The Wife

About Wife:

When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
~By Lee Majors

 

After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
~By Al Gore

By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
~By Socrates

Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
~By Mike Tyson

 

The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?
~By George Clooney

I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
~By Bill Clinton

"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays."
~By George W. Bush

 

"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."
~By Rudy Giuliani

"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
~By Michael Jordan

"I've had bad luck with all my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn’t.” The third gave me more children!

~By Donald Trump

Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
~By Shaquille O’Neal

The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once...
~By Kobe Bryant

You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
By David Hasselhoff

My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
~By Alec Baldwin

A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
~By Milton Berle

 

Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy.
~ByTommy Lee

A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
~By Brad Pitt

First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second Guy : "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
~ ByJimmy Kimmel

 

“Honey, what happened to ‘ladies first’?” Husband replies, “That’s the reason why the world’s a mess today, because a lady went first!”
~By David Letterman

 

“First there’s the promise ring, then the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...soon after....comes Suffe r..ing!
~By Jay Leno

JUST FOR LAUGHs and some wisdom

Hard Relationships can Survive

Relationships are not always rosy. You may have some bitter moons. There are several situations in relationship that you can’t even describe in writing. Relationships can be confusing at times.

Lots of relationships collapse during the harsh seasons of building a family. But most relationships that are meant to be and diligently guarded last. Not everyone gives up. Not every relationship splits. They are strong. I believe yours is (can be) too! Strong Relationships have ingredients.

Consistent Communication, Patience, Faithfulness, Selflessness, Cooperation, Forgiveness, Respect, Understanding and consideration, Gratefulness, Contentment, Positive thinking and anticipation for a coexisting future.

These among others make up a promising relationship. Now that you them, go have a take at happy relationship.

The Cultured lady

“Hey lady!” This is the way every average woman wants to be addressed. The matured female population often want to be addressed and rightly treated by the opposite sex but how many are ready to do those things that will “command” the respect and conduct from them? These days, how many women are knowledgeable when it comes to simple etiquette?

 

Simple etiquette aren’t about good cloths and makeups, neither is it expensive bags and shoes. You may wear the most expensive designer and still be the object of mockery. You aren’t a lady because you have good cash in the bank to command undependability, neither can been married to the richest man in town do the magic.

 

Being a lady is more about your carriage; how you sit, walk, stand, talk, look, laugh, choice of dressing, respond to incidents, interact with others, and so on. Let’s have a closer look.

• A lady does not fight or exchange words in public. It is so shameful when decently dressed ladies exchange words in public and, in some cases step into the madness of fighting.

• A lady eats honorably in public gatherings; and doesn’t target the “over flows” at parties. You think people don’t see you but your name is all over the place and that has become your trade-mark. Men notice you and mark you as “anything for the belly…with money/food and I’ve got her”.
• A lady knows how to fix breakfast, lunch, and dinner for family and friends; she spends less on restaurants. No matter how greatly the modern world is trying to change this…it remains a bitter truth.
• A lady doesn’t go vulgar; she knows what not to say. Some women are now worse than hoodlums and thugs when it comes to the dirty words pouring out of their mouths. The senseless ways and words used in greeting…all in the name of informality. It doesn’t stop there, women now nickname themselves which plainly points them to be indecent ill-mannered females.
• A lady doesn’t get involved in illegal transacts; either for association or money. Drugs, human trafficking, prostitution or call-girls aren’t for ladies…they are just disgrace to womanhood.
• A lady cultures the best habits like brushing last thing at night as a must and gets her man to imbibe the tradition.
• A lady dances, but never like a maniac or psychiatric patient. When it comes to alcohol or smoking…you know that’s a stretch.
• A lady treats her body specially and so doesn’t open her legs to every Tom, Dick, and Harry. A lady never sells her body for better grades, contracts or employment opportunity.
• A lady wipes gently, with wet wipes, her private part after urination. How many women know what it means to have wipes in their handbags? Most women now bother more about designer makeup but never about hygienic body care.
• A lady dress and courteously flaunts her good curves without exposing what should be covered. She wears what accentuates her body and beauty without selling herself cheap.
• A lady uses her makeup to enhance her beauty not look like a masquerade or appear like a work of art. A lady further knows better than to bleach.
• A lady knows her weaves needs to be well kept and free from smelling so as not to suffocate her man.
• A lady surely doesn’t wear dirty underwear. She prefers cotton for long days because they help her breath well and avoid smelling.
• Lady and conspicuous tattoos don’t go together….not even in poetry. You don’t see tattoos on royals!
• A lady doesn’t try to feign wealth…courtesy, cherished virtues and humility are her flaunted wealth. She’s never ashamed of her background and won’t change it to please men/society.

