Happy New Year

You can't destroy the past, but you can create the future.

What you are is what you have been, and what you will be is what you do now. Many people look forward to the new year for a new start on old habits. Hope that's not you..?!

Less of....and More of

New Year "Resolutions"

Koreans have a curious new-year custom. Desiring to forget unpleasant things and make a fresh start, each person determines what bad habits he would like to eliminate and what past deeds he wants forgiven. Then he writes the names of those evils on a kite and flies it high into the air. When it is almost out of sight, he cuts the string. As the “paper bird” takes a nosedive and disappears from sight, he thinks that all his faults and previous transgressions are forever removed.

Guilt of your wrongs isn't the same as changing your ways. There is need for an abrupt redirection in lifestyle and actions before you can make something productive out of your guilt. Have you offended someone? Guilt of your wrong is conscience speaking; getting up to make right the wrong is what would make the difference.

If indeed you are done with the past, the future has plenty of room for change. However, you need to be that change - in action...not just in words of making new year resolutions.

The First Thing Men Notice in Ladies and Looking Good

What do you think is the first thing a man notices when he sees you? (Hint: you’ve got two of them—but they’re probably not what you think.) 

If you guessed “boobs” you’re certainly among the majority. But, um, you’re aiming too low. 

The absolute first aspect of your appearance that grabs a man’s attention are the very things with which you’re reading this article: your eyes! It’s been proven time and time again, in study after study. 

The eyes have it, and because the eyes also happen to be the first place ageing makes itself apparent, ladies hoping to remain as attractive as possible might want to take a moment to rethink how they’re going about enhancing them. 

The eyes have been called the window to the soul..

When tasked with beautifying your eyes, the first idea that comes to mind might be a trip to the cosmetics counter for a makeover, complete with some brand new smoky shadows, and the whole "decoration". However, you need hold your horses and think for a bit. The "work of art" you do to your eye lash and brows speaks volumes about your personality. When the "additives" are too much, it removes the beauty you have and makes you look the opposite. The truth and shocker is that many ladies look more beautiful with just a clear neat appearance.. As known, nature is the best "makeup" you can wear. 

A smoldering eye might sound sexy and attractive, but in reality it’s not something that looks good on everyone. (Let’s not even talk about the effort necessary to properly create the look, either.) 

Men are attracted to beautiful eyes, but how many times have you heard a man complain about a woman wearing too much makeup? That’s the tricky thing about the opposite sex. They’re into a perfect appearance, but evidence of artificiality, like heavy-handed, clumpy mascara all fall into one category - ugly.

Generally speaking, it’s one of their biggest turnoffs.

Holes Your bad habits Created

A boy was said to be a heartache to his father by being rebellious to his words. His father, who got worried, not for anything else, but for how the boy was destroying his own life, called him and said: “I want to show you what you’re doing to your life. I’m going to put a wooden post in our front yard. Every time you rebel, I will put a nail in this post. Every time you obey, I will pull out one nail.” The boy stubbornly replied: “I’m going to do everything I can to fill that post with nails,” which he actually did.

Within two months, he filled that post with nails. Later, he realised the damage he had done, not only to his own life, but also to his parents and decided to have a change of life. His father, as he promised, began to remove the nails one by one. When the last nail came out, the boy broke down in tears. His father astonishingly asked: “Son, why are you crying?” The boy replied: “I got rid of the nails, but I can’t get rid of the holes.”

 

Unfortunately, some people never get to the point of removing the nails. They never recognise the effect of their bad habits and actions. not only are such people destroying their lives, they are pulling down the people around them into depression, shame, disgust, sorry, pain and regret.

Different bad habits have different extent of damage. Drunk men are not only shame and dishonour to their wives but destructors of their children psychologically. Immodest women are the big contributors to wayward girls and skyrocketing immorality.

 

Bottom line: Whatever evil you indulge in, remember the consequences are viral; not only to you but people around you. Plus, even if you choose to amend your ways for the better, you can't reverse the "evil" effects you've had on other people's lives. Beware!!

5 Signs she’s In Love with Her Pastor

Pastors have the talent of influence and it comes at a cost because it can lead to trouble if it’s not handled responsibly. This is especially true for male pastors whose congregation is disproportionately comprised of women. Most of us have probably already read and/or heard about pastors who were caught having an affair with a female congregant. It’s no surprise, as the power of influence is much stronger than we are willing to acknowledge.

