Hard Relationships can Survive

Relationships are not always rosy. You may have some bitter moons. There are several situations in relationship that you can’t even describe in writing. Relationships can be confusing at times.

Lots of relationships collapse during the harsh seasons of building a family. But most relationships that are meant to be and diligently guarded last. Not everyone gives up. Not every relationship splits. They are strong. I believe yours is (can be) too! Strong Relationships have ingredients.

Consistent Communication, Patience, Faithfulness, Selflessness, Cooperation, Forgiveness, Respect, Understanding and consideration, Gratefulness, Contentment, Positive thinking and anticipation for a coexisting future.

These among others make up a promising relationship. Now that you them, go have a take at happy relationship.

Break-up, Pain and Emotional Reaction

Disappointment and pain is linked to emotional numbness. A person can be hurt to the point in which they no longer feel anything.

It is guaranteed that there'll always be tough times in relationships; more like a fact. However, this doesn't have to be the decider of the result of the relationship. Mathematically, the out come of your relationship is based on 20-80 event ratio. 20% what happens but 80% is on how you respond.

In many relationships, 'emotions' is what gets you started but the reaction between you and your partner's habit is what keeps you going. Have you checked if the habits of the prospective partner are those you can get along with? Even when they get considerably off? Many people have loved and been hurt because the relationship didn't go as hoped.

The grand lessons are:

1. Do not start a relationship without proper and diligent consideration of the possibility of a long lasting relationship.

2. Do not start your relationship based on emotional feelings. Knowledge needs be in play mostly.

3. Do not stay at a spot in life crying after a unhappy relationship. Life is way too short to be crying over the jerk that broke your heart. When you realise that relationship wasn't how you wished, be grateful you could get the lesson experience just taught you.

4. Do not go about hating your ex. It would impede you from moving on. In fact, never blame anyone in your life. Good people bring you happiness, bad people being you experience.

5. Do not live your life seeking the validation of others. That is the best way to be likeable, charismatic and loved genuinely for you.

6 Things You Shouldn't Say To Single Friends

Whether you've just started dating someone or you're in a long-term relationship, it can be tempting to set friends up or discuss their private lives. While you may be open with your friends, there are some things that you should never say. Getting too private can seem condescending and you run the risk of losing your friends for good.

 

1. Anything to Do with Online Dating

You may have found the love of your life through online dating, but that doesn't mean your friend wants to try it. Yes, there are benefits, but you want to stay away from anything that involves this topic. While you think you're helping, you're friend sees it that she's not good enough without someone else in her life. Of course, if she brings it up as a subject, feel free to chat away about it.

 

2. Name Calling

You may tell her that she's being picky or is too hard to please, but that isn't going to help her. She'll feel hurt that you think that way. This is her life, and she wants to find Mr. Right. If you actually ask her about your must-haves when it came to dating, she may have thought you weren't picky enough. The last thing you want is her upsetting you by telling you your man isn't good enough.

 

3. Asking About an Ex

You may have loved her ex-boyfriend, but there was a reason why they broke up. Sometimes the breakups aren't because your friend wanted to end the relationship. Why bring up a past relationship, unless she is the one who starts the conversation about it?

 

4. The Marriage Question

Happily married women expect everyone to be in the same situation as them. They start asking their friends when they're getting married, or why they aren't married yet. Even those with boyfriends will find these questions hurtful and annoying. The choice of marriage isn't always their fault. Their boyfriends may not have popped the question yet, or they may be going through difficult periods in their relationships.

 

5. Talking About Getting Out There

There is a common feeling that single women aren't going everything they can to meet someone. A friend may comment on them being in the home all the time, or constantly at work. The problem is that you don't see your friend all the time. You don't know how actively she is looking for someone, or whether she even wants to find a man to add to her life. If you're trying to get her to meet a friend you have, encourage her to come to a party by telling her that there's someone you'd like her to meet.

 

6. Mentioning Age

This is a big no-no. You don't want to mention age, even if you mean it as a compliment. Saying "you're still young", is like saying, "you're getting on a bit and time is running out"; you may not mean it that way, but it's how it comes across. The best thing you can do is stay away from the age factor completely, unless she asks for your opinion; and then, tread carefully.  -The Trent

Relationship Break-up as a Wake-up.

