High Hopes in Life

Hope is the state which promotes the desire of positive outcomes related to events and circumstances in one's life or in the world at large. Despair is often regarded as the opposite of hope.
Living on earth with 'less expectations' in life really reduces the quality of goodness that might possibly be generated.
Having hope is the right way to live.

Keep your facebook status simple

Many people post dozens of personal informations on facebook. Others post their every move and feelings; while a sizeable number of people tell blatant lies! They might be sitting on a spot for two hours but would have uploaded series of posts about a 'supposed' journey to and back from a girl's house/party. First question; Who are you fooling?

There's the General; Family; Personal, and Take to your grave information! Do not post what people don't need!

Also, remember social networks can't and doesn't make you a celebrity...stop gathering people you don't know as friends! Many have in the process of gathering huge number of "friends" connected with harmful-psychopaths and regretted it.

Finally, the type of picture you upload displays your maturity and sensibility! You need not be told what type of picture you should display out there...common sense should guide you. (Did I just hear you say "common sense is not common"?... You damn right! But please show the world you got it)

Guys: Learn Simple Body Language

Most guys end up forever buried in the 'friend-zone' just because they couldn't tell if a lady is interested in them or not.

You need to learn some body languages ladies give by reflex. Here are few..

7 Rules To A Better LIFE.

Why is it worse when a lady cheats?

Women have always been in the "power position" to say no to sexual advances. At the club, parties, office, neighborhood and anywhere else you might think of. They know it and even take pride in it...meaning women can say no! On the other hand, only the 'principled and decent' men have been known to turn down sexual advances for reasons pertaining to faithfulness! That is an open secret. Many men's brains turn temporarily uncontrollable when it comes to sexual intimacy and they seem to be on a "psychological auto-cruise with gears in overdrive).
Therefore when a woman cheats, its premeditated! So simple! otherwise, she definitely could have gotten out of that situation.

The questions now become "why did she do it?", "what did she want from it?", and all sort.

N.B. - this is a MOST CASE Scenario.

Life HEALTH: 10 Things That Will Prematurely Age You

I came across this and it makes so much sense! You surely would improve your life-face with some of these. Quite lengthy though!

"Read this interesting piece and thought it will be nice to share. I hope you guys learn a thing or two from it.

1) Your Pillowcase: You may think you're indulging in a bit of beauty sleep when you hit the hay at night; however the opposite could in fact be true. If you regularly sleep with the same side of your face pressed against a cotton pillow case this may cause creases on the skin which can eventually turn to fine lines and wrinkles.

To help stay youthful overnight try sleeping on your back instead, or switch to a silk or satin pillowcase to create less compression wrinkles and help maintain skin's moisture levels.

2) Your Job: While having a job is pretty essential for most of us, it can also be one of the biggest causes of premature ageing. Firstly, work is a big source of stress for many people, which research has found can increase risk of heart disease and speed up cell ageing. Secondly, spending too many hours in the workplace can mean you have little time for essentials such as exercise, proper meals and sleep. 

To help minimise damage, try to avoid working exceptionally long hours and make the most of your evenings and weekends as times to relax.

3) Drinking From Bottles And Through Straws: You probably know that what you drink can affect your looks, but you may be surprised to hear that how you drink can also influence how well you age. In fact, sucking on straws and drinking out of sports bottles causes the same pursing action – and therefore the same fine lines and wrinkles around the mouth – as smoking.

Try drinking directly from the glass whenever you can to help keep the wrinkles at bay. 

4) Low Fat Diets: Many of us switch to low fat diets to help shed excess pounds. However, cutting out good, healthy fats such as omega-3 fatty acids could negatively affect the speed and way in which you age. Omega-3 fatty acids – present in oily fish, walnuts and flax seeds – are essential for keeping you looking and feeling young. 

Not only do they help keep skin supple and wrinkle-free, but they help boost brain health, keep your heart in good condition, and can even increase your lifespan.

5) Soap: While you may think that soap is your skin's best friend, this is actually not the case. The reason for this is that your skin has an acid mantle which is a natural protective barrier of the skin. When you wash with soap – which is generally alkaline – it can remove this protective layer of oils and dry out the skin, eventually leading to wrinkles. 