There are signs that you can look for in a woman who has potentially fallen in love with her pastor. Check out them out:

1. She quotes her pastor constantly, even in non- religious dialogue. Women who have fallen in love with their pastors truly cling on to his every word. Not quoting the bible; no, the pastor. They oftentimes quote him, even in conversation that has nothing to do with faith and/ or religion. If you find yourself knowing more about the woman’s pastor and her place of worship than you do about her, that’s a strong indication that she in love with her pastor.

2. She goes out of her way to please the pastor. Women who are in love with their pastor will do whatever it takes to please him. When the pastor has a birthday celebration, she brings the most expensive gift. When the pastor organizes a new ministry, she volunteers to run it. When the pastor asks for donations, she writes the first check. Her life is dedicated to making him happy at all costs.

 

3. She’s very sensitive to criticism of her pastor. A woman who has fallen in love with her pastor will not tolerate any criticism of him. She grows visibly upset with people who challenge him on his teachings — even if the challenge is warranted. When unpleasant rumors about him spread like wildfire in the church, she’s usually the person who does not believe it, even when there’s valid evidence to support the rumors.

 

4. She puts a lot of thought into her appearance for church. There are some women who are fashion savvy just because it’s a daily part of their lives. There are other women who aren’t fashion savvy but put much more effort into their attire for church versus their attire for the remainder of the week. These women also make sure their hair, nails, and makeup are up to par, as they want to make sure that the pastor notices their exterior beauty.

5. She expects every man she dates to be like her pastor. Women who have fallen in love with their pastor revere him as the “holy grail” of manhood. In their minds, their pastor is a good man to his wife and family; and he knows how to instill the same value systems that he upholds into other men. The woman who is in love with her pastor considers a perspective husband’s decision to join her church to be a deal breaker. If he, in anyway, believes the church is not for him, she does not find him worthy of dating and/or marrying.

Love with your Brain

Gone are the days when the best advice you can offer anyone in relationship turmoil would be "follow your heart".
That has landed many people in deeper mess because the never included some brain activity. Now you also have to "Love with your brain not only your heart".
Open all your senses and acquire as much detail before deciding to commit yourself to anyone.

How many have been mistaken by the "butterflies in their tummy" and failing to consider all other caution signs staring at them in the face!

Sharing What We Were Given

A father, one day, approached his young son who was eating a piece of cake which he had earlier given to him and requested him to share same with him. Strangely, the son refused bluntly. Unknown to him, the father had some honey in a jar which he kept out of view but intended to give to him had he obliged. He missed out the better and more profitable alternative because he was not prepared to part with what he had. How we miss better things when we refuse to share our modest blessings with others.

Three reasons account for why people now fail to share the riches they got in life:

1. Their refusal to act humane and see other people just like them suffering;

2. Selfishness to let go that which they possess for fear of exhaustion; and 

3. Fear of others becoming rich.

The natural man would count it unreasonable to share the little (and the last) quantum of possession that he has with another when there is no sure way of getting a replacement.

No matter how critical our situation may be, the solution to our problem all the time is absolute obedience to God's command and humane requirement of giving despite the prevailing odds.

Love "People" not "Things"

It is an open secret that many people have lost the basic characteristics of humanity in them. It's more like a fact in this era we live in.

 

"People were created to be loved, 

Things were created to be used,
The reason the world is in chaos is
because things are been love and people are been used."

The quality or nature of being human, being kind to other people, or being responsible for a sane society is suddenly leaving more humans by the day! This has been happening through different phases and processes. When you consider the increasing amount of rape, theft, murder, quest for power, segregation, psychopathy and sociopaths, threats to war among others, you'll see how glaring this secret is.
 

The generic humane affection given to other humans is now been shared with electronic gadgets, automobiles, sophisticated lifestyles at the expense of hurting other humans and in often cases taking neighbours, friends or countrymen's lives. Many comfortably refer to this as the survival of the fittest. How convenient?  

In relationships with people, both the intimate and communal, do not turn people to 'means' just to get to your desired acquisition. Many are engaged in intimate relationships just because of what they could get from the other person. That's so parasitic.
 

¤ Devote love to people-humans not things/objects.

¤ Never forget objects/things lose value over time after acquiring them.

¤ Refrain from putting people in bad circumstances, either emotionally or physically, for personal gains.

