MARRIED BUT YOUR PARENT'S FAILED MARRIAGE TAUNTS YOU?
Many adults though from broken homes still believe in the commitment of
marriage. Some even get a bit eager to get married...like they aren’t bothered
they from a broken home. If you reading this, your secret is safe with me; you just
keep reading along. Those that are married but still worried their marriage
might end up like your parent’s and plainly share their fears are not any worse.
Well, I would knock you off the path your parents took. Just as you in
your marriage, endeavor to do the following;
1. Enjoy your spouse. Don’t weigh your brain down with “I’m now
married...what is it going to be like?” Share your life with your spouse by
talking to him/her and sharing activities together.
2. Disagree respectful and fight with “this marriage must work” at the
back of your minds. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes to understand his/her
position and apologize when you’re wrong. Ensure you have been forgiven when
you make a blunder. You can even present an apology offering/gift which could
be making a tea or buying monkey-teddy. This strengthens the marital bond.
3. When offended, obey the rule of Forgo, Forebear, Forget and Forgive. As
human, forgive and forget sounds mythical! But we can forgive and let it go. Accept
the gift of an apology when offended and shun that voice that tells you to make
your partner beg a little more.
4. You want to be a successful spouse? Set you mind there’s not option
than making your marriage work after marriage. Set it straight in your mind
that divorce doesn't truly break the bond of marriage and you can’t walk out. Act
out your vows — “for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sickness and
in health.”
5. Get informed about your spouse’s life by asking about as much as you
can think of. Talk about your day, your pains and discomforts, worries and
joys, interests and fantasies. Communication is key which should be done by
talking and acting.
6. Spending special times together has its molding powers when it comes
to relationships. This time isn’t one hour or two, no. It’s more like going on
vacations and extensive planned activities. Find time to just sit and be with
each other and before you know it, your souls would be yarning to reach out to
your spouse.
7. Never stop dating your spouse has been a common advice when it comes
to marriage. Well, it’s because it works! You therefore should plan “late night
exquisite date” frequently...at least twice a month. And that’s for business
preoccupied couples.
8. How have you made your spouse happy today? If you do that self check daily,
you would plan a better tomorrow and long future. Successful couples bring each
other joy.
9. Give more than you expect to receive. Furnish your spouse frequently
and selflessly. This has a special way keeping you on your spouse’s mind not
because of the gift you gave but because you thought of him/her and you acted
on it.
10. Steal an attitude from our spouse and share similar virtues. Please ensure
its one of his/her good ones. Don’t imbibe his/her attitude of giving up during
a conversation, instead you can copy the expression he/she makes when trilled. How
do you plan to raise your kids? This is when the values count.
Most importantly, share this piece with
your spouse. The two of you fighting the right way to keep your marriage is
better than just your effort alone.
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