While it is not advisable to stop washing entirely, try swapping the soap for a PH-neutral and chemical-free cleanser, and bear in mind that there is such a thing as over-cleansing your skin.

6) Listening To An iPod: Hearing loss is a common symptom of ageing, yet many of us may suffer from diminished hearing early on due to listening to loud music through headphones. While listening to music sparingly and at a moderate volume is unlikely to do you much harm, a study has shown that listening to music on headphones for an hour can temporarily affect people's hearing, while some researchers have suggested that listening at full volume could put you at risk of permanent damage.

7)Too Little (Or Too Much) Exercise: The benefits of exercise are immeasurable for keeping you looking and feeling young. Not only does a lack of exercise shorten your life and increase risk of obesity and heart disease, but exercise can also keep your brain young by protecting against Alzheimer's, boosting your mood and leaving you feeling alert and energised. Furthermore, increased blood flow to your skin can help keep your complexion clear, bright and youthful-looking. On the flip side, while we should all make an effort to stay active, too much exercise can cause stiffness in joints and increase risk of arthritis. 

8) Cool Sugar: Eating too much sugar is clearly bad news for your waistline; however sugar consumption is also up there with sun exposure and smoking when it comes to the major causes of wrinkles. When blood sugar levels are high, a process called glycation occurs which damages the collagen in your skin. Once damaged, the normally springy collagen hardens, leading to wrinkles and sagging.

9) Central Heating: Many of us spend a fortune on anti- ageing skin products, yet we may regularly accelerate skin ageing without even being aware of it. The central heating and air conditioning systems that many of us use at home and at work can severely dry out skin, leading to premature ageing and wrinkles. 

To help keep skin youthful and soft, try turning down the heating and wearing more layers to stay warm. Keeping a glass of water in the room can also increase humidity, while wearing a protective face cream can help relieve dryness.

10) Watching TV: While we all know that spending hours in front of the television is bad for your waistline, you may not know that it can also shorten your lifespan. Researchers from the University of Queensland found that for every hour you watch TV you may shorten your life by as much 22 minutes. Furthermore, research has suggested that watching TV could increase your risk of developing Alzheimer's disease.

12-Year-Old Boy Rapes His Sister After Watching Porn Film

A boy of 12 raped his younger sister as he mimicked scenes from a porn film he saw on the internet, a court in the UK has heard. He became addicted to hardcore films after downloading them at school, then 'replicated' what he had seen during a year-long campaign of sexual abuse.

The boy admitted raping his sister, who is aged under ten and was given a three-year rehabilitation order. He will be registered as a sex offender for two-and-a-half years.

The incidents took place at a relative's home where the siblings would share a bedroom, Newport crown court heard. However, the boy will not be separated from his parents, who were in court. Judge Thomas Crowther QC said the case was a stark reminder that the internet is not a 'benign babysitter' but a 'mirror of adulthood in all its forms'.

He added: 'It's a sad fact that many boys of his age will have been exposed to adult pornography.' His school was not named but an investigation into how he accessed pornography in class is under way.

Adults with fragile psychological strength are mostly pushed to rape after been addicted to pornography!

If we want to stop rape, we have to draw the line somewhere!

Mum Shoots and Kills Daughter After Mistaking Her for Boyfriend

Read this and tell me if it was insanity in play or just lack of anger management skills.
A Florida woman was arrested and charged with killing her daughter after mistaking the 25-year-old woman for her boyfriend.
Adele Bing, 52, was charged with second degree murder in the death of Rudy Bing, who was shot at her mother's front door, WFTV.com reports. Adele Bing was also charged with child endangerment. Rudy Bing was holding her 4-month- old baby when she was shot after she knocked on her mother's door. The baby was not injured.
From WFTV.com: Police said Adele Bing, 52, had an argument with her boyfriend, James Lane, earlier in the day and allegedly hit him with a gun. Lane went to the hospital to be treated for his injuries when officers said they received a call about a shooting at Adele Bing's home. Authorities said Ruby Bing went to visit her mother and knocked at her front door while holding her 4- month-old baby. Police said Adele Bing was still upset about the argument she had with Lane and thought he was the person knocking.
Investigators said Adele Bing armed herself with a baseball bat and a handgun, and as she opened the door, she fired a shot, hitting her daughter in the upper chest. The 4-month-old was not injured, but Ruby Bing died at the scene.

