Signs he wants just sex from you

There are many men out there just interested in scoring some "actions" with ladies and then making a switch. This isn't news. Girls say it a lot and guys admit it. Except you are only interested in counting the number of guys that have "gone through" you as a lady, you would be more cautious of how the male-folks relate to you, distinguish you, and most especially – who you eventually get on with.

How can you know what they next guy that approaches you has in mind? They all say quite the same thing and pressure you almost the same way. There are some actions you have to read and questions you should ask yourself. These questions would tell you if he's just trying get into your pants or he's a real deal.

¤ How does he communicate with you? Most guys text and mail girls they want just 'a thing' from. They find it extra stress making those calls due to the extra work need. He'll prefer to use smileys/emoticon in place him carrying it out. If he can chat you more often, reply your messages, then ask yourself why not a call that'll take less energy.

¤ Has he said he's not ready to be in a relationship? It is textbook warning that most girls do miss. He said he's not interest in a relationship but he trying to be 'intimate' with you. When he keeps claiming he's last relationship took a toll on him and he's needs time of relationship but he attempts getting closer to another female. How does that balance up in the world of the sensible?

¤ Does he limit meeting you in just one restaurant? Hiding you from the world in order to minimize the need for explanations to the world after he has gotten what he wants and cut ties with you is the objective. He may say it's his favorite, give locational reasons or suddenly become an expert in detecting the restaurant with the best fries/chicken.

¤ Has he been making too many promises? Men with good intentions make promises, men with good character keep them. Real men know the weight of promises and avoid making many promises. When a guy waltz to you promising too much of this and that, then there's high possibility he's trying to say what he thinks you want to hear to enable him get 'some' soonest.

¤ Has he been making last minute plans to see you? He brings up the idea of hooking up with you at the 'eleventh hour' mostly at night. That's the definition of a 'booty call'.

¤ Does he avoid deep personality conversations? Yes he knows your name, current engagement, frequent locations and daily activity patterns. A guy that limits himself to shallow things about you doesn't want to be around for too long. That also makes it easy for his conscience and brain to forget you after the affair is over.

¤ Has he been all about getting physical when you around? When his hands does not stop wondering and he even voices getting intimate whenever he thinks he can get move on to second base, you know what he wants. When it's always about that getting physical when you two are alone, that's a "use and dump" game he's playing on you.

¤ How many of friends of he's has he officially introduced you to? Keeping you off his social life makes the job much easier for him after he dumps you. This is why he'll do as much as he can not to introduce you to his real buddies (except those that play the same game he does).

Now you know. Avoid been taken as 'a minute refreshment'. Live like a queen and then you can be treated as such.

5 Ways To Attract The Right People Into Your Life

Whether love life, business, or friendship — attraction follows pretty much the same rules. And they might not be what you think.Ready to finally start attracting the right people into your life? Follow these five tips:

1. Get clear on who you are, not who you're told to be.

So often, our desires are a lot more aligned with society's expectations than with what we really want. Is a good-looking guy or girl really your top priority? What about a sense of humor? Do you really want to work around the clock for that rich client? Or would a relaxed atmosphere with a little less money work for you?

2. Picture your ideal, and be specific.

You can't get what you want if you don't know what it is in the first place. Start thinking about the exact person you want to attract into your business or your life. Remember, you're the only one setting the rules here, so the sky's the limit. Be specific on everything from their secret passions to their inner fears. When you know what you're looking for, you're a lot more likely to find it.

3. Get really good at repelling people.

The most common barrier to attracting people into your business or life is trying to please everyone. If you're keeping everyone happy, then you're not being special to anyone. When you are authentically yourself, some people are inevitably going to be repelled. And that's a good thing. Once you start sending away the wrong fits, you're making room for the right ones to come in.

4. Let yourself be found.

Think of it this way: You're a lighthouse calling the ships in. If you don't shine your light bright enough, no one's going to be able to find you. So put yourself out there. Place yourself in situations where you can be found. Introduce yourself to everyone. Be as much of yourself as you possible when you first meet. Give the right people a chance to find you.