Chances are Limited

You "might" have second, third, forth or fifth chances to rewrite your wrong; but remember, correcting chances are limited! 

Therefore:

¤ Do not make intentional errors. (Intentional errors are different from mistakes).  

¤ Some mistakes give no room to corrections even though you never made them before. 

¤ Opportunity to correct a mistake may not come again after you wasted your chances on other errors. 

¤ Avoid waiting to correct your mistakes. Some "correcting chances" are time sensitive. 

¤ Learn from your mistakes. 

She stabbed her fiance after disagreement over wedding colours

"Richland County deputies say a 34-year-old woman stabbed her fiancé on Christmas Day after they argued over what colors should be used in their wedding.

Investigators say the man was trying to leave a home near Blythewood after the argument when Krysta James attacked him around 8:30 p.m. Wednesday. Deputies say the man was stabbed in the upper body, but his injuries weren't life-threatening.

James is charged with criminal domestic violence of a high and aggravated nature. She remains in jail on a $10,000 bond, and it isn't known if she has an attorney."

 

Thought:

I do not think this two should be getting married. If at all, not any soon; they don't seem to "familiar".

Did he really know the lady he was about getting married to?

Did he know her limits?

Probably he did something that set her  off that's not mention... but what could set-off "temporary insanity" against your supposed "lovebird"?

Marriage indeed needs to be carefully considered. 

5 Things A Man Should Think Of Before Having Sex

"Sex is thrilling, amazing and incredibly powerful. In fact, the drive for sex can make a man
insane. But as Spiderman’s uncle once said (I really love this quote and I use it all the time) “with great power comes great responsibility,” and with the manhood comes accountability."

Here are five things to consider before having sex: 

1) Why are you doing this anyway? Sadly enough, commercialized hip hop on the radio makes its billions by teaching black men to have sex with any pretty thing with a working vagina. The rule is that if she’s “fine” and she’s willing, then you’d be a fool not to take it. The sad part of this story is that a lot of brothers soon find that a toxic woman, even one with a beautiful smile, can make you wish you were never born. In additional to women who can be flat out evil and devious, there are others who are “walking public health hazards”. Everything that looks clean is not.  

2) Diseases are everywhere; when’s the last time YOU went to the doctor to get tested for STDs? Not just HIV, but Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, Herpes, HPV and all the other things that can kill you? Are you really stupid enough to think that you can run through every woman you want and not catch at least two or three of these diseases (yes, even with a condom, since a lot of people don’t wear condoms when they have oral sex)? Everyone wants to blame gay black men for the fact that HIV rates among black women are through the roof, but an irresponsible heterosexual is far more devastating than a responsible gay man any day of the week.

3) Are you ready for kids? Newsflash: There tends to be a correlation between sexual activity and child birth. Babies are not delivered by Storks, they are delivered by baby’s mamas. Some people talk about “hitting that” and “getting it in,” as if there is no chance that this woman might eventually be running around with the your child in her womb. When you choose to sleep with a woman, you may be putting your life and your child’s life in that woman’s hands. This leads to our next question…. 

4) Would you want this woman to be the mother of your child? So, you’re about to plant your seed of life into the woman that you don’t know, don’t like and don’t want to hang around more than 10 minutes after the sex is over? Good choice. How about spending the next 30 years with this woman, as she conspires to keep you out of the life your child, sucks up a massive chunk of your paycheck and teaches your kids all the wrong values, with you being able to do nothing about it?

Your seed is valuable, and you shouldn’t share it with just any woman who opens herself up to you. You have to think about your future. Speaking of child support… 

5) Do you want to pay child support for the rest of your life? Let me answer that question – no you don’t. Terrell Owens once thought it was a GOOD thing that he had as many women as he wanted. Now, he’s slowly realizing that his blessing has turned into a curse. The man who once had money to the ceiling is now taking a bath in his own pity party. Terrell didn’t plan, and all the other dudes out there making babies like there’s no tomorrow will also expect someone to feel sorry for them years later when they are broke, busted and disgusted. The truth is that I don’t feel sorry for them, and if you make the same choices, the world won’t feel sorry for you either. 

Sex is thrilling, amazing and incredibly powerful. In fact, the drive for sex can make a man insane. Little boys have no business having sex with anyone, so when you share yourself with a woman in the future, you must make sure that you’re thinking like a man.