I still don't know..

Note to Insecure girls

Don't let this be your mirror!
In thoughts or actions

Dear Insecure Girls, Please stop hating and being ashamed of yourselves. Thick or thin, tall or short, dark or fair, you're beautiful the way you are and you don't realize it. Real men always choose, love, respect, adore the real YOU. If you're changing for your man, something ain't right. Accept, Stay real, Love yourself & know your worth. You're not ugly, Society is...

5 things you can't recover in life

You might have heard about a "Recovered Life". If you haven't, it is about living an authentic, fulfilling life. It's rising wonderful and great, but there would still be things you'll wish never went down as they did. Careful living is imperative to avoid regrets. 

Your phone and your sleep.

Life and Mistakes

It is commonly said that "if you haven't made mistakes, then you haven't lived". Quite true, I'll say. Human life is so error/mistake prone; basically because we don't know the future and most times can't predict the unintended consequence of our actions. 

Wise men say "making mistakes isn't stupid, but making mistakes without learning from them is what makes the stupid".

¤ Sit back and think about some mistakes you've made in life and what you learnt from them.

Making intentional blunders on the other hand do not count as mistakes! Simply because you knew the consequence(s) of those action(s) but still went ahead and acted a fool.

¤ Mistakes are never intentional.

With this clear knowledge that mistakes are not intentional, it would only be unfair not to forgive a mistake you were at the receiving end of the consequence(s).

¤ Forgive. You can do it!

Be Angry But Don't Sin

Anger is an essential part of being human. People are taught to deny themselves anger, and in this, they are actually opening themselves up to hate. 

The more you deny yourself the freedom to be angry, the more you will hate. Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! 

The more you deny that you are angry, in attempts to be "holy" the more inhuman you will become, and the more inhuman you will become, the harder it will be to forgive. 

On the other hand, "violent anger" or "extreme anger" should be tamed and avoided.

Bottom line: Yes be angry; but while angry, commit no offence against religious or moral laws, neither exhibit any action that is or is felt to be highly reprehensible!

What is life?

Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind.

You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. You learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning and start learning.

Life has enough problems; therefore, share the road with friends.

We're born alone,we live alone,we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for d moment that we're not alone.

Different degree of inclination towards Fashion, work - career, family life

To live is to suffer to survive; to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering; to survive is to live a life.

Signs You’ve Lost Your Partner's Love

Many people jump into relationships; some are into more than one at a time. The number of relationships dissolved per day is on the increase daily, not to mention the modes of separation. Breakups are not new; some happen less than 24 hours after sexual intimacy. For people that think well before going into relationships, you need to know the signs of an apparent breakup.

1. Avoiding family gatherings: When you partner doesn’t want you to come around his/her family members which you normally so, then there’s something not in place. When there a breakup just around the corner, this intensifies. It’s just a textbook reaction to avoid your friends and families when the heart has lost her interest.
2. No invitation to share: When you partner doesn’t ask about your day or experiences and shows consistent lack of interest in how you live; then you’re some steps away from a break up.
3. More Secretive: There are partners that do not share much stories about their lives but there would definitely be some personal things you both share. When your partner is withholding daily experiences from you which are normally shared, then something is wrong. More specifically, if this secrecy cuts across the board and not just an aspect of his/her life, then your partner is attempting to disconnect from you. Intentional excusing him/herself to make or receive social phone calls is a big red flag.
4. Questionable acts: Has your partner starts flirting with people, staying unusually late and cares less about informing you before or during the ‘absent period’, and also doesn’t share with after the ‘prodigal return’,  then you have something to worry about. Open flirting is a way telling you “there’s nothing special/distinctive between us”.
5. No physical Contact: Hugging, holding hands and sitting closely were formally part of the characteristics of your association. But now, there aren’t even mistaken contacts. This adds up to intentional emotional withdrawal. 
6. Preferring silence to fighting: People that argue and fight to express their disapproval in relationships are trying to save something. But when there’s nothing worth fighting for or the heart has taken solace in someone else, partners avoid the fight because it’s not needful.
   