5. Be open to whatever comes along.

At the end of the day, business or love might not come in the form that we expected. But that doesn't mean that it's a bad fit. If you're putting yourself out there authentically, watch who starts coming into your life. Sometimes who we are attracting can teach us a lot about ourselves that we didn't know. And it might be a better fit than we expected.

At this exact moment, there's at least one person out there looking for exactly what you are. Whether it's a client, lover, or just a friend — somebody is trying to find you.

So give them a chance. Put yourself out there. The good, the bad, and the ugly, be authentic. Don't just be another carbon copy of someone else. Show people exactly who you are, so the right fits can find you.

When you open up and put yourself out there authentically, you don't have to wait six months to find out something isn't a fit. You'll create a business you're proud of and a life you'll love right now. And that already sounds attractive, doesn't it?

Stop Making Stupid People Famous

Err.. how else are we gonna say this?

Ok, let's try understand it like this. When someone is desperate for human attention and fame, there's the high possibility of indulging in societal immoral acts.

Over the social networks, some people - usually girls - upload nude pictures just to gain insane popularity.

 

Now, many actresses and so called entertainers compete among themselves on who can dress revealing the most - going almost naked. Some others just say things that doesn't edify the public - both young or old - all to gain popularity. This is noticed in different aspects and most be stopped.

 

Stupidity wouldn't thrive if we don't accommodate or entertain it. On the dangerous end, if we smile, joke, entertain or handle stupidity with levity, the younger generations would try improve our generation's stupidity and the implication would be grievous on the remaining morality in the Earth.

Life: Respectful You.

Respect is for those who deserve it because they have earned it. If you want to be respected first and foremost, you must respect yourself first, and carry yourself in a respectful manor while also respecting others who deserve to be respected and even sometimes those who don't deserve it because you can't give them the power to change who you are...which is respectful/courteous.

Beware of "Greek gifts"

The term, ‘Greek gift’, is used to describe a gesture that comes with strings attached. It is the strategy of giving someone a gift with the intent to entrap him or to influence his subsequent action or to trick him into a compromising situation. For some people, it could actually result in death. 

There are some gifts with the intents of making you 'owe' the person, then you'll feel bad not bulging to wrong deals. People have been noted to give sex to people just so they can pass communicable diseases or blackmail the individual later on. At workspaces, social hangouts, and neighbourhood, these deceptive people sharing "evil gifts" are all around you.
 

Always wisely examine every proposal brought to you, including those by seemingly well-meaning people. Do not be in a hurry to accept suggestions to do something or enter into very attractive deals that appear too easy and demands little or nothing from you. Nothing of value and enduring comes cheap. Always look out for a hidden trap or trick that could throw you into a public scandal and shame, or eventually cost you dearly. When you come to a crossroads in life; take a knee, think and ask for help to handle all such tricky and tempting situations. 

Bottom line: All that glitters is not gold

Life Counsels: My Ex Who Is About Getting Married Wants To Sleep With Me

"She is about getting married and am now into another relationship but she is still insisting we continue having sex till after her marriage. As i type this, she is seriously disturbing me. She was very nice but i just can't do it bc of my conscience, putting my self in the guys shoe. Moreover, chances r that she may still want same even after marriage as she's been complaining that her guy dosnt satisfy her as i did. What shud i do......am confused"

Counsel: Men should observe a very important and helpful rule when it comes to interaction with an Ex who is about to or already married. Become extremely platonic friends. 

Do not entertain hearing stories and incidents from her marriage, too long chats, let alone invites to heinous sexual advances! 

This isn't a confusing situation; it's about choosing from two distant options like north and south pole. It's about extreme right and extreme wrong.

Coming to think of it; for your Ex to be getting into a lifetime relationship she knows for certainty she isn't of and won't be happy in, she needs to grow up and get psychologically! While you need to run away from her!
In order to prevent yourself from falling into the temptation, you should tell 'someone mature' about it instead of bottling it in to yourself.
Friends at the bar might tell you to be a "man" and enjoy the advances while you can...but those are foolish talks that have high possibility of landing you in regrets later in life.
The Choice is yours...but remember there's lifetime joy for the wise.