Contrary to common negative opinions and reactions to break-ups, there could be a huge positivity evolving your way.

Many people sit and cry, feel dejected and unwanted, begin a negative psychological painting of the world, and in all start hoping there's a chance to suffer through the cause of the break up. In other words, hoping and waiting for a "make up". This shouldn't be.

 

This is a time you should wake up psychological, physically, and in any other aspect. Its time you think how you spent your time, life and what you gained or lost during that relationship.

How can you be a better person?

What part of you needs improvement?

What did your 'ex' complain about and is it true?

What's the better picture of you going to look like?

How can you be that person?

Ask and answer such self-awaking questions, and then the break-up would be to your own advantage.

Five different ways you select a wrong person to marry

 1.     When you’re focused more on chemistry of the bond than on the character of the individual, you are choosing wrongly. Yes chemistry is good and ignites the fire, but good character that you can live with keeps that fire burning. Many people get married when they are in the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust". Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character?

Of course you won’t be able to note all your prospective partner’s character, but there are some tattletales that give them away even when they are most careful trying to appear all good and perfect before you. Take note of them and decide wisely.

2.     When you choose a person that doesn’t understand you, your needs and moods, then moving forward is really a big mistake. Your unique need is to be loved, made to feel like the most important person in the world and what ever else you may want to add. But how would someone that isn’t on the same page with you emotionally tell when its time do the most good expected? How would someone that can’t “read” your mood detect your feelings and help you feel better?

3.     When you have different goals and priorities in life, then you need to think again and think real deep. Let’s say for example a lady meets a man when he’s in the middle of traveling round the world. They both have the chemistry but after a month or two, he intends leaving for another location, possibly remote region that is different in almost everything. Whereas she loves being a chef aspiring to own her own restaurant.

Now, a marriage between these two would be a mistake. To avoid growing apart, they must both realize what they are individually “living for” and if they can do that together when married.

Soul mates” are “goal mates”.

4.     When you decide to marry an individual shortly after getting “intimate”, then your judgment has over an 80% chance of been clouded. 

I am very aware we currently live in a world were zero intimacy (sex) before marriage is gradually becoming a myth which really shouldn’t be so. Intimacy before commitment of marriage mostly presents a big problem because it prevents full honest exploration of partner regarding important issues. It has never been a necessity to take a “test drive” in order to ascertain each other’s physical compatibility.

5.     When you get married to escape from personal problems, you have started on a wrong foot. Family or societal pressures push people to get into relationships. “There isn’t love even from family and supposed friends, and so I need a man/lady” is a doomed move. Many are unhappy with themselves and think marriage is the solution. You bring what you have to the table in marriage; and when you have something negative to give, it’s unfair to your spouse.

If you are unhappy with your life, fix it while you are single and then you’ll feel better without a sense of rush when you approach the garden on marriage. This would gain you more ‘points’ when you finally elope with your spouse.  

As a give-away, I’ll add this; never marry someone that is emotionally dependent on something else while trying develop another relationship with you. A person who hasn’t separated from his parents (in the case of men), or in love with another person isn’t a good choice. People get emotionally dependent of other things like money, sports, work, drugs, internet or even hobbies. Be careful to have a matured partner free from all these bonds before you even think of eloping with him/her. Else you won’t be the number one priority and that’s no basis for a real marriage.

Reasons YOU ARE and STILL WOULD be single

Do you sit wondering why you are still without a partner (lover) for over a long time? Especially when you are shopping for a lifetime partner? Here are a few; you might stumble on some that you notice in your life.

1. Unrealistic hopes: Have you been writing up a list of “qualities and prospects” you expect from the prospective lover? Then you might wait a longer while than you thought. Some people narrow it down to the type if cloths or shoes they expect the lover to be wearing on their meeting. That’s just off!

2. Workhorse: Are you always within workspace and barely have any time to eat good dinner at home or outdoors in a nice setting? It’s hard to meet people let alone get someone you could spend time with. They key to life has always been a balancing all aspects that none suffers. Been a workaholic isn’t helpful.

3. Bad dating history: You might have felt once you breakup with your wrong dating choices and go one to the next person, it’s all forgotten. But there are hunting shadows. They are most painful when the past gets back and hurt you when you feel you have met the very “perfect” person. Dating people with social/psychological issues might irritate your new partner if the old pops up.

