I laid back in bed last night as I listen to the radio. It seemed perfectly coincidental a call in show about ‘adultery’ was just about to begin. I wouldn’t say it wasn’t. It was quite educative listening to people’s opinions about it. I sat back as the host presented cases of what ifs and what not’s.
“What is adultery?” she started with, and this was her first definition. Quoting the Free Dictionary, adultery is ‘voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse’. She thereafter added lots of bible verses I couldn’t keep up with. She (the radio program host) didn’t fail to cite the portion where Jesus said “But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart”.
Quite frankly, from my own perspective, adultery has always sounded like a bible terminology. If I dare go down that path thinking, means the ‘thou shalt not commit adultery’ brain buzzer God commanded the Israelites which is still been reckoned and believed has been in existence for over 5,000 years. Wow!!
Let’s come back to 2013, do people consider “lusting in the heart” as adultery? This brings to mind the movie “Why Did I Get Married Too”. Particularly where Tyler Perry’s wife (in the movie) had more than just a crush on a lawyer colleague and she from that moment ‘lusted after him in her heart’ though they (she and the lawyer colleague) had no ‘sexual intercourse’. All they did was meet in restaurants, sen flowers and exchanged messages but her husband noticed from the very first day because she had this ‘different glow’. After he (Tyler Perry) was feed up, he confronted her while she was carefully picking out her dress for the next day – because she was going to meet her colleague. Tyler was pissed, at least according to the script- just as most men would have been if they were in that position. So, was Jesus hitting the spot when he expounded ‘heart lusts’ as adultery?
These modern days, adultery has been rebranded to have different names; most common of them is ‘cheating’. Around you, how often do you hear and see people ‘cheat’ their partners? I’m sure it’s quite a lot. Some have even legitimatize cheating by declaring their relationship/marriage to be an open relationship – where each partner has right to “commit adultery” with other people. Is it satisfactory because the arrangement sounds contractually logical and the right goes across the board? I really doubt. Why? A marriage has we have grown to know is between two persons, not three, four or half of the world.
What if the partner is “in any way unfit” to meet sexual obligations, is adultery at that point allowed? Correct me if I’m wrong, isn’t marriage for better and for worse, in sickness and in health? How worse could it be?
No matter what the word on the street is or how people have rubbished the concept of marriage, marriage has and IS always a divine contract between two, for lifetime, through the rough and smooth, to be held up at various moods and (for your good) should grow in affection and commitment.
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