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The First Thing Men Notice in Ladies and Looking Good

What do you think is the first thing a man notices when he sees you? (Hint: you’ve got two of them—but they’re probably not what you think.) 

If you guessed “boobs” you’re certainly among the majority. But, um, you’re aiming too low. 

The absolute first aspect of your appearance that grabs a man’s attention are the very things with which you’re reading this article: your eyes! It’s been proven time and time again, in study after study. 

The eyes have it, and because the eyes also happen to be the first place ageing makes itself apparent, ladies hoping to remain as attractive as possible might want to take a moment to rethink how they’re going about enhancing them. 

The eyes have been called the window to the soul..

When tasked with beautifying your eyes, the first idea that comes to mind might be a trip to the cosmetics counter for a makeover, complete with some brand new smoky shadows, and the whole "decoration". However, you need hold your horses and think for a bit. The "work of art" you do to your eye lash and brows speaks volumes about your personality. When the "additives" are too much, it removes the beauty you have and makes you look the opposite. The truth and shocker is that many ladies look more beautiful with just a clear neat appearance.. As known, nature is the best "makeup" you can wear. 

A smoldering eye might sound sexy and attractive, but in reality it’s not something that looks good on everyone. (Let’s not even talk about the effort necessary to properly create the look, either.) 

Men are attracted to beautiful eyes, but how many times have you heard a man complain about a woman wearing too much makeup? That’s the tricky thing about the opposite sex. They’re into a perfect appearance, but evidence of artificiality, like heavy-handed, clumpy mascara all fall into one category - ugly.

Generally speaking, it’s one of their biggest turnoffs.

5 Signs she’s In Love with Her Pastor

Pastors have the talent of influence and it comes at a cost because it can lead to trouble if it’s not handled responsibly. This is especially true for male pastors whose congregation is disproportionately comprised of women. Most of us have probably already read and/or heard about pastors who were caught having an affair with a female congregant. It’s no surprise, as the power of influence is much stronger than we are willing to acknowledge.

There are signs that you can look for in a woman who has potentially fallen in love with her pastor. Check out them out:

1. She quotes her pastor constantly, even in non- religious dialogue. Women who have fallen in love with their pastors truly cling on to his every word. Not quoting the bible; no, the pastor. They oftentimes quote him, even in conversation that has nothing to do with faith and/ or religion. If you find yourself knowing more about the woman’s pastor and her place of worship than you do about her, that’s a strong indication that she in love with her pastor.

2. She goes out of her way to please the pastor. Women who are in love with their pastor will do whatever it takes to please him. When the pastor has a birthday celebration, she brings the most expensive gift. When the pastor organizes a new ministry, she volunteers to run it. When the pastor asks for donations, she writes the first check. Her life is dedicated to making him happy at all costs.

 

3. She’s very sensitive to criticism of her pastor. A woman who has fallen in love with her pastor will not tolerate any criticism of him. She grows visibly upset with people who challenge him on his teachings — even if the challenge is warranted. When unpleasant rumors about him spread like wildfire in the church, she’s usually the person who does not believe it, even when there’s valid evidence to support the rumors.

 

4. She puts a lot of thought into her appearance for church. There are some women who are fashion savvy just because it’s a daily part of their lives. There are other women who aren’t fashion savvy but put much more effort into their attire for church versus their attire for the remainder of the week. These women also make sure their hair, nails, and makeup are up to par, as they want to make sure that the pastor notices their exterior beauty.

5. She expects every man she dates to be like her pastor. Women who have fallen in love with their pastor revere him as the “holy grail” of manhood. In their minds, their pastor is a good man to his wife and family; and he knows how to instill the same value systems that he upholds into other men. The woman who is in love with her pastor considers a perspective husband’s decision to join her church to be a deal breaker. If he, in anyway, believes the church is not for him, she does not find him worthy of dating and/or marrying.