4. Expecting rejection: When you are always thinking there’s a “NO” response awaiting you if you walk up to any one, then you might as well get it. There’s always a chance for everyone, especially those who play their cards right from the start. It starts with a smile and an open heart.

5. Past comparisons: Meeting new people is good but equating them to your former dates and experiences is a way of removing all good hopes. Everyone is different and unique in his or her own way. It’s essential to remember again that everyone is unique.

6. Wrong company: When you move with married folks, socialites or workaholics, it poses great hindrance on your ability to find prospective interests.   

7. Wrong choices: Have you been opting for people based of first appearance and “you feel you two would make a good match”? It’s ideal to the math if indeed you know what you are looking for. Try dating someone open to you, around you and ready to be in a relationship.

If you notice a couple or any of these in your life, then you must work on them so you have better chances.

Attribute of a true relationship (11) -Imperfection

No Relationship is Perfect.

A relationship wouldn't be a relationship without imperfections. Arguments are a natural thing when it comes to relationships! Don't be worried if you're having the occasional fight.

Questions and Opinions: "Guys, Love and Friendzone"

Question: Why do guys friendzone girls they claim to love?

Answer: Everyone isn't created the same, for example, some are more out spoken that others. Interests, relationships and dating have evolved over time, and many actions usually aren't as they appear. 

Why do some guys "friend-zone" girls. First, the depends on personality of the individual involved.

1. Some might not be courageous to ask the lady out. Shy guys somethings have shaky hands and voice when talking to a lady they have an emotional pull to.

2. Some might have a feeling the relationship won't work out and are scared to try. Again I say, we are not the created the same; some people (guys) indeed are scared of complicated relationships!

3. The lady's association with another guy might make the "friend-zoner" think she's in a relationship or someone else has her attention. Therefore, if he tries, he feels there's a 'NO' waiting for him.

4. Here's a common one: Some guys hate rejection, are scared of rejection and run from anything that might bring it! (They feel friend-zoning makes them sure of if they are going to get a positive answer before asking). 

5. Some guys are in currently relationships but do not love the lady (probably asked her out due to curiosity and experiment), and they find it hard to jump out. After meeting a lady he loves, he keeps her in the "friend-zone" hoping his current relationship crashes. 

6. On the offside, some guys want many ladies, so friend-zoning keeps the ladies at arms length.

7. As you said, the guy might just "claim to love" the lady but really doesn't. If you love someone, you set things straight to get things levelled and rosy between the two of you.

Hope that helps.  

Qualities That Makes Women Irresistible to Men

• Personal hygiene: Let it be known to all ladies that ‘from a look at you while walking on the street, men can know your hygiene level.’ You want know you the spots? The back of your foot; your nails; your hair; your teeth, your armpit (when wearing armless blouses), your dress, your smell (fragrance/body odor) and how sanitized you are to keep sweats off.
• Smiling: This is a facial expression that has a control on the whole body. Smiling makes a woman more beautiful, approachable, looking confident, cheerful and radiant. So smile; not because you’ve had it easy and satisfied but because it brings the best out of you. Flash a smile; it hides the fear and timidity. A seasonal smile to a man makes him feel accepted, comfortable around you and keeps you on his mind.
• Listening: Whining and nagging are opposite to the good quality of listening in a lady. It is rare to have a lady who whines, nags and listens. Rarely do men and women want to listen during conversation these days; therefore, when a man meets a woman who listens and isn’t eager to ‘take over’ or ‘dominate’ the conversation, it interests him. Note that this isn’t for a woman not to have her opinion and voice it but right way and time.
• Femininity: The girlishness or lady ladylikeness in a woman is an aurora that just attracts men. Don’t fight it; it’s just the way men are made. Femininity cuts across dressing, carriage, comportment, speaking, and all other lifestyles. It’s either you are male or female; you can’t be both and there’s not spot in between.  That been said, men do women not men. (You might be thinking what about gays; well, this conversation and classification does not include them).
• No drama: Men dislike drama queens; especially does that act to be noticed in the public. Let your saneness, charisma, modest dressing, fragrance and decency speak for you. 

These are the top merits that sway a man and makes him stare carelessly when he knows he cant have you.