Long goes the traits of lady etiquette. Last line is…the feminine features on your body do not make you a lady…neither would you find an ill-mannered lady. The name lady is reserved for the well-mannered females.

Men and Infidelity

Falling in love is the most wonderful and exciting thing ever, but women are frequently afraid of falling in love with a man because of the worry “he might cheat on me down the line”. Indeed, a cheating boyfriend/husband is every woman’s worst nightmare. If infidelity is often at the back of your mind, it’s now considered okay to say you are not been paranoid. Why? Studies and surveys have shown over 50-60% of all married men have an affair at least once in their married lives. There’s good news you have 50% chance a man might not cheat you. But still, with a 50-50 chance of infidelity poisoning your relationship in the future calls you to alertness.

There are basically three reasons a man might cheat on you. Understanding those might help you.

He wasn’t ready: This reason for cheating is entirely the guy’s fault. There are a lot of men out there who think handing a relationship is a piece of cake. But when the rigours and responsibilities of a serious relationship comes flying in, they turn around and run. Here they run craving their bachelor-single-unattached-free life. Never rush into a relationship because it takes so much to keep it going.

He got bore or unhappy: If he got bored or unhappy in the relationship, the woman 'may' have played a part it that. After all, it is important you do your part in keeping the relationship happy. A happy relationship entails two happy partners. The problem here is most partners sit and wait for the other to make the first move before they do their part. Do your part whether he’s doing his or not. That way, you don’t have yourself to blame when issues go out of hand.

He succumbs to pressure: Let’s be honest here, the entertainment industry, society and friends suggest it is “ok” if not “cool” for guys to have affairs. By accepting it as a norm due to it frequency, this is how every single one of us echoes the same sentiment. Some guys can bow to pressure of cheating just to ‘fit in’. It is crazy but true. If we accept it, then we must accept the heart-breaking consequences when it happens to you, your sister, daughter or friend. Speaking of pressure, the pouring pressure of relationship/marriage on a man can also lead to infidelity.

For unmarried folks, examine a typical case that occurs 7 in 10 chances. Within two weeks of the first date, they’re already going steady. Before the first month, they “sleep together”. Then just few months later, during the relationship, they start getting bored and unhappy, feeling stressed and later its bores down to venting frustrations at each other. Before you know it, they separate ways. Those that get married few months right after the “sleeping together” phase start witness fades in initial attraction and excitement…they also start feeling bored, unhappy, entrapped and that leads to arguments, disagreements, fights and eventually separate ways.

Lack of preparedness, boredom, dissatisfaction, peer pressure can be avoided by simply building your relationship on solid foundation. Then you are likely safe from infidelity. Remember the work of “relationship preservation” is continuous.

A Lady's Self-Discovery

Self-discovery is important for every young lady. It is self-discovery that makes you know what is good for you and what is not. Until you discover who you are, what works for you, who you what to be and how you wish your future pans out, you are still a “baby” irrespective of your age or displayed feminine features.

If you are yet to discover yourself, how do you know the man who genuinely deserves you? Discovering yourself would make you appreciate and cherish the “you” in you as a woman more than ever.

This surely isn't to make you pompous or unruly but make decisions that propel you to a better future and project you as a respectable woman.

***No man messes around with a woman who has discovered herself; for she is as a perceptive lioness. Patient, quick, smart, logical, intellectual, disciplined and always a beauty***

Your Relationship Right

So many people are in the wrong relationships. Most of them got into it after been deceived by the supposed partner while others just never expected the consequences to be as grievous as they getting it. However, the bottom line still remains: You are allowed to terminate a wrong relationship that is doing damage to you in any way - be it psychologically, emotionally, morally, spiritually or physically.

There are some relationships and partners that allows you/gives you the right to be "angry, selfish and unforgiving!" There are some levels that repairing the relationship would be the worst decision of life. An example is when the relationship/partner has the potential of taking your life. Forgive to liberate yourself but don't forgive to reunite.

You should not and do not have to tolerate abuses from anyone. And remember, whatever that "supposed partner" may say, its just to keep you bonded. Most abusers have been known to transfer blames to the abused in order to keep the psychologically tied down.

Do not allow yourself  to be used by anyone at anytime. Do not allow any make you feel inferior or less human. You deserve the best just like the happiest and most fortunate people.