5 Things A Man Should Think Of Before Having Sex

"Sex is thrilling, amazing and incredibly powerful. In fact, the drive for sex can make a man
insane. But as Spiderman’s uncle once said (I really love this quote and I use it all the time) “with great power comes great responsibility,” and with the manhood comes accountability."

Here are five things to consider before having sex: 

1) Why are you doing this anyway? Sadly enough, commercialized hip hop on the radio makes its billions by teaching black men to have sex with any pretty thing with a working vagina. The rule is that if she’s “fine” and she’s willing, then you’d be a fool not to take it. The sad part of this story is that a lot of brothers soon find that a toxic woman, even one with a beautiful smile, can make you wish you were never born. In additional to women who can be flat out evil and devious, there are others who are “walking public health hazards”. Everything that looks clean is not.  

2) Diseases are everywhere; when’s the last time YOU went to the doctor to get tested for STDs? Not just HIV, but Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, Herpes, HPV and all the other things that can kill you? Are you really stupid enough to think that you can run through every woman you want and not catch at least two or three of these diseases (yes, even with a condom, since a lot of people don’t wear condoms when they have oral sex)? Everyone wants to blame gay black men for the fact that HIV rates among black women are through the roof, but an irresponsible heterosexual is far more devastating than a responsible gay man any day of the week.

3) Are you ready for kids? Newsflash: There tends to be a correlation between sexual activity and child birth. Babies are not delivered by Storks, they are delivered by baby’s mamas. Some people talk about “hitting that” and “getting it in,” as if there is no chance that this woman might eventually be running around with the your child in her womb. When you choose to sleep with a woman, you may be putting your life and your child’s life in that woman’s hands. This leads to our next question…. 

4) Would you want this woman to be the mother of your child? So, you’re about to plant your seed of life into the woman that you don’t know, don’t like and don’t want to hang around more than 10 minutes after the sex is over? Good choice. How about spending the next 30 years with this woman, as she conspires to keep you out of the life your child, sucks up a massive chunk of your paycheck and teaches your kids all the wrong values, with you being able to do nothing about it?

Your seed is valuable, and you shouldn’t share it with just any woman who opens herself up to you. You have to think about your future. Speaking of child support… 

5) Do you want to pay child support for the rest of your life? Let me answer that question – no you don’t. Terrell Owens once thought it was a GOOD thing that he had as many women as he wanted. Now, he’s slowly realizing that his blessing has turned into a curse. The man who once had money to the ceiling is now taking a bath in his own pity party. Terrell didn’t plan, and all the other dudes out there making babies like there’s no tomorrow will also expect someone to feel sorry for them years later when they are broke, busted and disgusted. The truth is that I don’t feel sorry for them, and if you make the same choices, the world won’t feel sorry for you either. 

Sex is thrilling, amazing and incredibly powerful. In fact, the drive for sex can make a man insane. Little boys have no business having sex with anyone, so when you share yourself with a woman in the future, you must make sure that you’re thinking like a man.

Michelle Obama Shows Us How It’s Done; Without Words

Yes you might have seen the “selfie” pictures President Obama, David Cameron, and the Prime Minister of Denmark, Helle Thorning-Schmidt, took at Nelson Mandela’s memorial service on Tuesday. Noted also was First lady Michelle Obama who showed some displeasure through her body language. Many have taken up the subject asking why the three leaders chose to act “children cheesy” at an important event, but let’s see Michelle do her thing in pictures.

1. Watch him closely to see how he relates. Make sure to read his every move..

 

 

2. Sound your warning and leave him and the enemy in shock..

 

 

3.If he gets the hint let him be in peace, but if he forgets the rules as fast..

 

 

 4. Let him enjoy the final moments then strike..

 

 

5. Occupy your rightful position.. 

 

 

 6. Problem solved and everyone is happy..

See that? No drama or argument, and so smooth and professional.

 

Bottom line: What's yours is yours...you need no sweat to retain it. 