 

Make your presence felt and get his attention

Many are times when guys are waiting for just a sign and looking for just a tiny clue to encourage them to move towards a lady that they perceive to be suitable for them. Often have ladies been around guys that seem to act like they don’t know the lady is interested in them. There is need for everyone to play his or her role to meet a new person with the interest of getting to know the individual. Most times, ladies hold the plug to connect or not; however, there are rules to be followed and guidelines to direct decent, modest and self-respecting ladies to welcoming a guy to them.

1. Smile out your interest: Even if you’re an introvert, just a smile does the trick. The smile welcomes a reciprocal smile and if interest, a conversation. Keep eye contact while smiling to connote “the smile is for you”.
2. Awaken and direct curiosity towards you: Generating a guy’s interest in you is necessary and remember to do this modestly and maturely. You wouldn’t interest any guy if you throw yourself around and there’s no puzzle about you. When a guy is interested to know how your voice sounds, social interests and mind-set, it is because it’s not all out there in the open and that’s good.
3. Make your absence and presence felt: Endeavour to be around but not paying too much attention to him. Been totally out of sight and contact isn’t a good idea; however, you are not to pop up every time he beckons. If he really wants you around, he’ll try every possible means to show you reasons why you should.
4. Note the “use of words”: When in the moderately long communication stage where you two exchange more than just ‘hellos’, his use of words would let you know if he wants you around and to what intimacy level. The subject matter you both converse on and whether or not he tries having ‘personal time’ with you are ways you’ll detect if you are deeply wanted. If he doesn't respect you (which means you wont last with him), you notice from what he calls you. Therefore, listen very well.
5. Seasonal jesting helps: In a case where the person isn’t so familiar with you, when you throw in a joke or point out a reason to laugh together, it reduces the tension and makes it easier to talk to you further.  Humor is a way of showing you are interested.
6. Casually spend time together: Hang out together but just as friends and try not to show too much importance to it because some people respond by acting pricey (i.e. hard to get). It won’t be easy keeping the time you spend together to be minimal, therefore, hang out with other friends too. They’ll help you while away the time and urge.
7. Seasonal time-off: Sometimes you need to intentionally stay away until there’s more attached to the ‘just-friends’ status. This brings you respect and prevents you from appearing desperate. You are to politely act like “I’m interested in you and I have other things doing. You want more time? give me a reason to give you”.
8. Be Authentic: You shouldn’t fake attitude, accents, social life or knowledge. When you are yourself, sooner than you know it, he’ll see how much on an interesting person you are and give himself reason to be with you.

Remember:

if he doesn’t show interest, someone else would come around, beg for your attention and treat you right. You don’t force it.

Why 'Christian Dating' is so Difficult

 

Christian dating in this modern world is really like a "camel going through the eye of a needle". Everything around makes it difficult and next to impossible and many people have always wondered why should it be so tough. It's simple; it's either the rules or the observer and one has to bend to the other.

Let's break it down – who made the rules, why and can't it be modified?

•Christiana said "the church" presented "them" (herself and her spouse) with the rules to strictly follow if they wanted to be joined together in that church.

•Why the rules? Well, probably to show they were in control of that relationship till they are ready and eventually get married.

•Can't the rules be bent? Well, that's going to hurt the Minister's ego and control powers…I think.

Mr. Preacher opens up to say it's far from it. "First, the church didn't make the rules, God did. We are only obliged to present and enforce the rules (as much as we can). Disobeying the rules doesn't hurt or offend us, but God. The rules are there just to help the intending couple continue godly till they are finally ready to eventually tie the knot. Lastly, no one bends God's rules! It's either you are obeying or not, you can't do half and leave half. It's so far from any church to meddle with God's words.

When anyone who studies the scripture gets on to dating, it's rather dawn on him or her that keeping off fornication, appearance of sin and keeping the bed undefiled isn't an easy lifestyle even as Jesus Christ described. Therefore, again I say it's not the church but God Himself.

On the part of the observer, what really makes it tough these days? The answer to that is simple; sex and related vices. Pre-marital sex is very common nowadays and for two people that intend living with each other for a long time, the temptation gets high when they can't get intimate but the physical urge is present and there are opportunities to. God can't change for us, so, we have to live up to His standard. It's that plain and simple."

Christian dating is tough but decent; sometimes unbearable but eventually worthwhile; odd but God's standard. "True Christian courtship nurtures you to love your partner for who God made him/her to be, to love his/her soul, personality, very being, ideas and opinions, flaws and shortcomings." You want to make God okay with your relationship, then date how He wants you to.

