10 Worst Feelings in a Relationship

Cheated on: Been unfaithful to is a common practice but the adverse effects emotionally and psychologically are still very pronounced. Been cheated on makes some people feel like they've been fooled, wrongly lead on. Others might feel they are at fault and didn't do enough of what's expected from a partner. Most times in this world we live in, it usually the fault of the unfaithful partner.

Over thinking: Many unexplained actions have lead to over thinking which makes many misread actions or words. Overthinking pops up when communication is poor between two partners. Over thinking must be reduced at all cost through the use of proper, respectful and frequent communication to convey thoughts, plans and incidents.

Lied to: Lies hurt too bad especially when they come from someone that is loved and respected. Many people are of the opinion you have to lie to a person you love because you love them too much to hurt them. Whatever would make you lie to your partner in the first place would most likely be something wrong. Instead of lying, identify the situation that'll make you lie and avoid it.

Heart broken: Been heart broken is an eventually pain from originates from cheating, lies, unfaithfulness and disappointment. Whenever you are in a heart broken situation, all you need remember is that broken hearts do mend...with time. 

Not cared for: After giving your heart, time, love and expectations to someone, feeling uncared for could really hurt. Love at a point needs to be reciprocal, and if this isn't the case in a relationship, the uncared for partner sees a hole in the context of the been shown. 

Losing: After its all done on you that you have lost the person you love either before or after a breakup, there is a traumatic effect you brain feels and it causes much of pain. Feeling of losing might be coming from loss of respect, attention and other relationship essentials.

Scared: Be scared isn't a positive feeling in a relationship. When there are problems in a relationship so much that a partner gets scared, the future of that relationship isn't looking good.

Led on: Feeling of pain due to loss of respect, self-esteem and affection after it become clear you're just been led on and the person didn't truly love you is psychological painful. It is much better to be very clear about a relationship just so you'll be on the same page with your partner.

Nervous: "Shaky" moments hit us all in life. The worst of this is when you get nervous with someone you actually love and care about when it comes to some specific issues.

Letting go: This is the crown of the painful feeling. However, for what its worth, you'll get over it.

Is This Love? Teen Tips for Romance and Dating

Love can take you to new highs -- and new lows. You may have the strongest feelings of your life, which is great when things are good. But if things go bad, it's devastating! Here are six dating tips to help you keep your head during this exciting time.

Dating Tip 1: Take Your Time

Some teens date, some don't. Girls need to feel good about themselves before they start to date. Pure advice? Only date if you know yourself and know you want to date. If you're not ready, it's cool to stay single and hang out with your close friends.

Dating Tip 2: Find Someone Who Likes You Back

Feelings that aren't returned can make you question everything about yourself. Did you say something wrong? Were you wearing the wrong things? In a healthy relationship, the feelings are mutual. You respect each other and have fun together. If this doesn't describe your situation, there's nothing wrong with you, but you probably do need to keep looking.

Dating Tip 3: Know When to Move On

Sometimes you have to admit it, the relationship isn't working. Maybe the love of your life has turned mean and selfish. Maybe you realize you want something better. If a boyfriend doesn't give you what you need, walk away. Girls are told most times by wise mothers, "It hurts now, but you can get through it."

Dating Tip 4: Talk About Facebook Before You Talk on Facebook

Social media puts the ups and downs of dating out there for everyone to see. If you like a guy or he likes you, it's perfectly OK to ask him not to post things about you online, including pictures. Some things don't have to be shared with the whole world.

Dating Tip 5: Protect Yourself From Pressure

Pressure is not love, and it's not even normal. Most teens say they've never felt pressured to be in a relationship before they were ready. Still, a little mental preparation never hurts. Decide ahead of time what your values are and how far you want to go. That way, you won't have to figure it out in the heat of the moment.

Here are a few concrete things you can do to keep yourself out of the pressure chamber:

• Avoid situations where a guy might expect more than you want to give.   
• Go out with boys close to your age. Girls who go out with older guys are more likely to have sex before they're ready.

Dating Tip 6: Give Love Time to Grow

Sometimes the idea of love is better than love itself. How do you know if you're really in love?

If you're infatuated, need constant reassurance, and have trouble thinking about anything else, these are signs you're not really in love. It's fun for now, but in time you'll probably feel disappointed.   

Mature love grows stronger with time. The more you get to know each other, the stronger your feelings. And you don't have to be someone you're not. You like each other for who you truly are. If you're like most people, finding mature love takes more than one try, but it's definitely worth it.

You May Not Know - Love Fortifies The Connection Between Your Brain and Your Heart Health

Decades of research show that people who are more socially connected live longer and healthier lives. Yet precisely how social ties affect health has remained one of the great mysteries of science. Researches recently learnt that people who learn ways to create more little moments of love in daily life lastingly improve the function of the vagus nerve, a key conduit that connects your brain to your heart. This discovery provides a new window into how tiny moments of love serve as nutrients for your health.

So, if you've been hurt in the past, you really need to begin to cope with that feeling before you can love someone else. You may feel that things you did in the past will make you unlovable, or that you have too many problems to be lovable. Maybe you feel that because your past relationships failed, all others are doomed to fail as well. But this is not the case and you should never feel for a moment that what has happened to you before will keep you from being happy now. Accept the things that happened to you, forgive, and move on.

Break-up, Pain and Emotional Reaction

Disappointment and pain is linked to emotional numbness. A person can be hurt to the point in which they no longer feel anything.

It is guaranteed that there'll always be tough times in relationships; more like a fact. However, this doesn't have to be the decider of the result of the relationship. Mathematically, the out come of your relationship is based on 20-80 event ratio. 20% what happens but 80% is on how you respond.

