Michelle Obama Shows Us How It’s Done; Without Words

Yes you might have seen the “selfie” pictures President Obama, David Cameron, and the Prime Minister of Denmark, Helle Thorning-Schmidt, took at Nelson Mandela’s memorial service on Tuesday. Noted also was First lady Michelle Obama who showed some displeasure through her body language. Many have taken up the subject asking why the three leaders chose to act “children cheesy” at an important event, but let’s see Michelle do her thing in pictures.

1. Watch him closely to see how he relates. Make sure to read his every move..

 

 

2. Sound your warning and leave him and the enemy in shock..

 

 

3.If he gets the hint let him be in peace, but if he forgets the rules as fast..

 

 

 4. Let him enjoy the final moments then strike..

 

 

5. Occupy your rightful position.. 

 

 

 6. Problem solved and everyone is happy..

See that? No drama or argument, and so smooth and professional.

 

Bottom line: What's yours is yours...you need no sweat to retain it. 

10 Basic Things Men Want 'in' Ladies

Ever considered the good virtues men that want a lasting relationship would be looking for in a woman? It is true men are different and there is no standard checklist; however, there are preliminaries. They include:

1. A woman with her own life: No lady should be a blank sheet that is waiting for a man to come and write on. Every human should have goals, interest and aspirations; this makes up “your own life” even before bonding with any man.

2. Traditional formality: Customarily the man leads; ladies more often than not do not ask men out. When and how he wants to do it is his responsibility to figure out. It’s a known fact that some men don’t make it easy by “wasting time”, therefore, if you want to stir him that part, do it calmly and minimum. 

3. Feeling of love: When reflex actions and body sensations consistently reveal the presence of love in a woman, that’s the type of lady men would love and want. This makes for a good foundation to generate anticipation for a healthy long relationship.

4. Demonstration of care: It is typical of females to show care; more like a ‘prototype setting’. By seeing to the little stuffs shows you care and this would definitely make his heart turner warmer.

5. Sexy yes, slutty no: Most men do not condone public display – not from someone they intend preserving. Decency is much more esteemed at the beginning of meeting a man so you don’t scare him off.

6. Delay intimacy a good while: No matter how much you crave intimacy, it’s a wrong foot to start off on. I see it needless to say but would still state the fact it would be unthinkable to expect woman to think sex would make a man choose her. 

7. Respectful: Men’s ego isn’t a secret and most men that watch out for how much a lady respects them intend spending quality long time with her. It is noteworthy to say if a man disrespects and abuses you at the onset, thank you luck he displayed it early enough and safe yourself the “dark future” it holds because abusive men are not just worth it.

8. Good friend: How well can you be his friend through the good and nasty? Would you laugh at him or cover his blunders when in the open. How well can you blend with his friends? All these and more do count.

9. Give him time: Men prefer ladies that give them quality ‘time alone’ to hang out and chilling. Dozens of call per hour on a normal day is scary and irritating.

10. Decent entices decent: Only if you are decent can and would you attract and well nurtured and good willed man. Confirm you both share similar values and moral and he’s reliable and honest.

 

Of course, faithfulness in as many areas as possible is a perquisite.

**Due to the difference in "make up" of men, the amount of concentration for each of these primary requirement would differ from person to person.

Stories & Opinions: Fling and Blackmail

Friday's night out with the girls are often fun so far there isn't any drama, but this is one I wish I had skipped. It seemed to be fun after the dance at the club because the guy I danced with appeared more into me. I couldn't really tell if he was used to the environment and circumstances but he surely appeared very calm and collected. After a couple of drinks, I got a bit more relaxed like him but he didn't need the drinks to be. My girlfriends which I left the campus with were all hooked up with drinks and guys. Sooner than expected, we were leaving the club but not as a pack that we came. Its next to normal for students to live outside - just around the private university grounds - and so were the dudes we went with. 

I didn't know the guy I was with but he was dressed cool and matured, also spoke so articulate and smart. I had a part of me really hoping the night turns out to me more than just a fling. 

We took a ride to his crib and putting together my poor judgement status plus the drink he gave me in his house (whether enhanced or not, I can't tell), the alcohol in my system made it quite easy for him and I gave him my cookie. I woke up quite late and honestly had poor recollection of the latter part of the night. If the tale ended here, I'll have said its wasn't a bad night. 

Two days later, after a buzz, I noticed a new contact on my blackberry messenger and it was Adam -the club guy! He said hi and before I could respond in my spree of excitement, a nude picture of a female came in. With a bit disgusted expression over my face I open it and found out it was me in his house! It had my face in all five that he eventually sent. Next he sent was "I have videos also and would post them to your facebook friends and other sites." 

The story short? He asked me to get him 300,000 cash within three days! 

What makes a woman a ‘Lady’??

After long deliberation and considerations about what manner of female fits to be addressed as a "lady", it became un-debatable that the world is running out of ladies!

From chronology of the word ‘lady’, it had always been attached to grown women who have been nurtured with moral manners regards specific areas of life. Other words or phrases often used to describe the word “lady” include:

 

•Civil •Cultured •Polite •Well Mannered •Refined in Upbringing •Polite •Standard of behaviour •Honour •Well Spoke •Behaving in Dignity •Steady Companion

Noticeably and understandably, comportments, attitudes and style of dressing change over time; however, a lady’s Sophistication, Courteousness and Mannerism in the public and in her home is undying. Why don’t you use the following points to examine your “lady-like” status?