   

Attribute of a true relationship (15)-Ex

Leave your ex out of it

It is close to impossible to have a healthy new relationship if you're still hung up on one from the past. Let it go and embrace this new relationship. Focus on the one you're with unless you want them to become your next ex.

Power in The Touch of Love

Two twins were in their respective incubators and one was not expected to live. A hospital nurse broke the hospital rules and placed them in one incubator. When they were placed together, the healthier of them threw an arm over her sister in an endearing. The other baby’s heart stabilized and temperature rose to normal.



Attribute of a true relationship (14)-Attention

Pay attention

Your new relationship will need a lot of attention. Pay attention to your partner, get to know them and be an active part of your relationship. Learn their likes and dislikes, tell them yours. Get to know them like you would get to know a best friend.

Guys, Dating and Relationships

From a distance, relationships are actually simple. To be honest, its individuals that start the complications and cause issues left right and center, hereby making relationships burdens to bare. 

All in all, both parties need to just focus on sharing happiness, love and care; be open, trustworthy and respectful; patient when partner fall into crisis and problems (like career and extended family). 

Just that would solve so much problems!

Reasons YOU ARE and STILL WOULD be single

Do you sit wondering why you are still without a partner (lover) for over a long time? Especially when you are shopping for a lifetime partner? Here are a few; you might stumble on some that you notice in your life.

1. Unrealistic hopes: Have you been writing up a list of “qualities and prospects” you expect from the prospective lover? Then you might wait a longer while than you thought. Some people narrow it down to the type if cloths or shoes they expect the lover to be wearing on their meeting. That’s just off!

2. Workhorse: Are you always within workspace and barely have any time to eat good dinner at home or outdoors in a nice setting? It’s hard to meet people let alone get someone you could spend time with. They key to life has always been a balancing all aspects that none suffers. Been a workaholic isn’t helpful.

3. Bad dating history: You might have felt once you breakup with your wrong dating choices and go one to the next person, it’s all forgotten. But there are hunting shadows. They are most painful when the past gets back and hurt you when you feel you have met the very “perfect” person. Dating people with social/psychological issues might irritate your new partner if the old pops up.

4. Expecting rejection: When you are always thinking there’s a “NO” response awaiting you if you walk up to any one, then you might as well get it. There’s always a chance for everyone, especially those who play their cards right from the start. It starts with a smile and an open heart.

5. Past comparisons: Meeting new people is good but equating them to your former dates and experiences is a way of removing all good hopes. Everyone is different and unique in his or her own way. It’s essential to remember again that everyone is unique.

6. Wrong company: When you move with married folks, socialites or workaholics, it poses great hindrance on your ability to find prospective interests.   

7. Wrong choices: Have you been opting for people based of first appearance and “you feel you two would make a good match”? It’s ideal to the math if indeed you know what you are looking for. Try dating someone open to you, around you and ready to be in a relationship.

If you notice a couple or any of these in your life, then you must work on them so you have better chances.

Attribute of a true relationship (13)-Secrets

Don't over-share

In the first few weeks of a relationship, nothing is set in stone yet so you never can be too careful. Be mindful about sharing personal details until you’ve built an equal foundation of trust with each other and you are certain that it is going to work long term. 

Remember: Not all secrets are bad!

Shifted hips!

The society is gradually making her demands and people are running head over heels to meet up. The type of hair you make, eye lash fixing, cloths you wear, shoes you buy, designs on your face, and other bodily fixes are been corrupted.
Why not be you? Instead of trying to look like everyone else, avoid the public disgrace and be unique, simple, beautiful and radiant!

Attribute of a true relationship (12)-Originality

Get comfortable

You spend a few hours getting ready for your first few dates with a really cute guy, you try to order a salad or something light when he takes you out to eat and you check your makeup in a store window when he’s not looking. Sound familiar, ladies? Realize that you can’t keep this up forever and best of all, the guy you’re with isn’t asking you to. Just be yourself, you’ll be much more comfortable and your new beau will be able to enjoy you for you!

Trusting yourself through Love and disappointments

Trust in YOU

It's a new day to act on and achieve your dreams. You're not really strong enough until you're have gathered the strength to trust in yourself more than you trust everybody else. 

