You Should Correct your Prejudice Against LOVE before Dating

Many people have usable relationships because of a pre-existing prejudice against love. Relationships have little or no weight because they feel no one can be trusted due to an experience from a powerful figure. 

Suppose a girl is raised by her mother in a single parent family, where she unconsciously was made to accept many negative ideas about her estranged father. As she grows, she is likely to have this in her mind that men are not faithful and she always need to guard her individuality. Irrespective of what is the truth about her father or the fact about men, she has to enter a love relationship with a neutral mind, never a predisposed or “affected‟ mind. A pre-inclined mind shall hamper her relationship with her man. Therefore, she shall have to unlearn her “prejudices‟ before she opts to have her own love life.

This preparation and ultimate readiness is crucial for success in love. In love, unlearning is always a better virtue than learning.

There are two ways of arriving at a blank or value-neutral mind.

One is you are born with. This is good but not desirable as it is animalistic and does not have a sense of distinction between different other levels of consciousness. Its sense of righteousness is very intuitive, confined to very restrictive instinctive definition of survival.

The other is a mind, which has been made blank by shedding, unlearning and unwinding the mind off all unconsciously acquired cultural elements of the consciousness and this is desirable as this mind has reached this stage after experiencing all shades of consciousness and consciously choosing to have a blank one, which is truly objective.

Smiles and Laughter's role in LOVE

When you smile at another person they will almost always return the smile, which causes positive feelings in both you and them, because of cause and effect. Studies prove that most encounters will run more smoothly, last longer, have more positive outcomes and dramatically improve relationships when you make a point of regularly smiling and laughing to the point where it becomes a habit.

Simply put, the more he can make her laugh, the more attractive she will find him. This is because the ability to make others laugh is perceived as a dominant trait and women prefer dominant males, while males prefer subordinate females.
Studies show that women lough at men they're attracted to, and men are attracted to women who laugh at them

Evidence shows conclusively that smiles and laughter build the immune system, defend the body against illness and disease, medicate the body, sell ideas, teach better, attract more friends and extend life.

Humour heals.

Hard Relationships can Survive

Relationships are not always rosy. You may have some bitter moons. There are several situations in relationship that you can’t even describe in writing. Relationships can be confusing at times.

Lots of relationships collapse during the harsh seasons of building a family. But most relationships that are meant to be and diligently guarded last. Not everyone gives up. Not every relationship splits. They are strong. I believe yours is (can be) too! Strong Relationships have ingredients.

Consistent Communication, Patience, Faithfulness, Selflessness, Cooperation, Forgiveness, Respect, Understanding and consideration, Gratefulness, Contentment, Positive thinking and anticipation for a coexisting future.

These among others make up a promising relationship. Now that you them, go have a take at happy relationship.

Your self-respect and what you post.

There is surely a relationship between how people relate with and how they perceive you esteem yourself. More often than not, the pictures you post, things you say and how you say things not forgetting the words you use all determine how people treat and relate to you. For many people, they learn this or rather accept this life lesson years after they've refused to acknowledge the severity. Education is a series of lessons with the greatest for the last...and life is the learning institution. When would you learn yours?

The Cultured lady

“Hey lady!” This is the way every average woman wants to be addressed. The matured female population often want to be addressed and rightly treated by the opposite sex but how many are ready to do those things that will “command” the respect and conduct from them? These days, how many women are knowledgeable when it comes to simple etiquette?

 

Simple etiquette aren’t about good cloths and makeups, neither is it expensive bags and shoes. You may wear the most expensive designer and still be the object of mockery. You aren’t a lady because you have good cash in the bank to command undependability, neither can been married to the richest man in town do the magic.

 

Being a lady is more about your carriage; how you sit, walk, stand, talk, look, laugh, choice of dressing, respond to incidents, interact with others, and so on. Let’s have a closer look.

• A lady does not fight or exchange words in public. It is so shameful when decently dressed ladies exchange words in public and, in some cases step into the madness of fighting.

• A lady eats honorably in public gatherings; and doesn’t target the “over flows” at parties. You think people don’t see you but your name is all over the place and that has become your trade-mark. Men notice you and mark you as “anything for the belly…with money/food and I’ve got her”.
• A lady knows how to fix breakfast, lunch, and dinner for family and friends; she spends less on restaurants. No matter how greatly the modern world is trying to change this…it remains a bitter truth.
• A lady doesn’t go vulgar; she knows what not to say. Some women are now worse than hoodlums and thugs when it comes to the dirty words pouring out of their mouths. The senseless ways and words used in greeting…all in the name of informality. It doesn’t stop there, women now nickname themselves which plainly points them to be indecent ill-mannered females.
• A lady doesn’t get involved in illegal transacts; either for association or money. Drugs, human trafficking, prostitution or call-girls aren’t for ladies…they are just disgrace to womanhood.
• A lady cultures the best habits like brushing last thing at night as a must and gets her man to imbibe the tradition.
• A lady dances, but never like a maniac or psychiatric patient. When it comes to alcohol or smoking…you know that’s a stretch.
• A lady treats her body specially and so doesn’t open her legs to every Tom, Dick, and Harry. A lady never sells her body for better grades, contracts or employment opportunity.
• A lady wipes gently, with wet wipes, her private part after urination. How many women know what it means to have wipes in their handbags? Most women now bother more about designer makeup but never about hygienic body care.
• A lady dress and courteously flaunts her good curves without exposing what should be covered. She wears what accentuates her body and beauty without selling herself cheap.
• A lady uses her makeup to enhance her beauty not look like a masquerade or appear like a work of art. A lady further knows better than to bleach.
• A lady knows her weaves needs to be well kept and free from smelling so as not to suffocate her man.
• A lady surely doesn’t wear dirty underwear. She prefers cotton for long days because they help her breath well and avoid smelling.
• Lady and conspicuous tattoos don’t go together….not even in poetry. You don’t see tattoos on royals!
• A lady doesn’t try to feign wealth…courtesy, cherished virtues and humility are her flaunted wealth. She’s never ashamed of her background and won’t change it to please men/society.

Long goes the traits of lady etiquette. Last line is…the feminine features on your body do not make you a lady…neither would you find an ill-mannered lady. The name lady is reserved for the well-mannered females.

Life's backward pull