Time, Energy and Money

6 Ways to be the Perfect Party Guest

1. R.S.V.P. 

One of the first things you need to remember in your role as the perfect party guest is to
make sure your host knows that you’re coming by replying to the invite. And if the invite doesn’t say ‘plus one’ then check before bringing a friend or partner. The last thing you want is to turn up with your significant other or best pal only to be met with a surprised half smile whilst standing in the doorway of embarrassment. 

2. JUST GO WITH IT 

Whatever the theme of the party is, just go with it. If it’s a fancy dress party then go all out and find the best costume you can. Don’t be too cool for school by being the only one who doesn’t go with the spirit of things because you might look a little odd wearing your normal clothes in a room full of fancy dressed party goers. Have fun with it and be creative! 

3. DON’T WORRY, BE HAPPY 

Whilst we sometimes might not be in the party mood, looking too miserable might mean you’re standing by the buffet table alone. Try to mingle and smile and before you know it, the reasons you were using as a potential excuse for not going to the party will quickly fade. After all, it was just what you needed! 

4. LATE ARRIVAL 

Whilst you don’t want to arrive too early as your host may not be ready, you also don’t want to arrive too late. Fashionably late is usually 30 minutes after the arrival time indicated on the invite. Obviously if it’s a dinner party, you need to arrive on time. You don’t want to annoy the other dinner guests by being the one they’re all waiting for.

5. R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

I gave the example of the umbrella stand, but there are other ways you can respect your host’s abode. For example, by being careful about where you put your drinks and avoid snooping around into private rooms. Above all, if you do happen to accidentally knock something over, admit to a breakage. After all, your host should have put Aunty Jackie’s antique vase (which is worth A LOT of money and is totally irreplaceable) in a safe place

6. DON’T OUTSTAY YOUR WELCOME 

Don’t be the last to leave and the one to whom the host is literally yawning in the face, hinting that the party is over and it’s time to leave. While you don’t want to leave too early, you also don’t want to leave too late. It’s always best to leave a party when you’re having a good time so you can take that memory with you.  

HaPpY hOLiDaYs

Hi,

This time of the year is family time. So for once, I won’t remind you about anything but urge you to make memories and pay attention to what really matters.

To get you in an appropriately holiday spirit, I’d like to share some of nice holiday memories. Meet a few people and hear what the holidays mean to them.

 

"My dad would always walk through the mall parking lot singing “Deck the Halls” as loud as he could. I was utterly embarrassed, but now I love, love, love singing along to Christmas music!" Faraz F.

 

"Driving my mom around San Diego to see the Christmas light displays is most definitely my favourite memory. We'd spend hours coursing through the city, sharing songs and old stories."Miguel V.

 

"My dad has been collecting nativity scene characters for the past 29 years. Every year he orders new ones made by hand from a small artisan shop in a little town, in the south of France. It's been a tradition of ours for so many years, I can't imagine ever missing it." Charles G.

 

So you go on and make a beautiful memory with your loved ones...

 

Have a wonderful holiday season! 



The Eyes Tells it all

The way she always looks at him is just so loving. The eyes indeed tells a lot and that's SO MUCH! 

Hope he noticed..

Relationship status quote

Someone said "When someone would ask me if I was single my response for the past 5 years could have been yes but I would have known in my heart that it would be a lie. After some very tough, much needed talking things through and understanding I am now 100% single. It's nothing bad, it was simply cosmic terrible timing in my opinion. He will forever be inside of me as a close friend and he will always be my better half. Just because this romance book is ending in the series I call life, doesn't mean there can't be another book about how two people took their romantic relationship and built a friendship everlasting."

Why Girls Don't Go For Nice Guys

Girls Prefer..

1. Predictable: The thing about nice guys is that after a while, you know exactly what they're going to do, how they'll react and how they'll handle things. This is wonderful if you're looking for stability and maturity but if you want a guy with an attitude that keeps you guessing, this isn't going to work.

 

2. Nothing Broken: A relationship should be even but unfortunately, a lot of women like the idea of a guy they can fix. Nice guys pretty much come out of the box with very little to fix and they usually end up fixing you too (so if you're not looking to be the one to improve, you'll probably get over this kind of relationship in a hurry!)