What happens when the 'help of others' fail to move you further? 

Relationships have a resounding resonance when the two people involved above all believe in themselves to move ahead whatever happens (positive or negative). That is where the power to dare actually comes from. It's very common for people to start a relationship on a dare because they do not know the future. 

Trust in YOU first and you can achieve!

Attribute of a true relationship (11) -Imperfection

No Relationship is Perfect.

A relationship wouldn't be a relationship without imperfections. Arguments are a natural thing when it comes to relationships! Don't be worried if you're having the occasional fight.

Smile and Peace in your life and RELATIONSHIP

People commonly say "you should always wear a smile", but I don't believe that you should "always" wear a smile. Seriously, you're going to look stupid!

But peace, you should always carry peace within you, its the most beautifying thing you could ever have or do. 

Peace is the number one beautiful ornament you can wear, I really believe that. 

Peace makes your heart beautiful and it makes you look beautiful, too. 

Your peace makes your partner feel at home with you! 

You want to have perfect physical posture when you stand, sit, and walk? Peace is the perfect posture of the soul, really! Try perfect posture outside as well as inside. Peace creates grace and grace gives peace. Often smiles and regular peace makes your life and relationship sweet, spiced and spectacular! 

Counsel: Don't do it

When an action is wrong by some parameters; you know it'll make you ashamed and regretful in future; or there would be repercussion(s), then you try hiding the atrocity you've committed!

Why do it in the first place?

Why not shun the devil while the was whispering to your ears?

Its best you exercise due self-control and don't do it!

Questions and Opinions: "Guys, Love and Friendzone"

Question: Why do guys friendzone girls they claim to love?

Answer: Everyone isn't created the same, for example, some are more out spoken that others. Interests, relationships and dating have evolved over time, and many actions usually aren't as they appear. 

Why do some guys "friend-zone" girls. First, the depends on personality of the individual involved.

1. Some might not be courageous to ask the lady out. Shy guys somethings have shaky hands and voice when talking to a lady they have an emotional pull to.

2. Some might have a feeling the relationship won't work out and are scared to try. Again I say, we are not the created the same; some people (guys) indeed are scared of complicated relationships!

3. The lady's association with another guy might make the "friend-zoner" think she's in a relationship or someone else has her attention. Therefore, if he tries, he feels there's a 'NO' waiting for him.

4. Here's a common one: Some guys hate rejection, are scared of rejection and run from anything that might bring it! (They feel friend-zoning makes them sure of if they are going to get a positive answer before asking). 

5. Some guys are in currently relationships but do not love the lady (probably asked her out due to curiosity and experiment), and they find it hard to jump out. After meeting a lady he loves, he keeps her in the "friend-zone" hoping his current relationship crashes. 

6. On the offside, some guys want many ladies, so friend-zoning keeps the ladies at arms length.

7. As you said, the guy might just "claim to love" the lady but really doesn't. If you love someone, you set things straight to get things levelled and rosy between the two of you.

Hope that helps.  

Attribute of a true relationship (10)-Competitions

There is nothing to prove

It's not about who's has this and who brings that in. Both work together to raise each other higher. Intra-relationship competition only proves the two people involved aren't seeing each other has help but rather "friendly competitants"

Punch fear

A man’s mind is his basic tool of survival. Life is given to him, but survival is not. His body is given to him, but sustenance is not. His mind is given to him, but content is not. To remain alive, he must act, and before he can act, he must know the nature and purpose of his action. He cannot obtain his food without a knowledge of food and of the way to obtain it. He cannot dig a ditch – or build an empire – without knowledge of his aim and of the means to achieve it. There's much to achieve. There are so many dares to be made in life. For success in life, every stage, process and section of life requires you facing your fears courageously.

How ready are ready to succeed this new week?  One thing to do!

Never chase Love

Attribute of a true relationship (9)-Understanding

 

You should be on the same timeline.

People date for different reasons. Maybe you’re not ready to settle down any time soon but he’s shopping for a spouse. Make sure you know what you’re wanting from the relationship and that your partner does too. If you’re not looking for the same things, it’s better to know early in the relationship than later when you’ve both invested so much into it.