#You have every right to be happy in a relationship.

#You have every right to take care of yourself in a relationship.

#You have every right to exercise that right once, twice and as often as you want to in a relationship.  

6 Virtues In A Good Woman

The basic need a man really wants to correctly satisfy is the want of a good woman by his side. Men have just as hard time trying to find a good woman as women have trying to find a good man.

Women have to kiss frogs in order to find a Prince and men have to wade through pools of women, who for the sake of the cleanliness of this article we will just say crazy women, worthless woman, b's, h's, gold diggers, and you fill in the blanks.

A good woman is comprised of much more than being a woman who keeps a clean house and puts a hot meal on the table.. Things like that are nice and pretty much a necessity depending on the relationship, but they are only the basics. Many women say they want a good man but have you asked yourself if you're a good woman? Here are a few traits of a good woman.

1. ENCOURAGING/SUPPORTIVE/MOTIVATES - A good woman isn't quiet without input. She's full of ideas to help improve your life, career, business, outlook in dressing and overall health. She supports her man's ideas and motivates him to accomplish his goals. A good woman is a good listener. Ultimately she is able to change you without trying. A good woman makes you a better man.

2. SHE KEEPS HIM HONEST - A man is not allowed to be lazy when he's in a relationship with a good woman. If you tend to make excuses for why you can't do something a good woman will call you out on your bedside and make you shape up. If you want a promotion, but claim to not be able to get one she will quickly let you know that in all honestly you're not doing enough. A good woman will always encourage her man to make an honest living that he can be proud of. Most importantly she knows how to talk to him and tell him these things without being down on him.

3. KING HIM - Feeding your man grapes, strawberries and parading around in little enticing outfits is delightful, but what about providing him with some mental stimulation. A good woman not only speaks to the King in her man, but she also treats him as such. She sees potential in him. She treats you like he is the most capable and deserving man in the world, in addition to spoiling and catering to him in the most feminine way. A good woman will often make a man feel like he's the only man who exists in her eyes.

A good woman sees greatness in her King. She thinks he's amazing and makes him feel as such. She will have him feeling like anything is possible, like he could actually change the world. Imagine that... or simply google Barack Obama

4. SHE'S SECURE - A good woman is secure within herself and not easily jealous over other women. She's not quick to put the next woman down just because she thinks the woman looks good and provides competition to her own looks. No man wants an insecure woman who is always messing up his business deals because she thinks he's flirting with or having intimate relations with the women he works with.

5. STABILITY - Women often look for stability in a man. What they don't know is that it's their characteristics as a woman that cause a man to become stable. Most relationships are temporary, you actually know they will expire any minute. She makes him think about a future with her. A good woman will make you think of your goals and plans and make sure they are in alignment with what you want out of life. If a woman wants a stable man then she needs to be stable herself. That's one of the top signs of a good woman

6. ALLERGIC TO GOLD DIGGING - A good woman doesn't require that you buy her expensive gifts in order to obtain or maintain her affection. She's just as happy with sentimental gifts from a man as she would be with a gift of Louboutin shoes. It's not all about money with her, it's all about you and the man whom you are.

There is power in a good woman who can push her man to new heights and when a man finds a good woman that's when those should wedding bells start ringing..

Dating the "Right-Wrong person"

We're all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you've been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there's no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are 'wrong' in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness.

And it isn't until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems the ones that make you truly who you are that we're ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you're looking for. You're looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, "This is the problem I want to have." I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.? have a great day everyone!?

That's Simply the Woman Phenomenon

A woman is like an incubator;

she takes in whatever you give her, multiplies it and gives you something more.

You give her sperm, she multiplies it and gives you a baby

You give her a house, she multiplies it and gives you a home

You give her a word, she multiplies it and gives you a sentence

You give her groceries, she multiplies it and gives you a meal.

You give her frustration, she multiplies it and gives you hell.

That's just the phenomenon of a real woman.

Are You Dating a Boy or a MAN?

1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn't think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn't exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.



2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life). A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he's going to hit up on the weekend.

A boy...

3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set if values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you're lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.

5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest about his intentions and lets people know where he stands (in a relationship). A boy avoids. A boy ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama/excuses to mask the fact that he's not really into you or that relationship.

6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always "testing" - he doesn't fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is psychologically in.



...or a Man

7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting drunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.

8. A man has integrity and dignity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has followed through and acts on his promises. And if he can't, he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn't follow through.