 

3. Doormat Syndrome: A gentleman is harder to find these days because a lot of the men out there are missing the gentleness and a lot of the gentle guys never learned to man up! Nice guys often have a problem where they let people walk all over them, including you.

4. Self-Esteem: Some nice guys have trouble asserting themselves which makes them come off shy. Men find a lot of value in being respected and recognized but if your guy is the kind that usually gets passed over, he might have a few insecurities he hasn't dealt with yet.

Can you see the look on her face?

 

5. Bed Time: Popular opinions have it that "nice guys finish last" could mean a very satisfying time in the bedroom for you both. However, if he's too timid, you might end up being the one who has to do all the work and that just might kill the mood.

 

6. Physical Attraction: Sorry to say it fellas, but some girls have trouble seeing the relationship potential if a guy is too shy and never makes his intentions clear. If a guy is too nice and never asserts his interest, it's really easy to put him in the dreaded Friend Zone.

 

7. On a Pedestal: Women do like to be treated with respect but the kind that is earned with time and getting to know them. By placing her on too high of a pedestal, you're saying you hold her to a nearly impossible standard and she'll always fear messing that up.

 

8. Nice Doesn't Always Equal Good: Remember, just because he's well-mannered, it doesn't mean he's a good catch. He could be the most polite guy in the world but that doesn't mean he's a good match for you and your life.

 

9. Commitment: When a girl dates a nice guy, she naturally starts to see him as a potential match. If a girl isn't ready to settle down, she might avoid dating a guy like this in fear of having to commit.

 

10. Finish Last: A nice guy will give you predictability, stability and he'll keep you nice. Some girls just can't handle that, they don't want to settle down so if that sounds too boring to you, just make sure you're not the kind of girl who always complains about being treated badly by the men in her life after you get what you asked for.

Five different ways you select a wrong person to marry

 1.     When you’re focused more on chemistry of the bond than on the character of the individual, you are choosing wrongly. Yes chemistry is good and ignites the fire, but good character that you can live with keeps that fire burning. Many people get married when they are in the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust". Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character?

Of course you won’t be able to note all your prospective partner’s character, but there are some tattletales that give them away even when they are most careful trying to appear all good and perfect before you. Take note of them and decide wisely.

2.     When you choose a person that doesn’t understand you, your needs and moods, then moving forward is really a big mistake. Your unique need is to be loved, made to feel like the most important person in the world and what ever else you may want to add. But how would someone that isn’t on the same page with you emotionally tell when its time do the most good expected? How would someone that can’t “read” your mood detect your feelings and help you feel better?

3.     When you have different goals and priorities in life, then you need to think again and think real deep. Let’s say for example a lady meets a man when he’s in the middle of traveling round the world. They both have the chemistry but after a month or two, he intends leaving for another location, possibly remote region that is different in almost everything. Whereas she loves being a chef aspiring to own her own restaurant.

Now, a marriage between these two would be a mistake. To avoid growing apart, they must both realize what they are individually “living for” and if they can do that together when married.

Soul mates” are “goal mates”.

4.     When you decide to marry an individual shortly after getting “intimate”, then your judgment has over an 80% chance of been clouded. 

I am very aware we currently live in a world were zero intimacy (sex) before marriage is gradually becoming a myth which really shouldn’t be so. Intimacy before commitment of marriage mostly presents a big problem because it prevents full honest exploration of partner regarding important issues. It has never been a necessity to take a “test drive” in order to ascertain each other’s physical compatibility.

5.     When you get married to escape from personal problems, you have started on a wrong foot. Family or societal pressures push people to get into relationships. “There isn’t love even from family and supposed friends, and so I need a man/lady” is a doomed move. Many are unhappy with themselves and think marriage is the solution. You bring what you have to the table in marriage; and when you have something negative to give, it’s unfair to your spouse.

If you are unhappy with your life, fix it while you are single and then you’ll feel better without a sense of rush when you approach the garden on marriage. This would gain you more ‘points’ when you finally elope with your spouse.  

As a give-away, I’ll add this; never marry someone that is emotionally dependent on something else while trying develop another relationship with you. A person who hasn’t separated from his parents (in the case of men), or in love with another person isn’t a good choice. People get emotionally dependent of other things like money, sports, work, drugs, internet or even hobbies. Be careful to have a matured partner free from all these bonds before you even think of eloping with him/her. Else you won’t be the number one priority and that’s no basis for a real marriage.

