Avoiding Fights in your Relationship

Relationships have been analysed to have disagreements incorporated into it as a norm. This is quite understandable because two persons been together and taking decisions together doesn’t go as smooth as silk in comparison to how the movies parades. Here are some common ‘relationship disagreement’ themes and a way of getting them out of the way.

1. Money. Finances pull the most strings when it comes to playing the relationship chords. In other words, most disagreements are caused by money (especially in long relationships). How much is spent on what, what should and should not have been bought; is a partner been in considerate in his/her spending; does some spending pose threat on the future; and the list goes on. It is therefore imperative that a memorandum of understanding be reach concerning finances instead of running on assumptions. Find time to talk about money and how best it be spent towards the same goal.

2. The supposed bygones. Many incidents happen in life that individuals involved aren’t proud of. Everyone has his share of the cake when it comes to this. It’s certainly a tempting spot to hit during disagreements or ‘mood downtime’. Did the ugly patch occur before the relationship or during, you need let go and create a better future together.

3. Jealousy and suspicion. These two have the ‘relationship killing power’ because they blind the eyes of the brain from seeing useful reason that prove your spouse’s heart belongs to you. Most jealous moments are from the interaction of the spouse with an opposite sex you consider a ‘threat’. But remember one thing; so far your spouse started off with you in his/her right senses, which means he/she is with you because he/she wants to. Therefore, whatever you are jealous and suspicious about isn’t really as much of a threat as you might take it.

4. Sex. More often than not in relationships, there’s usually an imbalance in sexual craving and this in most cases leads to disputes. Sexual compatibility is really important to avoid discords on this issue and sitting to talk about it is the best approach. During this talk, compromise to adjust to your spouse is also crucial.

5. Communication. The importance of communication in a relationship cannot be underestimated. A healthy relationship needs effective communication (except they both can read minds). Inadequate communication signifies real issues in a relationship. To help your relationship, open your mouth to talk respectfully and listen carefully.

Spouses that do not have disagreements most likely aren’t really having a real relationship. However, in order for disagreements to keep you healthy, you should learn to FIGHT FAIRLY. Not pushing each other’s buttons so bad that the eventual fight would be greater than the reason for the fight. Avoiding the fight is better and wiser than preparing for the fight.