Facing Fears of Rejection

Commonly as humans, it’s noticed our fears in life ranges from matters of the health to status, money, peace of mind, loss of youthful looks and existence among others.  Much observation has gone to our fear of rejection; relative to people’s perception about us.

It’s said that “Fear should keep us alert and safe - like the beam from a lighthouse warning ships of submerged dangers. But too much fear, like a super-beam of light blinding the ship's captain, can cause the loss of the very thing we feared losing”. Having too much fear in a relationship isn’t helpful all. You need to fix this; else you’ll always be searching for (non-existent) reasons your partner is leaving you…hereby pulling down your relationship.

• What gives you reassurance? People should not be your source of reassurance; because any "act" from them, even if it’s misinterpreted, it would leave devastating effects. Your reassurance has to come from within. Being religious and trusting in a higher power has really helped most sincere believers.
• Don't focus on how you don't want to be. Concentrate on how you want to be. Putting more attention on where you want to be helps you navigate your emotions and will.
• Determine the origin of your fear if you can. Do you have any idea how your fear of rejection began? It can be valuable to look to the beginnings of that old fear of rejection and then reorienting yourself from there. If for example your fears started at childhood, looking back should awake you that you aren’t a child any more.
• Constructive imagination plays a role in controlling our fears on the long run. Close your eyes and use your imagination to strongly rehearse feeling and acting differently in situations where normally you'd feel insecure.
• Being more confident in life partly means being less sure that you know what is going to happen (so you can relax and allow for the possibility of both bad and good outcomes). Relaxing with not knowing is the key to confidence and also to enjoying life.
• Always remember you would survive no matter what happens.  "What if he leaves me?"; "What if she rejects me?"; "What if everyone gives me an attitude at the gathering?" and other what if’s should be answered with “life would go on” and face your fear constructively.

If someone ‘rejects’ you, don’t inevitably feel it’s because you’re “unlovable” or “destined to be alone” - because what they’ve done is give you very clear feedback about themselves.