12 bad reasons to Break-Up

Some say when on a journey and you can't go forward anymore due to hardships and impossibilities, you can always go back. When relationships have hard times (just like every relationship must), people tend to resort to break up; but not all break-ups are wise. Here are reasons not to.

1. You want them to change their appearance: If you're demanding that your partner change their looks to suit you (or the society), then you don't deserve to be with them anyway. You need grow up and understand everyone can't be the same!

2. They still notice an attractive person: Yes you are in a relationship and your partner chose you but that doesn't mean he/she traded his/her senses from seeing and knowing someone looks good and attractive. Do not confuse this with eyeing every girl that passes by. 

3. Being single seems easier: Is being single easier? Yeah, it probably is because when you're single you can live your life however you want. But we're firm believers that nothing worth having comes that easily.

4. You had a fight: Disagreements should be a time to understand your partner better. It will be tough but this is the best time to fight for your relationship instead of just running away.

5. A "unplanned blessing": This one is a little extreme, but unfortunately it is more common than you might think. Keep in mind that if you felt close enough to make it happen, you're close enough to make it work. By the way, when you went into intimacy, what did you expect to come out of it? A limo or Porsche?

6. Not ready for marriage: Just because your partner isn't ready for marriage yet, doesn't mean it's time to walk away. You may just be at a different place than they are so if you're really serious about spending the rest of your life with them, give them the time they need to feel ready.

7. You don't have everything in common: Chances are you won't have all of the same hobbies because, well everyone is different. This was a lesson we learned as kids before basic education but some people seem to have trouble applying it to relationships.

8. You have different schedules: Sometimes relationships take a little more work because of different schedules. Maybe she works nights and you work mornings but that should not get in the way, if you're really trying to make it work then you'll always find the time.

9. They're not a stereotype: So, maybe you think your girlfriend should be cooking your meals and ironing your shirts. Or you think your boyfriend should be working all day and spending all of his money on you. A rule about relationships: someone should not have to change just to be with you.

10. The butterflies are gone: Remember your first date with them when you had butterflies in your stomach and you blushed because they complimented your outfit? This eventually wears off but just because you've become comfortable with each other, it does not mean that it's not working anymore. It happens to everyone. 

11. They don't make you happy all the time: Someone else should never be responsible for your own happiness. Relationships require work and sometimes, they feel anything but happy. If this is a problem for you, then you've seen one too many Disney movies.

12. Can't Handle Baggage: News flash, everyone comes with some kind of baggage. Even if it's the first serious relationship for your partner, they're going to have strings attached. If you're looking for perfection, you should probably just prepare to die alone.

10 ways to be confident

¤ Smile. Not only will it brighten your day but it will make others around you to smile too.

 

¤ At the end of each day, write down something you think you did well. E.g. I stood up for a fellow defenseless who was been cheated.

 

¤ Listen to songs that make you happy; not those that want to make you shot yourself the world or cry all day by yourself in your room.

 

¤ Believe that you’re in control. It kind of gives the feeling you are in the boss’s coat.

 

¤ Love what you wear and don’t wear what you don’t love. When you think you look good, it changes how you feel. This increases your confidence in presenting yourself to the society.

 

¤ Walk and work with purpose. Walk like you’ve got somewhere to be; and work like you have an objective to meet.

 

¤ Make eye contact with the person you are talking to. This is a textbook confidence building routine.

 

¤ Next time you are at a social gathering, meet someone new. Usually someone alone and open.

 

¤ Clear out the clutter in your life. A messy room equals a messy life.

 

¤ Stop comparing yourself to others. Focus on your good qualities rather than comparing yourself with others.

These are cool ways you boost your confidence 

How to Take Your Woman a Step Beyond Happy

1. Tell Her She's Beautiful: Women love compliments but none as much as those that come from the one they love. There should never be any doubt in her mind that you find her attractive. Tell her every time.

2. Reassure Her: Be the guy that's always in her corner, giving her sincere reassurance. If she's worried about that big interview, tell her how smart she is and what a great employee she'll be. If she's nervous about her new haircut, tell her how hot she looks. Whatever it is, just reassure her.

3. Treat Her Like a Real Lady: It doesn't matter if she drives monster trucks for a living and hasn't worn a dress since childhood, every woman loves it when a man treats her like a lady. Bring her flowers, make her candlelight dinners, leave her love notes. Do all of those little "cheesy" things you might feel silly doing because they will make her feel like she is loved.