Counsel: Sex, Appearance, Respect, Men and Ladies

Law of Attraction

 

It really is what it is. However people treat you, before blaming them, you need to conduct a self-evaluation.

Execute a comprehensive and honest self-check; ask yourself "Am I not responsible for the disrespect people throw at me?"

Why do "purpose-less guys" (hooligans and thugs) whistle/approach you on the street, look at yourself and check; "Do I present myself like an aimless girl?"

Is your boss pestering you for sex and related indecent interactions? Assess yourself - What am I doing that's making this man think so lowly of me?

(Probably by dressing, manner of speaking or places you go to)

90% of the mess we get are attracted by us!

A queen is awarded her respect because her everything demands it. That’s what she attracts to herself.

 

You want to be clean? Stop attracting the dirts

Life Counsel: Drug use

To anyone who brags about drug use, hear what Kurt Cobain had to say.

Qualities That Makes Women Irresistible to Men

• Personal hygiene: Let it be known to all ladies that ‘from a look at you while walking on the street, men can know your hygiene level.’ You want know you the spots? The back of your foot; your nails; your hair; your teeth, your armpit (when wearing armless blouses), your dress, your smell (fragrance/body odor) and how sanitized you are to keep sweats off.
• Smiling: This is a facial expression that has a control on the whole body. Smiling makes a woman more beautiful, approachable, looking confident, cheerful and radiant. So smile; not because you’ve had it easy and satisfied but because it brings the best out of you. Flash a smile; it hides the fear and timidity. A seasonal smile to a man makes him feel accepted, comfortable around you and keeps you on his mind.
• Listening: Whining and nagging are opposite to the good quality of listening in a lady. It is rare to have a lady who whines, nags and listens. Rarely do men and women want to listen during conversation these days; therefore, when a man meets a woman who listens and isn’t eager to ‘take over’ or ‘dominate’ the conversation, it interests him. Note that this isn’t for a woman not to have her opinion and voice it but right way and time.
• Femininity: The girlishness or lady ladylikeness in a woman is an aurora that just attracts men. Don’t fight it; it’s just the way men are made. Femininity cuts across dressing, carriage, comportment, speaking, and all other lifestyles. It’s either you are male or female; you can’t be both and there’s not spot in between.  That been said, men do women not men. (You might be thinking what about gays; well, this conversation and classification does not include them).
• No drama: Men dislike drama queens; especially does that act to be noticed in the public. Let your saneness, charisma, modest dressing, fragrance and decency speak for you. 

These are the top merits that sway a man and makes him stare carelessly when he knows he cant have you.

 

Qualities That Makes Women Irresistible to Men

Personal hygiene: Let it be known to all ladies that 'from a look at you while walking on the street, men can know your hygiene level.' You want know you the spots? The back of your foot; your nails; your hair; your teeth, your armpit (when wearing armless blouses), your dress, your smell (fragrance/body odor) and how sanitized you are to keep sweats off.
Smiling: This is a facial expression that has a control on the whole body. Smiling makes a woman more beautiful, approachable, looking confident, cheerful and radiant. So smile; not because you've had it easy and satisfied but because it brings the best out of you. Flash a smile; it hides the fear and timidity. A seasonal smile to a man makes him feel accepted, comfortable around you and keeps you on his mind.
Listening: Whining and nagging are opposite to the good quality of listening in a lady. It is rare to have a lady who whines, nags and listens. Rarely do men and women want to listen during conversation these days; therefore, when a man meets a woman who listens and isn't eager to 'take over' or 'dominate' the conversation, it interests him. Note that this isn't for a woman not to have her opinion and voice it but right way and time.
Femininity: The girlishness or lady ladylikeness in a woman is an aurora that just attracts men. Don't fight it; it's just the way men are made. Femininity cuts across dressing, carriage, comportment, speaking, and all other lifestyles. It's either you are male or female; you can't be both and there's not spot in between. That been said, men do women not men. (You might be thinking what about gays; well, this conversation and classification does not include them).
No drama: Men dislike drama queens; especially does that act to be noticed in the public. Let your saneness, charisma, modest dressing, fragrance and decency speak for you.
These are the top merits that sway a man and makes him stare carelessly when he knows he cant have you.

Attribute of a true relationship (8)-Friends

Your Friends' Opinions matter.

