DON'T be SUSPICIOUS

Suspicion creates a form of doubt and negative image of the person that is suspected. It breeds worry and fear even if it lack an element of truth. When you become suspicious, it will affect the trust level of your relationship. Suspicions suck out the life and fun in a relationship. Many people have been wrongly blamed just because a previous suspicious act was not properly discussed. Don't create an avenue to be suspected rather discuss any issues that can lead to suspicion. Be open in discussion and avoid secrecy. It's that simple.

Chasing the Truth..

We have always had an obsession with truth; with understanding things correctly. More often than not, never have we been satisfied to accept anyone's word for anything. EVERYTHING MUST BE PROVEN; and we believe this is a wise way for everyone to live. If someone says such and such is good, or this and that are bad, we always ask "Why?". We almost NEVER take things on authority. Its our understanding that many people are not honest, and some who are honest are simply mistaken. The higher you go in terms of power, the more reason people have to manipulate you for the sake of their own agendas.

Historically, whenever a significant paradigm shift has occurred, it was strongly opposed by nearly everyone on every side. And yet in the end, the grounds for the shift were proven to be valid.

"Always go to the source/sources of an issue. Dig until you reach the bottom and have ALL the information on a matter. Only then will you be in a competent position to make your own judgment. Also, expect very few to agree with you, and nearly all to mock you. But trust in yourself, or rather, trust in your openness to seek and accept the truth, whatever it turns out to be. You must vow to follow truth wherever it leads, for its own sake."

This takes courage, because truth can be painful; it can turn our world and beliefs upside down. If you truly do your own work, if you will have the courage, discipline, strength, and INTELLECTUAL HONESTY to thoroughly investigate a matter, you can feel secure in your conclusions.

This takes hard work, much time, and complete honesty, but your reward is truth and personal freedom.

Suspicions that kill a relationship

Suspicions come due do lack of trust for the partner and trust is most important for any relationship. Constant suspicion of your partner's activities and moves surely has the ability to crash your relationship in the most cruel manner.

Some people confuse suspicion with being insecure; however, suspicion and insecurity are two different habits. "Excess of everything is bad"; the same holds true for suspecting your partner all the time. If I see my partner being cozy with another girl and I feel jealous, that is insecurity; whereas, checking his log, keeping an eye on him all day and night is suspicion.

Everyone wants to be informed about their partner's moves; but its noteworthy that being overtly possessive most often turn out to be the deadliest wrecker that can even break a relationship.

Suspicion makes your partner feel like "a victim of the relationship". Remember everyone needs space and time alone sometimes; reacting to this standard requirement with signs of suspicions is uncalled for and painful to the 'wrongly suspected' partner.

"I have been through it. My wife's ex was a cheat and now she is very suspicious. My life is hell because of that. A while back, my call log was not getting updated due to some reason and my wife was suspicious that I am having an affair, and thought I therefore delete the call log so that she does not come to know. How frustrating it is to be blamed of things which you have not done. We had a fight for two days till I could prove to her the fault in my mobile. Such incidents are killing my love for her which she will never realise."

An old man once said "believe all things you're been told" - until you have real prove to believe otherwise. Don't go about searching for proofs your partner is cheating because you might just be searching for something that isn't existing. Help yourself by;
•Sit down and outline your underlying reason(s) you do not trust your partner.
•Reduce checking up on your partner and seeking reassurance.
•Openly discuss whatever suspicious notions/activities that are bothering you.
•Always remember to give others benefit of doubt.
•For as much as you can, stop using past unfavourable situations to forecast the present and future.

Suspicion is the worst thing to ever happen in a relationship. It kills the relation like slow poison.

You get scared so much of loving someone too much and you miss out on true love by trust, then you just missed out on the best part of living.