Long, Open-ended but Worthless Relationships

In these modern days, excessively long and directionless relationships frequently have disaster written all over them. Many erroneously think this type of relationship guarantees a promising future but I’m sorry to bust that joy bubble. ‘Long, open-ended’ relationships haven’t turned out to lead to a lasting union and in most cases. It has proven to cause lethal emotional and psychological damage. It is a common practice to be in an ‘intimate’ relationship with someone, frequently tagged boyfriend-girlfriend, and though the relationship goes on for a long time, it still turns out conceptually futureless because at the end when either thinks of settling down for a life time, then there often comes a “shocker”.

To be clear, what type of relationships am I referring to as “long, open-ended relationships”? These are pre-marital relationships without defined primary motive or any laid out classification and expectations. They basically start with “let’s see where it takes us” and they keep going on and on. 

When two people begin a relationship without clearly understanding the purpose, intent and content of the bond between them, that chapter of relationship is next to a “superfluous association”. It is usually been influenced by average societal norms around them – in other words, they are following the crowd. The basic reason for establishing a relationship, what should be shared and the boundaries not to be crossed has to be known.

Some long relationships overtime result to boredom and reluctance to break such relationships most definitely has the propensity of breeding infidelity.  

More often than not, at the end of many months or years, the relationship is often broken off for absurd reasons. In this type of relationship, all the trust, unity, submission and honesty that are shared eventually leads to sexual defencelessness and thanatophobia – fear of the unknown. After that relationship is broken, the residual emotional and psychological vulnerability makes them unconsciously reluctant to dive into such deep relationship again. 

Relationships take much work, understanding, patience and perseverance. Thus, staying with a partner for years isn’t going to be all roses; there would be misunderstandings and sacrifices. Therefore, when a relationship is running into years, first, here should be a picture-able, foreseeable future ahead affirming the partners aren’t dummies holding on for nothing and secondly would also keep them fighting on. 

It is understandable that the compatibility between two people and the length of the Pre-marital relationship conceived cannot be forecasted in most cases, however, when a relationship grows longer turning into two years and more, it is imperative both partners sit to come up with a prospective plan based on what they want from each other.