Urge for Sex

Now a days, people are offering far more reasons for choosing to engage in sexual activity than in years back. And we're doing it more often too. It’s a stark contrast from historical assumptions, which cited only three sexual motive: To make babies, to feel good, or because you're in love.

Today's reasons for taking a roll in the hay seem to vary as much as the terms for the deed itself. From pleasure to procreation, insecurity to inquisitiveness, the list goes on. 

These days, sexual behaviours seem to have taken on many different psychological, social, cultural, even religious meanings. Yet, some say, at the most basic level, there is only one true reason people seek sex; we are wired for sex.

We are programmed to do so. Asking why matured people have sex is akin to asking why we eat. Our brains are designed to motivate us toward that behaviour. The idea that humans are hard-wired for sex reflects an evolutionary perspective, in order to promote species survival. 

The First Thing Men Notice in Ladies and Looking Good

What do you think is the first thing a man notices when he sees you? (Hint: you’ve got two of them—but they’re probably not what you think.) 

If you guessed “boobs” you’re certainly among the majority. But, um, you’re aiming too low. 

The absolute first aspect of your appearance that grabs a man’s attention are the very things with which you’re reading this article: your eyes! It’s been proven time and time again, in study after study. 

The eyes have it, and because the eyes also happen to be the first place ageing makes itself apparent, ladies hoping to remain as attractive as possible might want to take a moment to rethink how they’re going about enhancing them. 

The eyes have been called the window to the soul..

When tasked with beautifying your eyes, the first idea that comes to mind might be a trip to the cosmetics counter for a makeover, complete with some brand new smoky shadows, and the whole "decoration". However, you need hold your horses and think for a bit. The "work of art" you do to your eye lash and brows speaks volumes about your personality. When the "additives" are too much, it removes the beauty you have and makes you look the opposite. The truth and shocker is that many ladies look more beautiful with just a clear neat appearance.. As known, nature is the best "makeup" you can wear. 

A smoldering eye might sound sexy and attractive, but in reality it’s not something that looks good on everyone. (Let’s not even talk about the effort necessary to properly create the look, either.) 

Men are attracted to beautiful eyes, but how many times have you heard a man complain about a woman wearing too much makeup? That’s the tricky thing about the opposite sex. They’re into a perfect appearance, but evidence of artificiality, like heavy-handed, clumpy mascara all fall into one category - ugly.

Generally speaking, it’s one of their biggest turnoffs.

Shifted hips!

The society is gradually making her demands and people are running head over heels to meet up. The type of hair you make, eye lash fixing, cloths you wear, shoes you buy, designs on your face, and other bodily fixes are been corrupted.
Why not be you? Instead of trying to look like everyone else, avoid the public disgrace and be unique, simple, beautiful and radiant!

Counsel: Don't do it

When an action is wrong by some parameters; you know it'll make you ashamed and regretful in future; or there would be repercussion(s), then you try hiding the atrocity you've committed!

Why do it in the first place?

Why not shun the devil while the was whispering to your ears?

Its best you exercise due self-control and don't do it!

Qualities That Makes Women Irresistible to Men

• Personal hygiene: Let it be known to all ladies that ‘from a look at you while walking on the street, men can know your hygiene level.’ You want know you the spots? The back of your foot; your nails; your hair; your teeth, your armpit (when wearing armless blouses), your dress, your smell (fragrance/body odor) and how sanitized you are to keep sweats off.
• Smiling: This is a facial expression that has a control on the whole body. Smiling makes a woman more beautiful, approachable, looking confident, cheerful and radiant. So smile; not because you’ve had it easy and satisfied but because it brings the best out of you. Flash a smile; it hides the fear and timidity. A seasonal smile to a man makes him feel accepted, comfortable around you and keeps you on his mind.
• Listening: Whining and nagging are opposite to the good quality of listening in a lady. It is rare to have a lady who whines, nags and listens. Rarely do men and women want to listen during conversation these days; therefore, when a man meets a woman who listens and isn’t eager to ‘take over’ or ‘dominate’ the conversation, it interests him. Note that this isn’t for a woman not to have her opinion and voice it but right way and time.
• Femininity: The girlishness or lady ladylikeness in a woman is an aurora that just attracts men. Don’t fight it; it’s just the way men are made. Femininity cuts across dressing, carriage, comportment, speaking, and all other lifestyles. It’s either you are male or female; you can’t be both and there’s not spot in between.  That been said, men do women not men. (You might be thinking what about gays; well, this conversation and classification does not include them).
• No drama: Men dislike drama queens; especially does that act to be noticed in the public. Let your saneness, charisma, modest dressing, fragrance and decency speak for you. 