4. Talk Her Up to Others: People don't like it when others talk about them behind their back unless something good is being said. When someone asks about your girl, tell them how amazing she is. It will eventually get back to her and when it does, she will love you for it.

5. Be Helpful and Understanding: This is especially huge if she gets into some kind of trouble or is under a lot of stress. Be understanding of her situation and try to help her however you can.

6. Listen To Her: Remember that you can hear someone without actually listening to them. When you listen to her, take a genuine interest in the things she has to say and respond by consoling her. This isn't a time to give her advice (unless she asks for it), she probably just wants to know you care.

7. Just A Kiss: Don't be the kind of guy that only kisses when it can turn into something more. Show her you love to kiss her any time, not just when it could lead to a make-out session.

8. Tell Her When You Miss Her: You may think that being in love sort of automatically implies that you'd miss each other when there is distance between you, but it doesn't mean she doesn't still want to hear it.

9. Embrace Her Quirks: Maybe she knows more about the world of comics than you and loves to knit or make crafts. Embrace all of those "odd" little things that make her who she is. In fact, those are probably all of the little things you adore about her.

10. Admit When You're Wrong: It's like the old saying goes "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?" Say you're sorry, it's worth it.

11. Watch Her Favourite Film: So she watches The Vow too much, you're probably sick of hearing it but if you watch it with her voluntarily, you just might find yourself in one of those romantic situations she's always watching in the movies.

12. Go The Extra Mile: There are a bunch of little things you can do each day to show her how much you care. Walk her home or surprise her with lunch at work. Do little things every day that go above what she was expecting and she'll be completely swept off her feet.

13. Whisper Sweet Nothings: Lean in close and whisper something sweet to her. Tell her how beautiful she is or how much you love her. She'll love the intimate moment between you two.

14. Smile At Her: One of the quickest ways to grab her attention is by making eye contact and smiling. Extra points if you wink too.

15. Let Her Know You're Smitten: Women want to know their wanted and that their man is always eager to see her. You will make her happy by showing her that she is your every happiness

Tribute to Mandela

Mandela, judging from all the descriptions, was clearly a great person, a hero, a role model. Many of the tributes are about his character, his moral standing. Typically it is said that he was a superb reconciler, largely because he was so good at forgiving. These virtues are associated with his patience and his ability to empathize with his opponents. This side of his character is shared by many others. 

He combined this with a strong, determined commitment to the cause he believed in. Of course the tributes would not have been so glowing if his cause had been contentious; but today, even the British Conservative Party, which in the past did so much to condemn him as a terrorist, accepts that his cause was a morally good one.His humility could be seen for itself – for example in the way he submitted to the divorce court.

Others may reconcile and forgive, but rarely does someone with so much cause to be bitter and angry, so many memories of cruelty and mistreatment, put aside all desire for revenge and work so effectively for reconciliation and the common good.To achieve such virtues in such difficult circumstances does not come easily.

Finally laid to rest. It now left to us..

This restores some faith in humanity

When everyone around you behaves less humane each time you meet them, you wonder if everyone is going to catch the anti-humane virus.

Movies, musics, society and many more mediums are used to spread this virus!

However, seeing this sends some rays of hope into your heart, and you might say "there are some people immune to this virus".

Remain Friends in your Relationship

People in general don't know the definition of friends. It's not something you turn on and off. Of course you get mad and have disagreements but you don't be a friend only when its convenient for you, no. Friends are known when the going gets though and life's storms seem to be directed only at you. 

In intimate relationships, everyone knows you need to be friends first; that is the foundation of genuine relationship. The most common advice at wedding has always been "the two couple should remain best of friends". Having said and know this, the question then is, "are the two of you genuine friends?" 

Some people often think its a bad idea to go into a deeper relationship with a long time friend. On the other hand, that same friend can read your emotions, interests, and knows your downsides. A true friend can predict your reaction to an action and would be better off some else that would innocently but frequently press your buttons. 

Be the friend you want the other person to be to you. Remaining friends is indeed the best way to keep a relationship. The way your friendship turns out is the way your relationship would pan out too.

Sometimes...