Worry! Worry!! Worry!!!

Pays Not To Worry

If you sit back and think, 'why do you worry?', an obvious secret would be unveiled to you that - for whatever reason you have been worrying, worry couldn't change or affect it positively in the first place.
Please do not confuse 'continuous worrying' with 'the process of seeking for ways to solve a problem'. They are two different things! One is productive while the other isn't.
Worrying is a sickness that leads to bigger sickness. It causes loss of appetite, creates ugly lifestyle habits like panting and ranting (even in the public), annoys people you have various levels of relationship with, interfers with your performance at work or school and alienate ability to sleep.
WOW...that's a lot but just the beginning because I haven't consider the likes of high blood pressure, possibility of heart attack and the likes. It indeed pays to be "worry-free".
Handle whatever you can and leave what you can't.
Take a break from problem and try look for solution instead of consuming the thoughts of the world is falling on you.
Remember whatever happens, whatever the outcome of anything; LIFE STILL GOES ON!

Secrets to a truly joyful life Day Three

Do you feel the need to inject some joy into your life? Different unfair circumstances in life popping up at you in life and you feel it’s like everything evil in life just wants to associate with you? Then grab some happiness for yourself.

Practice Forgiveness On this day, think of everyone that has hurt you, offended you or has done other things to your detriment.

One by one, forgive them. Commit yourself to forgiving every single person and circumstance that has hurt you in any way. Commit to also forgiving yourself for all your past mistakes and for allowing anything or anyone into your life that did not or does not serve your good.

Secrets to a truly joyful life Day Two

Do you feel the need to inject some joy into your life? Different unfair circumstances in life popping up at you in life and you feel it’s like everything evil in life just wants to associate with you? Then grab some happiness for yourself.

Practice Letting Go Just for today, let go of anything that is toxic to you; let go of toxic thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Abandon your need to go after that goal or deadline. Let go of needing people to like you or agree with you and let go of blaming and judging others. Just for this day, be content with everything as it is.

Secrets to a truly joyful life Day One

Do you feel the need to inject some joy into your life? Different unfair circumstances in life popping up at you in life and you feel it’s like everything evil in life just wants to associate with you? Then grab some happiness for yourself.

Practice Tolerance and Acceptance Pay attention to irritating things and people and then shift your approach and perspective towards them.

Rather than get upset that things are not going your way or people are not behaving the way you believe they should, just accept them as they are. Don’t try to change anything or anyone; accept them completely as they are.

Maintaining Joyful Love

Great passionate love is wonderful to have and retaining it needs simple continuous work. Here's how in three ways.
1. Give your partner three genuine expressions of appreciation a day. It can come in form of appreciation for things he/she's always been doing for you or for something special once done. Endeavour you say it out loud — and that you mean it. This makes your partner feel useful in your life, appreciated and respected.
2. Create time; more like an appointment, at least twice a week to spend minimum of 15 minutes with you spouse. No phones or whatever technology except it solely for playing music. Also, kissing and cuddling and talking, with sex are completely off the table during this time.
3. Endeavour to recreate sensual emotions of passion at least once a week. Twice a week is Most effective. This finds a way of re-lighting the sparks that makes marriages long lasting and happy. This is really finds a to curb fear, open up to one another and release great sense of sexual goddess inside each other.

Healthy Relationship Requirement

#1: Strong, Healthy Body. Physical health is necessary for a healthy relationship. A fit body improves the odds of a healthy relationship. A strong and healthy removes you from been the "always in need and can't give much" position. It helps been able to without restrain do various things to help your family.
#2: Spirit and Will power. The ever ready disposition of moving the relationship amidst situations depends on the psychological strength. Positivity, trust, balanced communication and such all comes in here.
#3: An open Heart: Everyone has a desire to be deeply known and deeply loved. Some people fool themselves and try to hide this but it doesn't remove the fact. An open hearts makes you willing to overcome fear and your past harm. Then you are boundless and able to love ferociously.

Quite funny: Married Two Weeks....I say "oops"

A couple had only been married for two weeks and the husband although very much in love, couldn't wait to go out on the town and party with his old buddies.

So, he said to his new wife, "Honey, I'll be right back."

