Pursuit of social status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship let alone get married to anyone. If the forces pushing you towards your partner are those, what happens when you have all that? The marriage becomes pointless to you.
Deciding to marry someone?? Then he/she should have all of these.
WHAT KEEPS A MARRIAGE STRONG are:
1. TRUST: From past experiences, how trustworthy has your partner been? Is he/she someone you can trust and can trust you?
2. COMMUNICATION: How much of self-expression transits between the two of you? How easy has it been for you to talk with him/her and do you regret it after you share your mind?
3. INTIMACY: Are you two physically together but you two feel a mile apart? Is there any emotional familiarity when talking or even just standing with him/her?
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR: Is there a unique attribute that makes you smile, wonder and ponder all at once when you have a reflection of him or her?
5. SHARING TASKS: Does he/she give a hand in times when there are duties to be done however hard or easy it is? When you are very active, how involved does he/she get around chores let alone when you’re weak.
6. DAILY EXCHANGES: How often do you share call or love to send notes (texts) to him/her? How important does he/she take the sharing of a meal, activity, hug, touch etc. with you?
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS: How interested is he/she in the things that are important and exciting to you?
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE: Do you give each other breathing space or you suffocate each other with your presence?
9. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT: Does his/her actions send reassurance to your psychology making you feel rest assured?
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
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