Holding on to Relationships The Wrong Way

Relationships, the genuine ones, are usually funny, cool and nice at the beginning. They seem like they just the only thing you ever wanted in life. But many relationships are better if they never existed due to the pain, destruction of self-esteem, sadness and other negatives they bring at the end.

It would have been right to say bad relationships don't necessarily mean 'pointless interaction' because we learn something from them (at least we say experience is the best teacher); but the truth is very few people on the surface of the earth take the time to ask themselves "what have I learnt from this wrong relationship?". Most humans living now simply don't learn.

Now to the issues at hand. When you realize a relationship isn't meant t be (for the right reasons), the best thing to do is to let go....else you'll get hurt...badly!!
But before that, there is the issue of holding on to your relationship the wrong way...like the guy in this picture is holding his dog.

When your partner gets just a little distraction from anywhere, you'll be left alone, broken and in pain.

Then you start the "passing the blame game" which really is dumb, because it only shows you learnt nothing from the whole experience. Acts of love, kindness, patience, sacrifice, appreciation with a mix of sound communication, humility and respect are necessary to "hold your relationship down".

The question is "How are you holding/keeping your relationship"?

Maybe the right first question to ask you is "why are you in that relationship?"

Then "Is it going on like it should?"

Now "What are the things that you would say are wrong?"

Finally, "How would you and your partner describe the way you both keep the relationship going?"