It’s easy to get swept off your feet in a new relationship but don’t leave your friends out of your life just because you might be falling in love. Your partner should get close to your friends if they are going to be a part of your life. If you feel the need to hide your partner from your friends, it’s time to question if there might be a reason.

After the heart has been broken..

People

Quotes from Africa's Billionaires

One stop on the road to attaining a billion-dollar fortune is to seek advice at the feet of those who have already attained it. And while it might be difficult to get face time with some of Africa’s richest people, you can learn a lot from their words of wisdom.

In the spirit of self-motivation, here are 20 inspirational quotes from a few members of Forbes’ list of 50 Richest Africans.

1. If you don’t have ambition, you shouldn’t be alive. – Aliko Dangote
2. Every morning when I wake up, I make up my mind to solve as many problems, before retiring home. – Aliko Dangote
3. As you start out in life, it is important that you know at least something about everything, but as you get older it is important that you know everything about something. – Johann Rupert
4. The harder you work, the luckier you get. – Mike Adenuga
5. In Life, you don’t get anywhere or do anything you hope to without some sort of sacrifice. – Stephen Saad
6. I think there are a lot of people with family connections but who are actually nowhere. If you are hardworking and determined, you will make it and that’s the bottom line. I don’t believe in an easy way through. – Isabel Dos Santos
7. One has to set high standards… I can never be happy with mediocre performance. – Patrice Motsepe
8. Money is not my objective. – Desmond Sacco
9. I own quite a lot and I have worked very hard for it. – Sudhir Ruparelia
10. In today’s world, paradoxically, it is the boldest action that is often the safest. Remaining where you are in a world that is changing so rapidly is in fact the most dangerous of all places to be in. – Hakeem Belo- Osagie
11. Failure is a good thing. – Hakeem Belo-Osagie
12. It’s essential to draw up a “things to do” list on a daily basis and set priorities in executing them, making sure that any unfinished task get posted to the next day’s list. – Folorunsho Alakija
13. I grew up in poverty, but I always saw it as a challenge. The good thing is that you can surmount a challenge if you are willing to pay the price. The price is hard work. – Reginald Mengi
14. People in Tanzania look at my wealth and think I must be sunbathing and playing golf all day. But I work really hard. I put in a hundred hours a week. It’s a never stopped game. You can never say I’ve worked hard enough now. – Mohammed Dewji
15. A vision on its own is not enough. Hard work & dedication is required to make that vision a reality – Strive Masiyiwa
16. Today is the beginning of the Rest of your Life! You are the Pilot of your life! Lock in your destination; take off to it, from where you are! – Vimal Shah
17. In business you have to know when to retire, before someone knocks you out.” – Lauritz (Laurie) Dippenaar
18. In whatever you do, strive to be the best at it – Aliko Dangote
19. Whether you’re a farmer, builder or engineer, the opportunities are equal: Just add a little innovation – Strive Masiyiwa
20. Entrepreneurship without skills limits your growth potential – Strive Masiyiwa

Attribute of a true relationship (7)-Time

Take your time to build.

There is no need to rush into anything. Let the relationship happen naturally as you build up love and respect for one another. Despite what the movies or tv shows may say, you don’t have to be in a rush for intimacy or commitment. You’ll know when you’re ready and so will your partner.

Try again..

Identifying a ‘Potential Abuser’

