Are You Dating a Boy or a MAN?

1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn't think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn't exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.



2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life). A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he's going to hit up on the weekend.

A boy...

3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set if values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you're lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.

5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest about his intentions and lets people know where he stands (in a relationship). A boy avoids. A boy ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama/excuses to mask the fact that he's not really into you or that relationship.

6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always "testing" - he doesn't fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is psychologically in.



...or a Man

7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting drunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.

8. A man has integrity and dignity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has followed through and acts on his promises. And if he can't, he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn't follow through.

9. A man makes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.

10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts so passive so that his pride and ego won't ever get too banged up.

 

Now, a lot of these differences require taking time to know someone before figuring out if the "apple of your eyes" is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice is this.

 A boy plays games. A man doesn't .