These are the top merits that sway a man and makes him stare carelessly when he knows he cant have you.

 

Life Counsels: Rich vs Poor

Many people are of the perception that for a community to be balanced there must be “the rich and the poor”. There should be some to call the shots and others to follow the instructions. It has been so for centuries and can be said to be as old evolution. 

It is true everyone can’t be equally rich or have the same strength of voice, but the rich and poor syndrome is increasingly causing greater destruction to the “humanness of mankind”. Mankind has always had some “reflex rules” that from memorial governs her lifestyle – making us different from (lower) animals. These tenets and codes are noticed in our actions, verbal communications, aspirations and achievements.  

Nowadays, self-centeredness, jealousy, hatred, addiction to power, psychological segregation and individual goals has made us less humane. By the observation of our daily life, it is plainly noticeable that the exclusive traits that made us desirable human beings are fading away. 

•The evil imaginations of man against fellow men are increasingly evil. 

•Our moral and ethical judgments are gradually been reduced to suite our unpleasant desires.

•Genuine social interactions are continuously scare and replaced by personal objectives.

•Humans now increasingly kill for sports, entertainment, greed and personal gains. 

•Science, urbanizations, politics and career are infecting the decency of humanity in a big way; they increase the “rich and poor” segregation.

This isn’t about the availability of more resources to some sect than the other but psychological degradation it is causing the humanity. It breeds negative effects from both the rich and the poor. 

BOTTOM LINE…whether you become rich or you are poor, remember to remain human.   

Stories & Opinions: Fling and Blackmail

Friday's night out with the girls are often fun so far there isn't any drama, but this is one I wish I had skipped. It seemed to be fun after the dance at the club because the guy I danced with appeared more into me. I couldn't really tell if he was used to the environment and circumstances but he surely appeared very calm and collected. After a couple of drinks, I got a bit more relaxed like him but he didn't need the drinks to be. My girlfriends which I left the campus with were all hooked up with drinks and guys. Sooner than expected, we were leaving the club but not as a pack that we came. Its next to normal for students to live outside - just around the private university grounds - and so were the dudes we went with. 

I didn't know the guy I was with but he was dressed cool and matured, also spoke so articulate and smart. I had a part of me really hoping the night turns out to me more than just a fling. 

We took a ride to his crib and putting together my poor judgement status plus the drink he gave me in his house (whether enhanced or not, I can't tell), the alcohol in my system made it quite easy for him and I gave him my cookie. I woke up quite late and honestly had poor recollection of the latter part of the night. If the tale ended here, I'll have said its wasn't a bad night. 

Two days later, after a buzz, I noticed a new contact on my blackberry messenger and it was Adam -the club guy! He said hi and before I could respond in my spree of excitement, a nude picture of a female came in. With a bit disgusted expression over my face I open it and found out it was me in his house! It had my face in all five that he eventually sent. Next he sent was "I have videos also and would post them to your facebook friends and other sites." 

The story short? He asked me to get him 300,000 cash within three days! 

stories & opinions: Why do I love a married man?