9. A man makes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.

10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts so passive so that his pride and ego won't ever get too banged up.

 

Now, a lot of these differences require taking time to know someone before figuring out if the "apple of your eyes" is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice is this.

 A boy plays games. A man doesn't . 

Signs You’re In An Abusive Relationship

 Take the test below before you go!!

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following descriptions of abuse, reach out. Help is available.

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner, constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up, chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.

To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.

Signs That You’re In An Abusive Relationship

Test Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings. Do you:-

Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?

Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?

Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?

Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?

Wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?

Feel emotionally numb or helpless?

Test Your Partner’s Belittling Behaviours. Does your partner:-

Humiliate or yell at you?

Criticize you and put you down?

Treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?

Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?

Blame you for their own abusive behavior?

See you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Test Your Partner’s Violent Behaviours or Threats. Does your partner:-

Have a bad and unpredictable temper?

Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?

Threaten to take your children away or harm them?

Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

Force you to have sex?

Destroy your belongings?

Your Partner’s Controlling Behaviour. Does your partner:-

Act excessively jealous and possessive?

Control where you go or what you do?

Keep you from seeing your friends or family?

Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?

Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?

Constantly check up on you?

I hope you didn't have to say many yeses to those questions.

3 Things Women Definitely Want From Men

It's no news that you need to listen very carefully to figure out what your lady is trying to say. It is not rocket science, its just that you need to be sensitive to her. Here are a few things that women look for in men. Read on and you will probably understand her better.

Be honest and credible

Honesty is something that is extremely important for a woman. You have to be brave enough to own up everything. If she ever caught you lying she wouldn’t forgive you easily. But if you faltered and still confessed to her honestly you can stand a chance. She has to be able to believe you and trust you implicitly. It means a lot to her. A real woman looks for a partner who she can rely on.

Hear her out

If you are looking for a steady relationship, you need to enhance your listening skills. Lend an ear to her problems; you don’t need to give solutions all the time. She is not looking for answers; she just needs someone who can listen to her, rants without being judgmental, without being critical of her comments. Allow her to create an emotional bond with you.

Grow-up

Women mature faster than men, we all know that. But expecting the woman to mother you all your life is not what she would like. She needs an anchor too. She needs her man to be matured, calm, composed, and in control. Show her that you can face your fears and you do not need to run away from them. Impulsive is fine sometimes but show that you can take calculated risks as well. A woman loves it if she knows she can lean on her man and it is not the other way round.

Marriage Isn't For You...yes, you!

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

Marriage is about family.

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others. - Seth Adam Smith 

The First Thing Men Notice in Ladies and Looking Good

What do you think is the first thing a man notices when he sees you? (Hint: you’ve got two of them—but they’re probably not what you think.) 

If you guessed “boobs” you’re certainly among the majority. But, um, you’re aiming too low. 

The absolute first aspect of your appearance that grabs a man’s attention are the very things with which you’re reading this article: your eyes! It’s been proven time and time again, in study after study. 

The eyes have it, and because the eyes also happen to be the first place ageing makes itself apparent, ladies hoping to remain as attractive as possible might want to take a moment to rethink how they’re going about enhancing them. 

The eyes have been called the window to the soul..

When tasked with beautifying your eyes, the first idea that comes to mind might be a trip to the cosmetics counter for a makeover, complete with some brand new smoky shadows, and the whole "decoration". However, you need hold your horses and think for a bit. The "work of art" you do to your eye lash and brows speaks volumes about your personality. When the "additives" are too much, it removes the beauty you have and makes you look the opposite. The truth and shocker is that many ladies look more beautiful with just a clear neat appearance.. As known, nature is the best "makeup" you can wear. 

A smoldering eye might sound sexy and attractive, but in reality it’s not something that looks good on everyone. (Let’s not even talk about the effort necessary to properly create the look, either.) 

Men are attracted to beautiful eyes, but how many times have you heard a man complain about a woman wearing too much makeup? That’s the tricky thing about the opposite sex. They’re into a perfect appearance, but evidence of artificiality, like heavy-handed, clumpy mascara all fall into one category - ugly.

Generally speaking, it’s one of their biggest turnoffs.

5 Signs she’s In Love with Her Pastor

Pastors have the talent of influence and it comes at a cost because it can lead to trouble if it’s not handled responsibly. This is especially true for male pastors whose congregation is disproportionately comprised of women. Most of us have probably already read and/or heard about pastors who were caught having an affair with a female congregant. It’s no surprise, as the power of influence is much stronger than we are willing to acknowledge.

