Edit Your Dating Resume

More than a few ladies have almost other aspects of their life settle except “relationship”. When I say relationship, I don’t mean in the context of association with family, friends, neighbours and co-workers, but dating a man for lifetime-marriage purposes. Some may even have a man but he isn’t putting in the effort to make the relationship the life-long type. There seem to be something wrong somewhere and on that note I say you re-evaluate your Dating Strategies and if possible change your Dating Portfolio. 

There are some men that you just shouldn’t waste your time hoping they’ll come around to get into a serious relationship any soon. I’ll give you some attributes linked to these “type” of men. 

 

• If he usually tries to avoid discussions about commitment and marriage, if his responses to any future/lifetime related conversations are “when the time comes”, “at the right time”, or sometime sounding like “can we not talk about that”, then you should start putting for hopes elsewhere. 
• When he won’t have a conversation with you about his future kids, sister, he’s been nice and careful not to give you ideas that you’ll be conceiving his kids. Again I say, if he gets pretty uncomfortable talking about having kids but changes the subject to something total off point, you are not in a relationship you should cling to.  
• Has he refuted the concept of marriage one way or the other and vocally giving more significance to friendship over marriage? When he starts having talks like “…most friendships last longer/better than marriages…”, then you need know he’s not just ready.
• Two people in a relationship talk about lifetime commitment when the relationship they are currently having is going smooth. If the man you’re with makes you feel guilty quite too often over petty things even though you two settle it later, then he’s most probably making you want to stay but not for too long. 
• There are quite some basic things you should share with your partner and he should feel free sharing with you. “Things” in this context includes family, friends, and some material belongings. If he hides those things from you, then he’s been giving you a half-arm welcome into his life. 
• Have you tried asking him directly what future plans he has for the two of you and he always says “let’s see how it goes”? And that response has been on ‘replay’ for many months and possibly years? Please, you to need rethink your decisions and relationship status.

Now you might not know but there are some things that men are attracted to other than the “obvious”. I’ll break it down for you.

• How you walk catches attention. Many mistake catwalks for the enticing type of walk that’ll make a man want to stay for lifetime. Yes, catwalk turn heads, but here I’m talking about a rather consistent walk that is “conservative and yet erotic”. There's the confident-ladylike-walk which isn't extreme but somehow indicates to some calibre of men that the lady is a “take home type”. 
• The voice has a way of calming the mind. Some ladies fake an accent during the first encounter with a guy. The question is ‘for how long can you do that’? The genuine soothing voice keeps a man interested in hearing more of that voice.
• What dance do you do in public with a man you rarely know? Think about it, when he gets all your body over him on the dance floor, is he likely going to be thinking of customizing that body for lifetime or deciding how many more times to get such treatment before passing you on to the next guy.  
• Sense of decency goes deeper than many think. It cuts across every aspect of life and living, including the subconscious reactions they (ladies) exhibit, especially when things aren’t going their way.
• Shyness is a lovely attribute in ladies. It pronounces ‘reservedness’ and men love that! Ladies that are stylishly shy retain the attention and curiosity of men who really want to settle down.
• How do you smile and laugh? "She has the most beautiful smile/laugh" is a very common assessment we've heard around from men.
• Scents are like signatures; when you pass by a guy, there should be a unique fragrance lingering behind, and even when he perceives that same fragrance from someone else, his mind goes to you.
• Your communication’s intelligence is been assessed and noted by men that are interested in more than just the "peripheral" of you. Your choice of words and manner of speaking increases or decreases the interest decent men may have in you.