I work with this guy whom I absolutely adore. He is 7 years younger than me and married. We have worked together for years and know each other pretty good. Our values and morals are almost exactly the same. Our logic is so similar it is really scary. About five months ago we started having an affair. There is a connection between us that I can not explain. The attraction is off the chart and its both ways. Do not get me wrong he is not a cheater and I know what you must be thinking. For several years I teased him because I knew he would not cheat and it was a challenge for me. Well I finally got him and its killing me more now than being rejected did. I told myself after I finally got him just once and we would never do it again. Well it did not work out like that. He really is a great guy and way too good for me. His wife has cheated on him several times but until the last incident he never would. I am open minded and I'm almost certain its just a mental thing for me. I know I really love him. I have just recently been trying to end things between us but its really hard. The reason I did is I'm afraid he will divorce her and realize he didn't feel the way he thought he did for me. Having him would be a fairy tale but my prince has another princess. I'm ashamed to admit it but the reason I ended it now is they just had their second baby and I'm scared he will leave her. Why am I so hung up on this guy? What kind of character flaw is it? Do I just like punishing myself and if that's it how do I stop? Our relationship is so much deeper than this. The connection is so real. Our coworkers have told us both they can tell we have strong feelings for each other by the way we look at each other. I need help before I ruin this guys life by not being able to say no. I'm 33 and have been married twice. The first was abusive and the second one developed a drug problem and would not get help. My head is sorta on my shoulders straight. I know people can convince themselves of almost anything so how do I convince myself I do not love him and get over it. Wait, he will always hold the key to my heart without a doubt. I told him once that I thought when everyone was born you were given half a heart. Your heart with have scar and many different features that reflect everything about you from morals, to what you enjoy doing, to values and just everything about you even your attitude. I told him ours was almost a perfect match and you never found that. Less friction in a relationship. How do I let my prince charming go? We have told each other we loved each other 3 years ago when he was separated from his wife the first time but after she got done with her boyfriend she wanted him back. He went for his son. I have let him go more than once and he always comes back, I try to resist but never do for long. If you love them let them go.

 If they love you they will come back and he has. He told me that it literally scared him from how we think alike. When he is acting funny all I have to do is put myself in his spot and I always figure out what is bothering him without him telling me. And he can read me even better than I can him. I am almost sure that sooner or later they will split anyway but not sure if I'll be around because we live in different counties. I truly love him and is it ok to just go for it and let it be his choice. I do love him enough to give up my happily ever after for him and I know I will never find this again in anyone else. It's rare. A guy that works with us tells me all the time we are the same. We love the same. By that I mean we put the other before ourselves. What do I do? I'm getting tired of worrying about everyone else and I'm about ready to try and claim what will complete me like no one else ever will. HELP!!

Do you dress like a “lady”?

Some say “dress like a lady even if you don’t behave like one”. Your dressing might save you from some initial deserved insults/assaults on the street. The campaign on harassments and assaults are been insulted by comments like “her dressing welcomed it”. We all see lowlife guys whistle or say insulting words at females and laugh just because they (the girls) dress too revealing and or tight. These “express approvals” are not for looking decent, impressive and beautiful but for feeding their libido for free. Don’t be confused, if you as a lady dress next to naked and pass walk down the street, those that would approve would approve but not because they’ll be proud to associate with you or show you off as someone they are related to.

Simple but Elegant

It is permit-able to say decent, modest and neatly dressed ladies never witness this. Is the reason by any means a secret? Here are some simple dressing guidelines that bread respect:

Modestly stylish

·         Dress appropriate, according to your body-size, shape and age. Please, avoid the temptation of squeezing yourself into dresses. If it’s a beautiful dress but not your size, drop it. Forcing it on brings more embarrassments and disrespect than compliment.

·         Ensure your clothes are clean, smell good and pressed! This is very important to appear sane let alone ‘ladylike’.

·         Select cloths and styles that pronounce and protect you femininity at once; most dresses these modern days pronounce femininity but don’t protect it.

·         Clean hair, nails, feet and good body odour. These are also part of your dressing and they embrace a man.

·         Ladies do not need or use excessive accessories; extreme use of facial accessories make you look scary and ugly. Often, a natural beauty is better than facial artistry.

A notable thought; no genuine man would smile when his lady is public attacked as such. It is just embarrassing and most blame goes mothers, followed by the entertainment industries.

DECENCY IS EXPENSIVE AND SIMPLICITY IS GOLDEN