There are signs that you can look for in a woman who has potentially fallen in love with her pastor. Check out them out:

1. She quotes her pastor constantly, even in non- religious dialogue. Women who have fallen in love with their pastors truly cling on to his every word. Not quoting the bible; no, the pastor. They oftentimes quote him, even in conversation that has nothing to do with faith and/ or religion. If you find yourself knowing more about the woman’s pastor and her place of worship than you do about her, that’s a strong indication that she in love with her pastor.

2. She goes out of her way to please the pastor. Women who are in love with their pastor will do whatever it takes to please him. When the pastor has a birthday celebration, she brings the most expensive gift. When the pastor organizes a new ministry, she volunteers to run it. When the pastor asks for donations, she writes the first check. Her life is dedicated to making him happy at all costs.

 

3. She’s very sensitive to criticism of her pastor. A woman who has fallen in love with her pastor will not tolerate any criticism of him. She grows visibly upset with people who challenge him on his teachings — even if the challenge is warranted. When unpleasant rumors about him spread like wildfire in the church, she’s usually the person who does not believe it, even when there’s valid evidence to support the rumors.

 

4. She puts a lot of thought into her appearance for church. There are some women who are fashion savvy just because it’s a daily part of their lives. There are other women who aren’t fashion savvy but put much more effort into their attire for church versus their attire for the remainder of the week. These women also make sure their hair, nails, and makeup are up to par, as they want to make sure that the pastor notices their exterior beauty.

5. She expects every man she dates to be like her pastor. Women who have fallen in love with their pastor revere him as the “holy grail” of manhood. In their minds, their pastor is a good man to his wife and family; and he knows how to instill the same value systems that he upholds into other men. The woman who is in love with her pastor considers a perspective husband’s decision to join her church to be a deal breaker. If he, in anyway, believes the church is not for him, she does not find him worthy of dating and/or marrying.

How to Take Your Woman a Step Beyond Happy

1. Tell Her She's Beautiful: Women love compliments but none as much as those that come from the one they love. There should never be any doubt in her mind that you find her attractive. Tell her every time.

2. Reassure Her: Be the guy that's always in her corner, giving her sincere reassurance. If she's worried about that big interview, tell her how smart she is and what a great employee she'll be. If she's nervous about her new haircut, tell her how hot she looks. Whatever it is, just reassure her.

3. Treat Her Like a Real Lady: It doesn't matter if she drives monster trucks for a living and hasn't worn a dress since childhood, every woman loves it when a man treats her like a lady. Bring her flowers, make her candlelight dinners, leave her love notes. Do all of those little "cheesy" things you might feel silly doing because they will make her feel like she is loved.

4. Talk Her Up to Others: People don't like it when others talk about them behind their back unless something good is being said. When someone asks about your girl, tell them how amazing she is. It will eventually get back to her and when it does, she will love you for it.

5. Be Helpful and Understanding: This is especially huge if she gets into some kind of trouble or is under a lot of stress. Be understanding of her situation and try to help her however you can.

6. Listen To Her: Remember that you can hear someone without actually listening to them. When you listen to her, take a genuine interest in the things she has to say and respond by consoling her. This isn't a time to give her advice (unless she asks for it), she probably just wants to know you care.

7. Just A Kiss: Don't be the kind of guy that only kisses when it can turn into something more. Show her you love to kiss her any time, not just when it could lead to a make-out session.

8. Tell Her When You Miss Her: You may think that being in love sort of automatically implies that you'd miss each other when there is distance between you, but it doesn't mean she doesn't still want to hear it.

9. Embrace Her Quirks: Maybe she knows more about the world of comics than you and loves to knit or make crafts. Embrace all of those "odd" little things that make her who she is. In fact, those are probably all of the little things you adore about her.

10. Admit When You're Wrong: It's like the old saying goes "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?" Say you're sorry, it's worth it.

11. Watch Her Favourite Film: So she watches The Vow too much, you're probably sick of hearing it but if you watch it with her voluntarily, you just might find yourself in one of those romantic situations she's always watching in the movies.

12. Go The Extra Mile: There are a bunch of little things you can do each day to show her how much you care. Walk her home or surprise her with lunch at work. Do little things every day that go above what she was expecting and she'll be completely swept off her feet.

13. Whisper Sweet Nothings: Lean in close and whisper something sweet to her. Tell her how beautiful she is or how much you love her. She'll love the intimate moment between you two.

