Make your presence felt and get his attention

Many are times when guys are waiting for just a sign and looking for just a tiny clue to encourage them to move towards a lady that they perceive to be suitable for them. Often have ladies been around guys that seem to act like they don’t know the lady is interested in them. There is need for everyone to play his or her role to meet a new person with the interest of getting to know the individual. Most times, ladies hold the plug to connect or not; however, there are rules to be followed and guidelines to direct decent, modest and self-respecting ladies to welcoming a guy to them.

1. Smile out your interest: Even if you’re an introvert, just a smile does the trick. The smile welcomes a reciprocal smile and if interest, a conversation. Keep eye contact while smiling to connote “the smile is for you”.
2. Awaken and direct curiosity towards you: Generating a guy’s interest in you is necessary and remember to do this modestly and maturely. You wouldn’t interest any guy if you throw yourself around and there’s no puzzle about you. When a guy is interested to know how your voice sounds, social interests and mind-set, it is because it’s not all out there in the open and that’s good.
3. Make your absence and presence felt: Endeavour to be around but not paying too much attention to him. Been totally out of sight and contact isn’t a good idea; however, you are not to pop up every time he beckons. If he really wants you around, he’ll try every possible means to show you reasons why you should.
4. Note the “use of words”: When in the moderately long communication stage where you two exchange more than just ‘hellos’, his use of words would let you know if he wants you around and to what intimacy level. The subject matter you both converse on and whether or not he tries having ‘personal time’ with you are ways you’ll detect if you are deeply wanted. If he doesn't respect you (which means you wont last with him), you notice from what he calls you. Therefore, listen very well.
5. Seasonal jesting helps: In a case where the person isn’t so familiar with you, when you throw in a joke or point out a reason to laugh together, it reduces the tension and makes it easier to talk to you further.  Humor is a way of showing you are interested.
6. Casually spend time together: Hang out together but just as friends and try not to show too much importance to it because some people respond by acting pricey (i.e. hard to get). It won’t be easy keeping the time you spend together to be minimal, therefore, hang out with other friends too. They’ll help you while away the time and urge.
7. Seasonal time-off: Sometimes you need to intentionally stay away until there’s more attached to the ‘just-friends’ status. This brings you respect and prevents you from appearing desperate. You are to politely act like “I’m interested in you and I have other things doing. You want more time? give me a reason to give you”.
8. Be Authentic: You shouldn’t fake attitude, accents, social life or knowledge. When you are yourself, sooner than you know it, he’ll see how much on an interesting person you are and give himself reason to be with you.

Remember:

if he doesn’t show interest, someone else would come around, beg for your attention and treat you right. You don’t force it.