"Where are you going, Coochy Coo?" asked the wife.

"I'm going to the bar, Pretty Face," he answered. I'm going to have a beer."

The wife said, "You want a beer, my love?" She opened the door to the refrigerator and showed him 25 different kinds of beer, brands from 12 different countries: Germany , Holland , Japan , India , etc

The husband didn't know what to do, and the only thing that he could think of saying was, "Yes, Lollipop... but at the bar... You know...they have frozen glasses... "

He didn't get to finish the sentence, because the wife interrupted him by saying, "You want a frozen glass, Puppy Face?" She took a huge beer mug out of the freezer, so frozen that she was getting chills just holding it.

The husband, looking a bit pale, said, "Yes, Tootsie Roll, but at the bar they have those hors d'oeuvres that are really delicious... I won't be long. I'll be right back. I promise. OK?"

"You want hors d'oeuvres, Poochie Pooh?" She opened the oven and took out 5 dishes of different hors d'oeuvres: chicken wings, pigs in blankets, mushroom caps, and little quiches.

"But my sweet honey... at the bar.... you know there's swearing, dirty words and all that..."

"You want dirty words, Cutie Pie? LISTEN UP CHICKEN $#!*! SIT YOUR ASS DOWN, SHUT THE HELL UP, DRINK YOUR BEER IN YOUR FROZEN MUG AND EAT YOUR HORS D'OEUVRES BECAUSE YOUR MARRIED ASS ISN'T GOING TO A DAMNED BAR! THAT $#!* IS OVER, GOT IT, JACKASS?"

Infidelity: Relationship Breaker of the day

 

Infidelity

Greater than lying is cheating. If the rational that genuine voluntary relationships should be "lies free", what about cheating. Its just covetous to want to cheat. Ever imagine how you'll feel if your partner that cheats while you remain truthful?

Guys: How to make her fall in love

Yes you have a good thing going; the obvious signs of care, dedication and commitment are pouring coming from both ends, then it’s there are steps for you as a man to ensure you seal up the deal continually and keep her affection for present and growing. 

• Been mature covers almost everything and governs all interactions in a relationship. If a man is mature, hardly would any lady want to leave him or won’t try pleasing him. Maturity helps to know when to apologise and how to move a relationship forward. It shows confidence and wisdom.
• Everyone has to sacrifice because of love and as a man; it is an incomparable way to show your lady you put her first. It is also a mature response to other people’s desires.
• Providing security leaves a lady feeling whatever the situation is, I can run to him and count on him to always be on my side. The same secure feeling comes from the man that wants the relationship to grow.
• Mistakes happen and there are circumstances you won’t initially understand; therefore, you need to chill! Do blow problems out of proportion.
• Care in act and not just with words; move yourself to make her feel better when down, sick or moody.
• Balance the time you spend with her and your guys. Too much time would suffocate her and too little time would dehydrate your relationship. Plus you need have other associations outside your relationship.
• Sharing and most importantly requesting for advice not necessarily because you don’t know what to do but because you want her to feel her input matters.
• You need to be funny and relax around her sometimes. Don’t be a cautious of the detail or every action or word that transpires. She must be able to act a freely with you.
• Mouth odours, body odours, rough, unshaved and unkempt hairs are repulsive! Bad hygiene makes anyone want to run. If you have that, better erase the habit before getting close at all. Be neat and clean.
• Sending short messages once or twice a day shows you remember her during your day and that comforts her that your affection towards her goes beyond temporary.
• Let your eyes trail your lady and not every half naked female walking around you. You don’t get carried away by other females if your lady is on my mind and your love is with her.  There’s a way you look that makes her comfy and happy that ‘look’ is hers.
• Be masculine to protect and gentleman to accompany. Always looking out for your lady gets and retains her unreserved love.
• Say good words to her and compliment her. Hey, you better believe the compliments too! If you believe the compliments, you would treat her as such which would make her believe and nothing else would matter to her than you.
• Always listen to your lady's complains, obsessions, desires, interests and fairy-tales, Listen! Then you can know her better, help her, make her happy and get her love unreservedly.
• Don’t run away from her parents. If indeed you have good intentions towards her and your love is real with hopes of growing, there’s no need walking behind the curtain or hiding. If they and she don’t mind, why not meet them when situations presents?