14. Smile At Her: One of the quickest ways to grab her attention is by making eye contact and smiling. Extra points if you wink too.

15. Let Her Know You're Smitten: Women want to know their wanted and that their man is always eager to see her. You will make her happy by showing her that she is your every happiness

6 Ways Ladies turn OFF Their Man

 

1. Sealing up your thoughts and instincts: Some women avoid communicating and expressing their feelings and thoughts. They expecting men to read their minds and guess their thoughts, which is not always possible. And when they fail they receive the cold shoulder for not playing the guessing game right. Nothing is more annoying for men then a woman who will just not say what she wants but expect you to read the 'signs'.

2. Assuming he knows your playbook: Another thing that really gets to men is some women assuming that men know what they want them to do. Saying one thing and doing just the opposite just confuses things even more for men. So, play it straight and just speak up, it leaves no room for miscommunication or misunderstandings.

3. Playing the 'spot the error' game: Some women equate men with being dumb, and that gets to men eventually...with time. Everyone makes mistakes, therefore, there is no need to constantly rub it in. It only makes you a nag when you are persistent on mistakes and can be really annoying.

4. Smothering him with too much attention: You need to remember that your guy has a mother and there is no need for you to play "mother superior". The key word here is "TOO" much attention; not saying you should give zero attention - else you'll lose him.

It's okay to comfort and be there for him, don't treat him like a child and smother to such an extent that it starts bugging him. You call him baby doesn't mean he is literally one.

 

5. Sharing too much information: Most men are not always comfortable talking about their problems, unlike some women who would go overboard sharing every minute detail with everyone in sight. Learn to exercise caution, and don't overshare. Learn to keep things to yourself at times, especially something that someone else shared with you in private. It will build trust and also encourage the guy to open up more.
Also, if you have just got to know the guy, there is no need to share every little detail with him. Learn to keep somethings to yourself and share only what is necessary.

 

6. Planning the future way ahead of time: Planning ahead is good and smart but learn to also live in the moment. While planning what to do on your birthday is okay, planning what you will do in your 50th anniversary while you are still dating will only freak the guy out. Learn to take small steps and enjoy the moment rather that fastfoward with an over active imagination. It would only leave your partner confused and spooked.

The First Thing Men Notice in Ladies and Looking Good

What do you think is the first thing a man notices when he sees you? (Hint: you’ve got two of them—but they’re probably not what you think.) 

If you guessed “boobs” you’re certainly among the majority. But, um, you’re aiming too low. 

The absolute first aspect of your appearance that grabs a man’s attention are the very things with which you’re reading this article: your eyes! It’s been proven time and time again, in study after study. 

The eyes have it, and because the eyes also happen to be the first place ageing makes itself apparent, ladies hoping to remain as attractive as possible might want to take a moment to rethink how they’re going about enhancing them. 

The eyes have been called the window to the soul..

When tasked with beautifying your eyes, the first idea that comes to mind might be a trip to the cosmetics counter for a makeover, complete with some brand new smoky shadows, and the whole "decoration". However, you need hold your horses and think for a bit. The "work of art" you do to your eye lash and brows speaks volumes about your personality. When the "additives" are too much, it removes the beauty you have and makes you look the opposite. The truth and shocker is that many ladies look more beautiful with just a clear neat appearance.. As known, nature is the best "makeup" you can wear. 

A smoldering eye might sound sexy and attractive, but in reality it’s not something that looks good on everyone. (Let’s not even talk about the effort necessary to properly create the look, either.) 

Men are attracted to beautiful eyes, but how many times have you heard a man complain about a woman wearing too much makeup? That’s the tricky thing about the opposite sex. They’re into a perfect appearance, but evidence of artificiality, like heavy-handed, clumpy mascara all fall into one category - ugly.

Generally speaking, it’s one of their biggest turnoffs.

Why is it worse when a lady cheats?

Women have always been in the "power position" to say no to sexual advances. At the club, parties, office, neighborhood and anywhere else you might think of. They know it and even take pride in it...meaning women can say no! On the other hand, only the 'principled and decent' men have been known to turn down sexual advances for reasons pertaining to faithfulness! That is an open secret. Many men's brains turn temporarily uncontrollable when it comes to sexual intimacy and they seem to be on a "psychological auto-cruise with gears in overdrive).
Therefore when a woman cheats, its premeditated! So simple! otherwise, she definitely could have gotten out of that situation.

The questions now become "why did she do it?", "what did she want from it?", and all sort.

N.B. - this is a MOST CASE Scenario.