.

Soul mates” are “goal mates”.

4.     When you decide to marry an individual shortly after getting “intimate”, then your judgment has over an 80% chance of been clouded. 

I am very aware we currently live in a world were zero intimacy (sex) before marriage is gradually becoming a myth which really shouldn’t be so. Intimacy before commitment of marriage mostly presents a big problem because it prevents full honest exploration of partner regarding important issues. It has never been a necessity to take a “test drive” in order to ascertain each other’s physical compatibility.

5.     When you get married to escape from personal problems, you have started on a wrong foot. Family or societal pressures push people to get into relationships. “There isn’t love even from family and supposed friends, and so I need a man/lady” is a doomed move. Many are unhappy with themselves and think marriage is the solution. You bring what you have to the table in marriage; and when you have something negative to give, it’s unfair to your spouse.

If you are unhappy with your life, fix it while you are single and then you’ll feel better without a sense of rush when you approach the garden on marriage. This would gain you more ‘points’ when you finally elope with your spouse.  

As a give-away, I’ll add this; never marry someone that is emotionally dependent on something else while trying develop another relationship with you. A person who hasn’t separated from his parents (in the case of men), or in love with another person isn’t a good choice. People get emotionally dependent of other things like money, sports, work, drugs, internet or even hobbies. Be careful to have a matured partner free from all these bonds before you even think of eloping with him/her. Else you won’t be the number one priority and that’s no basis for a real marriage.

The First Thing Men Notice in Ladies and Looking Good

What do you think is the first thing a man notices when he sees you? (Hint: you’ve got two of them—but they’re probably not what you think.) 

If you guessed “boobs” you’re certainly among the majority. But, um, you’re aiming too low. 

The absolute first aspect of your appearance that grabs a man’s attention are the very things with which you’re reading this article: your eyes! It’s been proven time and time again, in study after study. 

The eyes have it, and because the eyes also happen to be the first place ageing makes itself apparent, ladies hoping to remain as attractive as possible might want to take a moment to rethink how they’re going about enhancing them. 

The eyes have been called the window to the soul..

When tasked with beautifying your eyes, the first idea that comes to mind might be a trip to the cosmetics counter for a makeover, complete with some brand new smoky shadows, and the whole "decoration". However, you need hold your horses and think for a bit. The "work of art" you do to your eye lash and brows speaks volumes about your personality. When the "additives" are too much, it removes the beauty you have and makes you look the opposite. The truth and shocker is that many ladies look more beautiful with just a clear neat appearance.. As known, nature is the best "makeup" you can wear. 

A smoldering eye might sound sexy and attractive, but in reality it’s not something that looks good on everyone. (Let’s not even talk about the effort necessary to properly create the look, either.) 

Men are attracted to beautiful eyes, but how many times have you heard a man complain about a woman wearing too much makeup? That’s the tricky thing about the opposite sex. They’re into a perfect appearance, but evidence of artificiality, like heavy-handed, clumpy mascara all fall into one category - ugly.

Generally speaking, it’s one of their biggest turnoffs.

Counsel: Don't do it

When an action is wrong by some parameters; you know it'll make you ashamed and regretful in future; or there would be repercussion(s), then you try hiding the atrocity you've committed!

Why do it in the first place?

Why not shun the devil while the was whispering to your ears?

Its best you exercise due self-control and don't do it!

Attribute of a true relationship (10)-Competitions

There is nothing to prove

It's not about who's has this and who brings that in. Both work together to raise each other higher. Intra-relationship competition only proves the two people involved aren't seeing each other has help but rather "friendly competitants"

Counsel: Sex, Appearance, Respect, Men and Ladies

Law of Attraction

 

It really is what it is. However people treat you, before blaming them, you need to conduct a self-evaluation.

Execute a comprehensive and honest self-check; ask yourself "Am I not responsible for the disrespect people throw at me?"

Why do "purpose-less guys" (hooligans and thugs) whistle/approach you on the street, look at yourself and check; "Do I present myself like an aimless girl?"

Is your boss pestering you for sex and related indecent interactions? Assess yourself - What am I doing that's making this man think so lowly of me?

(Probably by dressing, manner of speaking or places you go to)

90% of the mess we get are attracted by us!

A queen is awarded her respect because her everything demands it. That’s what she attracts to herself.

 

You want to be clean? Stop attracting the dirts

Words 1: Words hurt your relationship

Words can be very dangerous ‘things’; equally capable of bringing peace and inciting violence. They get under your skin, they make you feel, they make you hurt, make you love, make you alive. Everyone knows this but many people still dish out harmful words out too much. We all need to be careful of how we choose to use words.

Using harsh communication when relationship seems a bit disturbed; during arguments for instance, partners often resort to name-calling and abundant cursing. Furthermore, ill-speaking of your partner’s family, friends or relatives is also common; calling them names and stressing their downsides really hurts because you are indirectly getting at her. These are how words really drag the relationship south and push partners further apart.

Words that are well seasoned create a thirst in your partner to listen. When you use words that are affirms motivation, your partner listens. Forgiving words increases the ease for your partner to accept their failure and improve. 

Words spell out your inner countenance. If those words are tolerant, then they invite your partner to share his/her world with you. So, choose your words wisely.