1. Femininity: Women have an original manner of existing and response in all circumstances. This is based on natural combination of the female body properties resulting to behaviours and qualities which her reasoned to be characteristic of females; and how a woman chooses to use her body depletes the initial signs identifying her has a lady or not. The feminine features on and in your body makes a woman; how you respect and use them makes you a lady... or not

2. Sophistication: These days, the advent of the “hip-hop” world depletes ‘lady-likeness’ has an ancient unfashionable lifestyle. Being elegant in all aspect of your life makes you a lady. A woman’s posture while siting and standing, carriage while walking, choice of words while talking are what makes you lady the lady we see. A "bitch" isn't a lady! Many females call themselves that, which simple means they have personally ruled out any lady etiquette in their lives.

3. Cleanliness: This is an undisputable and necessary quality in a lady. Here's the joker: many have accustomed themselves to appear clean and hygienic when in the public but away from the eyes of the world, they are the drastic opposite. Quite a shame because the cleanliness of a lady transcends all areas of her life; from the strands of her hairs to her breath, teeth, house, personal effects...even to the content and organisation of her hand bag! These are prerequisites. 

4. Health Psychology: Self-confidence, patience, security within her own skin, charity, contentment and trustworthiness kicks out fear, dishonesty, 'over' dependence, aggressiveness and brutality. “They are talking about me” syndrome has no place in a real lady; even her virtues becomes a subject on every lips especially females who are too weak to attain her level of discipline. 

5. Respect, submission and yet intelligence and strong-minded:  It isn’t easy to have the combination of these four attributes. Yet, a lady is known to be respectful and submissive and amidst these, she’s intelligent and not easy to fool.

These makes a lady complete, and as a bonus;

• Ladies gossip with class; not like mice passing cheese among themselves;
• Ladies don’t use profane words;
• Ladies don’t talk with food in their mouths;
• Ladies excuse themselves from gatherings with courtesy; 
• Ladies rarely lose their cool. Most often, they are calm and collected especially in the public;
• Ladies don’t over eat or overdrink;
• Ladies are courteous to introduce who they are with when someone else approaches;
• Ladies don’t find it hard to say the words “Please”, “thank you”, “I’m sorry” and “no, thank you” without feeling a part of them have been removed;
• Ladies increase their knowledge not only with gossips but reading resource materials to increase intelligence.

With all these, does the society still hold “lady-likeness” with high esteem??

BAD ATTITUDES in relationships

“No one is perfect”. That is the popular word on the block when relationships run into bumps. If perfection is however seen as “faultless perfection”, then who is perfect?  

It’s an open secret that we all have faults and downsides, and every human being is unique with special properties and shortcomings. It is essential to recognise some shortcomings a mile away in relationships before actually running into them.

Take a step back and look at yourself; can you bear yourself if you were in a relationship with an exact you? Many say yes but the truth is no. For people with extremely good characters, having another “them” would be too perfect and obnoxious while people that have various bad habits would be too deficient and volatile to live with another “them”.

 

Focusing on bad attitudes

Some bad attitudes are annoying while others are very dangerous. Many people are lucky to discover some bad attitudes in their spouse before too long but give no heed to the warning thinking attitudes can be managed. Sadly they can’t! Behaviours can be managed but not attitudes.

Sofia speaks “...Sean and I were in the eight month of our relationship when I picked his phone to ring mine so it’ll ring out loud because I couldn’t remember where I placed it. As I picked his phone and was scrolling to select my name on his contact, he saw me and thought I was spying on him. There he said, with his most fearful face I had ever seen, ‘next time you pick my phone; I’ll break your hand’. I couldn’t imagine living with someone having that much anger that erupted within seconds and giving no opportunity for explanations.”

Lola speaks “…He complains too much…even for a lady!!”

 

Alex speaks “…she inflates every pain, discomfort and worry. When she had a little cut, I never heard the end of it till it was completely healed and she used it as an excuse not to do anything she doesn’t want to do.”

Grace speaks “…his car was scratched by another road user, nothing major but he wouldn’t let go. He was ready to fight a grown lady with little kids at the backseat of her car. When we left the scene, he also mentioned how displeased he was that I didn’t join his campaign against the defenceless woman.”

Desmond speaks “...she nagged so much for almost anything that goes outside her way or plan for hours. At the sixth month of our relationship, I couldn’t stand the imagination of the living hell of living with her for a lifetime. Just had to call acquits”

Bad attitudes are like flat tires. You can't go anywhere without changing them.

More often than not, approaching many people with the information “you have a bad attitude” in cases of ‘annoying attitude’ typically triggers a defensive response while people with ‘dangerous attitude’ might get angry or even harm the accuser.

Many people have the extreme nagging attitude, drama queen – self-pity, self-doubt, poor self-image, bullying and anger. All these attitudes individually sound bad not to mention bagging them at whatever quantity and bringing them into relationships.

Family, friends, negative environments, an unfulfilled life and discontented state can result to developing bad attitudes. None the less, a person who has discipline, heart, guts, strength, wisdom and determination can triumph above all.

No one can change you or change for you. You will have to do it for you.

In order to correct negative attitudes, understand your bad attitudes and what triggers them, change your mental state not only by positive thinking but positive words also, look for positive aspects of situations instead of dwelling on the negative.

Be at war with your vices; at peace with your virtues, and let every new day find you a better man.