In many relationships, 'emotions' is what gets you started but the reaction between you and your partner's habit is what keeps you going. Have you checked if the habits of the prospective partner are those you can get along with? Even when they get considerably off? Many people have loved and been hurt because the relationship didn't go as hoped.

The grand lessons are:

1. Do not start a relationship without proper and diligent consideration of the possibility of a long lasting relationship.

2. Do not start your relationship based on emotional feelings. Knowledge needs be in play mostly.

3. Do not stay at a spot in life crying after a unhappy relationship. Life is way too short to be crying over the jerk that broke your heart. When you realise that relationship wasn't how you wished, be grateful you could get the lesson experience just taught you.

4. Do not go about hating your ex. It would impede you from moving on. In fact, never blame anyone in your life. Good people bring you happiness, bad people being you experience.

5. Do not live your life seeking the validation of others. That is the best way to be likeable, charismatic and loved genuinely for you.

Holding on to Relationships The Wrong Way

Relationships, the genuine ones, are usually funny, cool and nice at the beginning. They seem like they just the only thing you ever wanted in life. But many relationships are better if they never existed due to the pain, destruction of self-esteem, sadness and other negatives they bring at the end.

It would have been right to say bad relationships don't necessarily mean 'pointless interaction' because we learn something from them (at least we say experience is the best teacher); but the truth is very few people on the surface of the earth take the time to ask themselves "what have I learnt from this wrong relationship?". Most humans living now simply don't learn.

Now to the issues at hand. When you realize a relationship isn't meant t be (for the right reasons), the best thing to do is to let go....else you'll get hurt...badly!!
But before that, there is the issue of holding on to your relationship the wrong way...like the guy in this picture is holding his dog.

When your partner gets just a little distraction from anywhere, you'll be left alone, broken and in pain.

Then you start the "passing the blame game" which really is dumb, because it only shows you learnt nothing from the whole experience. Acts of love, kindness, patience, sacrifice, appreciation with a mix of sound communication, humility and respect are necessary to "hold your relationship down".

The question is "How are you holding/keeping your relationship"?

Maybe the right first question to ask you is "why are you in that relationship?"

Then "Is it going on like it should?"

Now "What are the things that you would say are wrong?"

Finally, "How would you and your partner describe the way you both keep the relationship going?"

3 Questions to Get Your Relationship Back on Track

All long-term relationships go through difficult times. Whether you no longer feel any passion or all the passion you feel seems to be anger, you might lose perspective on why you are even trying to work things out. You might be on the verge of giving up.

Before you walk (or run) away, try balancing these struggles with thoughts about the positives in your relationship. To do this, consider the following three questions. They can help you to develop a more positive attitude about your present, past, and future together.

 

1. What makes you want to stay together?

While you could have called it quits by now, you haven't; and you aren't sure that you really want to (if you did, you wouldn't be reading this).  So, why is that? What makes you want to stay together? Think long and hard about this.  Your answer might be that you love each other; or that you have so much invested in your relationship that you want to give it every realistic chance. Whatever your reasons, talk about them together. Let them seep into your very being and inspire you to re-connect.


2. How have you managed to stay together?
If you are upset with your partner, you might be inclined to answer this by pointing to destructive ways of coping, such as leading separate lives or avoiding all conflict. However, you have no doubt also used some positive ways of coping. So, ask yourself what you do (or have done in the past) to keep enjoyment, appreciation, and a desire for your continued relationship alive. For instance, you might actively respect each other's thoughts and feelings, or one of you might walk away when things get heated – only to return to a calmer discussion later. You might also see your partner really trying to please you, which can help you stay invested in working things out during particularly frustrating times.


3. What makes you think you can find a way to continue being together?

Given that you haven't ended your relationship yet, you must have some hope for a happier future. Where do you find this hope? What do you see that makes you think that things could possibly get better? For instance, you might believe that your partner truly loves you and wants to find a way to make it work. You might also see that he or she is making earnest attempts to change.

If you have even a small reserve of positive feelings and realistic hopes for a better future together, these questions can help you highlight them. They can help increase your motivation to re-engage positively with your partner. Then, of course, it is up to you to act on that motivation and create the relationship that you want.

Confession of a Healing Heart

"I gave you my heart, 

told you that you were my world, 

I loved you with all my heart, 

but you gave up on our love. 

So why am here crying

when you're the one who lost a diamond? 

It may hurt now but I'm moving on, 

to a better place, 

where I'll meet someone knows how to love. 

I know God loves me, 

and He will send me someone that deserves me.

So I'll wipe my tears because from this moment on; 

the perfect love is on it's way, in a special delivery, 

with my name written boldly all over it"

Beware of "Greek gifts"

The term, ‘Greek gift’, is used to describe a gesture that comes with strings attached. It is the strategy of giving someone a gift with the intent to entrap him or to influence his subsequent action or to trick him into a compromising situation. For some people, it could actually result in death. 

There are some gifts with the intents of making you 'owe' the person, then you'll feel bad not bulging to wrong deals. People have been noted to give sex to people just so they can pass communicable diseases or blackmail the individual later on. At workspaces, social hangouts, and neighbourhood, these deceptive people sharing "evil gifts" are all around you.
 

Always wisely examine every proposal brought to you, including those by seemingly well-meaning people. Do not be in a hurry to accept suggestions to do something or enter into very attractive deals that appear too easy and demands little or nothing from you. Nothing of value and enduring comes cheap. Always look out for a hidden trap or trick that could throw you into a public scandal and shame, or eventually cost you dearly. When you come to a crossroads in life; take a knee, think and ask for help to handle all such tricky and tempting situations. 

Bottom line: All that glitters is not gold

Guys, avoid causing this..

 

Have you broken a heart before? think back...

 

Some broken hearts never mend,

Some memories never end,

Some love never die

 

Never break a heart because of your selfishness, pride, or unfaithfulness.