12 SIGNS IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON FROM A RELATIONSHIP

1.       When you live in past memories more than the present. If the story you tell in recent times have changed for worse and that makes you resort to memories, then you have to wake up and enjoy the present.  Only the dead lives in the past.

2.       When the relationship brings more pain than joy. If there is so much discord and aches, to the extent that you can’t remember the recent time you were happy because of your relationship; you need stop hurting yourself.

3.       When he/she expects you to change. Someone expecting you to change is simply not happy to have the present ‘you’. Relationships aren’t "compulsory rehabs".  

4.       When you stay on expecting he/she will change. If you realize you keep hoping, waiting and praying for your partner to change, it’s like you are waiting for a dead flower in your flower vase to blossom again. You can't change people. Only people can change themselves.

5.       When you keep justifying his/her actions to yourself. This is a pitiful state because not only are you devaluing yourself, you are destroying your self-esteem hereby causing psychological damage on yourself.

6.       When he/she is causing you emotional/physical/verbal hurt. Relationships should bring happiness and joy not inflicting pain (except you are a masachist). This shouldn’t and mustn’t be.

7.       When the same situation or issue reoccurs even though you tried addressing it. A partner who makes the same mistake over and over is simply taking advantage of you because that mistake isn’t a mistake but an intentional spite.

8.       When he/she puts little to no effort in the relationship. Whoever dearly wants something would make much effort to acquire it and maintain it. If your partner puts effort to get and maintain cars, house, business/career, sport fun, fashion and other friends, why not the relationship?

9.       When your fundamental values and beliefs are different. This should be one of the first checks before going into a mature, long lasting relationship. When the basic values differ, it’s like the foundation has been wrongly set and you know the building can’t stand.

10.   When the relationship holds you back; hence preventing you from growing as individuals. Relationship should promote and propel you, not pull you back from personal growth and development.

11.   When you stay on expecting things to get better. If you keep expecting things to get better for too long and it hasn’t, it could be because the two of you are wrongly paired.

12.   When neither of you feels the same way about each other. It is important for the ‘feelings’ of the two people in a relationship to be mutual and on same page. Thus promoting understanding and cordiality. If not, fix it either by talking about it or getting someone who is.

Sometimes, dumping it all and opening a new page is the best thing you can and should do. Take good caution while deciding and ensure these ‘pre-break up’ signs you noticed aren’t caused by legitimate reasons which in effect could make them invalid.

N.B. This is for unmarried couples only. Takes more than these to leave a someone you married.

6 Ways Ladies turn OFF Their Man

 

1. Sealing up your thoughts and instincts: Some women avoid communicating and expressing their feelings and thoughts. They expecting men to read their minds and guess their thoughts, which is not always possible. And when they fail they receive the cold shoulder for not playing the guessing game right. Nothing is more annoying for men then a woman who will just not say what she wants but expect you to read the 'signs'.

2. Assuming he knows your playbook: Another thing that really gets to men is some women assuming that men know what they want them to do. Saying one thing and doing just the opposite just confuses things even more for men. So, play it straight and just speak up, it leaves no room for miscommunication or misunderstandings.

3. Playing the 'spot the error' game: Some women equate men with being dumb, and that gets to men eventually...with time. Everyone makes mistakes, therefore, there is no need to constantly rub it in. It only makes you a nag when you are persistent on mistakes and can be really annoying.

4. Smothering him with too much attention: You need to remember that your guy has a mother and there is no need for you to play "mother superior". The key word here is "TOO" much attention; not saying you should give zero attention - else you'll lose him.

It's okay to comfort and be there for him, don't treat him like a child and smother to such an extent that it starts bugging him. You call him baby doesn't mean he is literally one.

 

5. Sharing too much information: Most men are not always comfortable talking about their problems, unlike some women who would go overboard sharing every minute detail with everyone in sight. Learn to exercise caution, and don't overshare. Learn to keep things to yourself at times, especially something that someone else shared with you in private. It will build trust and also encourage the guy to open up more.
Also, if you have just got to know the guy, there is no need to share every little detail with him. Learn to keep somethings to yourself and share only what is necessary.

 

6. Planning the future way ahead of time: Planning ahead is good and smart but learn to also live in the moment. While planning what to do on your birthday is okay, planning what you will do in your 50th anniversary while you are still dating will only freak the guy out. Learn to take small steps and enjoy the moment rather that fastfoward with an over active imagination. It would only leave your partner confused and spooked.