Let’s remove all gloves and note the characters of a potential abuser. If your boyfriend has a handful of the following characters, it means you need to reconsider your position about that relationship.
• Excessive monitoring: If he’s always keeping tabs of your moves, interactions, phone calls and estimates the time it takes you to get to point B from point A; then he has it in him. This isn’t referring to the concern and awareness of a caring boyfriend about the lady he loves.
• Rushing into the relationship: Although some ladies are guilty of this, but when a guy is just in too much of a hurry to get you committed into a relationship, then it’s a sign. It’s not due to the overwhelming love in the case of these abusers but the right to claim right and control over you.
• Separating you from all ties: When your boyfriend has a problem with all your close friends, families and neighbors; and he’s doing everything possible to get you isolated from all possible bonds, he’s most probably an abuser. This is a textbook character.
• Confuses jealousy with love: He has gone over possessive and you barely allowed greeting or having a causal conversation a males, it’s a sign you should run. This character also includes him tagging you as “unfaithful” most often when he gets to know you had any encounter with another male.
• Financial control: He wants to be the treasurer of you money if you have a source of income. This is to assume maximum control over you. Married abusers demand their spouses quit their job, not for any sensible reason other than having you request everything you need from him so he can scrutinize it.
• Insults: The name he calls you and things he compares you to are just so unbelievable. He insults you at any and every slight chance he gets, hereby making you feel less human.
• Threats: After a while, threats start coming in if you think or act like you are trying to empower yourself to leave him. He threatens to hurt you, your family, or even kill you. He also threatens you that he could kill himself if you leave him and he says he’s death would be on you. These are nothing new.
• Passing 'Sick' Blames: Did he hit a lady, fight your neighbor or do something inhumane and blame it on the victim? He passes blames for he’s loss of control and rage.

If you have noticed most of these signs, then he’s full blown abuser and you’ll be lucky to escape. These signs manifest in degrees, therefore, if he’s still at the early stage, make a run for it and let people and authority know what is going on. Save yourself from an abusive relationship.

Attribute of a true relationship (6)-Normalcy

Keep living your life.

It is so important that as you form your relationship that you are not giving it all your time and energy. Don’t stop your life and don’t expect your partner to stop theirs. You should still have hobbies and personal goals no matter who you are dating.

Counsels: When the heart speaks..

There are times the heart just get it right. The heart seems to see what we consciously missed or make suggestions to do or not to. Make it a practise to listen to you heart often; and when you do, use your head(brains) to assess the decision if its a decision of future detriment. There are some decisions however that the heart has no choice but to follow what the wisdom of the brain says.

Never despise the instruction from you heart; and remember knowledge is from the brain.

"Monster" Alert

Ever watch any of those movies where they guy badly ill-treats his girlfriend or wife? Not the usually “unaffectionate” partner but the ones that physically batters and humiliates the lady. I’m sure when it gets to the part where the guy gets severed; you nod feeling “that serves him right”. What many do not know or rather forget to put into thinking is that there are in reality men (or ladies in some cases) who are just like that. First question is “how did the partner get entangled in such a mess in the first place?” “Didn’t she see it coming all along?” “Does she just want to be in such dilemma?”

The truth is most “monstrous men” of such try to hide their psychiatric traits for the first couple of times and most ladies would be blinded by pretty face, classic restaurant, charade of gentleman acts and sweet words. Some partners even hide it well till after marriage! Look out before you become a victim. 

Dating Signs: During the initial dating session – first couple of formal outdoor meetings; 

• If he’s showing up late; he’s dressed too carelessly; lacks the enthusiasm; and doesn’t show you any special treatment/care as a lady, then you need to watch it. 
• If without consulting you, he chooses to take you to sport or play of pure violence during the first dates, then you are with the wrong person.
• If he shows any reservation in picking the bill at the restaurant, talks about his ex and uses obscene languages to describe her, then you probably should plan your future with someone else.
• If he appears ‘weird’ in any way, like talking about witchcrafts, deaths, horrors and related issues; please, politely cut the night short.
• If he’s not really asking you about your life (probably because he doesn’t want to talk about he’s life), then endure the boring night but take a taxi home. 

Post-dating signs: You might have probably missed the signs and said yes to having a relationship with him. If you notice the following, think of how to cut short your mistake and save your life.

• He throws up in extreme anger over a non-life threating situations.
• His family members and friends warn people (or you) about his anger.
• He speaks rashly to people (usually subordinates).
• Less and less attention is given to you after you choose to date him.
• He has a history of hitting ladies (ex-girlfriends).
• He exhibits terrible personality traits but acts sweet to you and wants to cement the relationship too quick (either by marriage or having you move in to live with him).

The type of men in these criteria isn’t those with little emotional baggage that can be fixed with ‘some spoons of love and cups of care”. Much greater “help” is needed to change them…by a professional. If you so choose to hang on with a man after noticing these signs, all the best to your endeavor.  

Bottom Line: Do not be desperate to date anyone one for any reason. Go into a relationship with your full senses watching for your well being. This is the only way you can avoid mid night cries.